We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have written once with no response I know you are a very busy person and God bless you but I need your help if you can. About four years ago I was working for this accounting firm and one day I saw a new co-worker and I fell hard I mean the moon and stars the WORKS!! remind you I'm a married woman but I couldn't stop thinking about him and at the time I was going through some difficult times in my marriage. Me and this guy flirted a lot but didn't take it any further but I was the one who ended up hurt and confused because I had strong feelings for him. I just want to know why did this happen to me because at the time I wasn't looking for this and after all this time I still have him on my mind. I was born November 5, 1963 at 9:45 a.m. He was born on March 15, 1963 time unknown and my husband was born on October 12, 1966 time unknown. I want to know was this a silly infatuation or was I in love with this man. I appreciate any answer you can give me.
Scorpio torn
Dear Scorpio torn
It is obvious why you were attracted to your Pisces friend and why your marriage wasn't doing too well. You and your husband didn't have a bad comparison however it did lack substance. It is almost as if you just have nothing in common putting a strain on the relationship. The comparison with your Pisces friend connected on a lot more levels however there was also a major sign of sorrow and this is usually an indication that it won't work or that it will be hurtful. Your chart indicates that you have been going through your own turmoil that has resulted in some depression and anxiety at work as well as with your fellow co-workers. You have also been overreacting where your relationships are concerned resulting in your most recent infatuation. You are in a high cycle regarding love and secret affairs and will continue to be on and off over this next year. I suggest that you tread carefully. It is never wise to start a relationship if you are still attached to someone else. Your marriage is coming into a make it or break it period and it will be important that you reevaluate what you really want out of life. Your comparison with your husband although it lacks on some levels is workable if you communicate and find some common ground. It won't be the most passionate or exciting but it can work. The relationship with your Pisces will probably bring you more sorrow but it will be more exciting and volatile. You are walking a fine line, if you find yourself pursuing your Pisces once again or you discover that you are becoming infatuated with other men as well you should get some counseling that will help you sort through your problems.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I'm a Pisces born February 22, 1964 at 4:30 am, 40 years old and never married and I just met a wonderful man who wants to have children, and might I add, right away. He says we don't have much time since we are both older. He is a Capricorn born in the Philippines Dec 29, 1964 and I admire the way he takes charge, but I was actually leaning towards not having children. The whole concept frightens me, and I am getting older and I am such a Pisces, flitting from thing to thing and never really accomplishing any one concrete direction, fairly successful in my own right, but wonder how I ever am, since I tend to overextend myself and do way too many things at once. I long for someone to help me take charge of my life, simplify it, and make it more relaxed, but I wonder if I am drawn towards him for his steadiness and clarity of direction, his responsibility, his success, and if I choose to be with him, I may end up in a worse situation (overextended, more complicated, less peace and less focus). At 40 I still don't feel I have any clear direction. But if I had to say what I really wanted to do with myself, it would be get up late, jog around the lake, work for a few hours, drive around, read a book, chat with some friends, and walk by the beach. I don't know if having a family would be high on that list, and I think it would just be to satisfy his desire to have a family. But then again, if I don't have a child I wonder if I would regret it when I am older, and maybe it might be nice to choose a successful responsible man and start a family instead of drifting around with the romantic irresponsible men I normally am drawn towards. What do you think?
Pisces
Dear Pisces
I believe you are over-reacting. Having a baby shouldn't make or break a relationship if you truly love one another. The comparison between you and your Capricorn man was okay but it did show some signs of deception and confusion. I believe you need to communicate more about what you both want out of life. Honesty reigns supreme so you had better start talking and if you both aren't on the same page move on. You are in a high cycle regarding love and meeting potential partners or having someone you used to care about come back into your life. You owe it to yourself to get to the bottom of whether or not you want to settle down with your Capricorn friend or set both of you free so that you can meet new people.
Where work and how you earn your living are concerned you are coming into a much higher cycle beginning the last quarter of this year and throughout next year and it is important that you position yourself so that you can take advantage of the opportunities that come along. Your chart indicates that you are confused. Much of your confusion is due to the fact that you were born with your natal Mercury adversely positioned to your natal Neptune. This causes self-deception especially when it comes to your personal likes and dislikes, how well you can do in society and professionally as well as how you relate to both business and emotional partners.
It may be time to reevaluate who you are, what you want and where you see yourself in ten years. If it isn't taking care of the kids and a husband - move on now.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I'm not trying to complain about my life but I really don't know what to do.
My unemployed dad drinks everyday and my poor mom is working as a domestic maid. I hate my dad. I am not studying well and always get poor results. I don't want to do anything. I think everyone dislikes me but I don't know why. I don't want to go out. Eugenia, will my life be going like this forever? I want to have some changes. How can I change my life? I was born January 16, 1986, at 12:45 PM.
Thanks for your advice...
Need to Know
Dear Need to Know
You are currently going through what astrologers refer to as your first half-life Saturn. This can be a depressing period for you. It is important that you take the time to decide what would really help you turn things around. You should talk to your mother and let her know how you feel. Ask her how she feels about your dad and if she is willing to get outside help through counseling. Chances are good that she isn't any happier then you are about your father's bad habits right now and perhaps if she goes for help he will as well. Regarding your education you should find it easier to focus on your work next year, for now you should ask your teachers for additional help if needed. You are bright and there is no reason why you can't turn things around if you want to. The most important thing to remember is that it is up to you to make the effort as well as the changes. Although you are experiencing uncertainties regarding your future it is apparent that with hard work and determination you will be able to succeed. You didn't mention when your mother and father were born so I am not able to tell you if either one of them are strong enough to do what's necessary in order to turn things around. Your best bet as I mentioned is to discuss your concerns with your mother and suggest that she try to get some help from a professional or even from relatives who may be able to talk some sense into your father.
Eugenia
