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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I have sent a message before but I had no response. I am writing again as I have been talking with some astrologers on www.astroadvice.com - they have been very kind and helpful. What I am curious is if you can see me having children sometime next year? I am having surgery in the new year, and that should correct my infertility problem, I realize that is a crazy thing to ask of you, but if you have any insights please let me know. Hope to hear from you and your reply will be greatly appreciated. DOB June 20 1971 around 5:30 pm (not positive about the time).
Thank You,
Jody
Hi Jody
Actually you are in a high cycle next year for pregnancy however you also have a chart that consists primarily of mutable signs and this is often an indication that there will be problems with getting pregnant the pregnancy itself or the children you have. With that in mind I must also mention that according to the time you were born luckily the Venus in your chart doesn't fall in an area that represent health however your natal Sun and Mercury do and they are not well aspected so chronic problems are likely to prevail. I believe however that these problems will have more to do with respiratory ailments, allergies, and blood etc - not pregnancy unless toxemia happens during pregnancy. As I mentioned earlier your chart is looking positive for pregnancy between April and August of next year. Your astrological fertility cycles are as follows.
Dec. 5/2005 at 11 PM until Dec. 9/2005 at 11 PM, Jan. 4/05 at 11 AM until Jan. 8/05 11 AM. Feb. 2/05 at 7 PM until Feb. 6/05 at 7 PM, Mar. 2/05 at 9 AM until Mar. 6/05 at 9 AM, Apr. 2/05 at 5 PM until Apr. 6/05 at 5 PM, May 2/05 at 9 AM until May 6/05 at 9 AM, June 1/05 at 3 AM until June 5/05 at 3 AM, July 1/05 at 1 AM until July 5/05 at 1 AM, July 30/05 at 7 PM until Aug. 3/05 at 7 PM, Aug. 29/05 at 3 PM until Sept. 2/05 at 3 PM, Sept. 28/05 at 11 AM until Oct. 2/05 at 11 AM, Oct. 28/05 at 11 AM until Nov. 1/05 at 11 AM, Nov. 27/05 at 5 PM until Dec. 1/05 at 5 PM.
You will be most fertile at the mid point of each time period but if you want to get the most out of these periods I suggest you and your husband book this time to make mad passionate love. A four-day party for two will certainly help you bond your relationship on several different levels. The most fertile months are May, June and August next year.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have two babies, a 36-month-old boy and a 20-month old girl. Their father has been an addiction of mine for four years. Just when I think I have finally made it to a place in my life where I can let go of him; I am pregnant again. I am torn between continuing in this one-sided relationship for the sake of our children, who adore him, while having another baby; or not; and disconnecting from him completely. I was born 7/6/65 at 5:30 EST and he was born 1/20/63 at 8:30p.m. PST. I fear that if I don?t walk away soon, I never will; but I feel like it is better the devil you know, then the devil you don?t know. I would really appreciate some guidance. I am afraid I won?t make the best decision for my two babies. He isn?t very kind to me; he is very abusive, distrustful and threatening. It has taken a long time and a lot of distance to break down, a little, his control of my emotions and feelings of self worth. I really need some ones insight into his character strengths and weaknesses and what is in store for our future.
Please respond
Dear Please respond
I can see your dilemma. I call this set up meeting your messiah. In other words you are so connected to this man you can?t help yourself and yet he is not good for you. The comparison was quite something, filled with love, hate, passion, deception, sorrow and so on. It is apparent that when he is feeling guilty, because he has done something that he probably shouldn?t, like cheats on you, he becomes abusive to cover it up. It is important that you don?t raise your children in this setting or they will grow up thinking that this is the way people should treat one another. I do not believe that your love is one-sided but I do believe that this man is not good for you. You are coming into a period that will be even more difficult where relationships are concerned. You can use this period to take further abuse from him or you can use this period to get out on your own with your children and start a new life. Neither will be easy but the later will certainly lead to a better future for you and your children. Opportunities for you to meet someone else are apparent and I believe you should do just that. It will help you forget about your abusive partner. Your chart also indicates that you are not likely to be with just one partner throughout your life. There is also evidence in your chart that you do attract men who will try to control and confine you. I suggest that you have an astrological evaluation done prior to giving your heart to the next man you want to become intimate with. Build on friendship first and you?ll stand a better chance of developing a long lasting union. You are coming into a high cycle where work and money are concerned. I feel confident that if you put your energy into your work, your children, your new home and meeting new friends and lovers you will find that your life will unfold quite nicely as we go into the year 2001. It sometimes helps to make a list of all the reasons that you feel that you should not be with your ex. Like the things he brings out in you that you don?t like and the things he does that you can?t live with. Every time he tries to contact you or you want to contact him pull out your list and read it just to remind yourself why you left him.
Eugenia
