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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Not a Small Problem

Dear Eugenia,

I'm only 12 years old. Most adults wouldn't take this serious, but I hope you will. This is my problem. I have two friends. They are both guys. One is my best friend which I will refer to as M, and the other one I'm dating and I will refer to him as R. I kind of had something going on with M, but it was a friendly thing. M doesn't like R, so that makes it hard. Recently M called to tell me I would have to choose. I don't know whom to choose. My birth date and time is May 1, 1988 6:45 p.m. M's birth date is July 8 1988. R's birth date is August 19 1988. Unfortunately I don't have the birth times. I would really appreciate it if you reply to this letter. Thank you for taking your time to read this letter. I hope you give me a reply and advice or clues. Thank you once again!!!

Taurus

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Dear Taurus

Both M and R match up in similar ways to your chart. In the case of M he claims to be your friend but proceeds to put an ultimatum on you. A friend wouldn?t do that. Also in your comparison with M deceptiveness is present so it is obvious that he isn?t telling you how he really feels about you. Keep in mind that friends are there forever and lovers come and go. Regarding R the comparison shows sorrow, which means that it will probably end with one of you getting hurt. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and this generally means that you will attract plenty of romantic opportunities throughout your life. You will be coming into a high cycle next year that not only will bring such happenings but will also leave you open to unwanted pregnancy if you aren?t careful. You may be young but one thing can lead to another and before you know it you can find yourself in a whole lot of trouble. You are best to opt for friendship for now. If both M and R are willing to be friends with you, that?s great. If either tries to push for more it should be your cue to end the connection.

Eugenia

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Article: Delving too Deeply

Respected Eugenia,

I am a Sagittarius (born on 25th November, 1956 at 19hrs 50min. One and half months ago I came across a girl (about 24 yr. old) in the bus I travel regularly to reach my office. I am deeply attracted to her. I have come across a number of beautiful girls in my life but none could touch my heart like that. I took it as a minor disturbance and felt that I would be normal soon.

SHE SMILES AT ME AT THE FIRST LOOK OF THE DAY AND IGNORES ME THEREAFTER TILL NEXT DAY.

We get down from the bus at the same stop. She follows her own route as if no one is around to notice. Gradually, I developed a strong desire to talk to her and make a proposal for friendship (? I don't know). She could read my feelings through my eyes (I believe) and completely ignored me for a week but continued the usual practice of smile and ignore. I am just not getting any chance; I could not dare to talk to her. I BELIEVE I WOULD BE EASED OF THE MENTAL PRESSURE ONCE I TALK TO HER IRRESPECTIVE OF THE OUTCOME FROM THE DISCUSSION. One day, I followed her on getting down from the bus in order to know what is on her mind.

She walked at an unusually brisk pace on noticing me following her. After a while, she turned back, looked at me and almost ran away.

I COULD CLEARLY SEE FEAR IN HER FACE and thus the pressure further built upon in me.THE PROBELM IS THAT I find it impossible to keep my mind off of her. Since my efforts express myself and to know her ideas failed, I became restless and reckless towards my duties at office and at home. Though I know, it is extremely dangerous for my survival in this materialistic world, I find it impossible to concentrate on my work. My best efforts to keep her away from my mind have failed. I planned to take a different bus in order to avoid her but as the day falls on I fall back, become weak and take the same bus.

In Asia the relationship between opposite sexes are sensitive and restricted. I fear loss of prestige, social boycott and thrashing if I chase (?) her.

I am married. I am fortunate to have a very caring and beautiful wife.

We are blessed with two cute kids. I have no regrets at domestic life. Everything at home is cordial and I love my wife very much. That girl is married too and I don't know about her married life

AFTERALL WHY SHOULD SHE SMILE AT ME WHEN SHE DOES NOT LIKE TO TALK AND FEARS AS I APPROACH HER?

What is going to happen? I am going insane. Please advice ASTROLOGICALLY.

Going Insane

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Dear going Insane

Not knowing when this young female was born I can't tell you what she is thinking but by looking at your chart I do know how confused and mixed up you are right now. Your chart indicates that you are reading far too much into her smiles. You are going through a period that indicates sorrow where love and romance are concerned. It represents one-sided romantic infatuations and these can only lead to depression. You need to pull yourself together and get on with your life. If you follow your desires you will end up in trouble and that might not only be with her but with your family and the authorities as well. You must back off and focus on what's important, your wife, your children and your job.

Eugenia

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Article: Will He Respond?

Dear Eugenia,

I was born April 16, 1970 around 4:00 AM (give or take an hour). I have very deep feelings for a man born November 21, 1951. To make a long story short, I'm having a hard time moving on because I feel that he is my soul mate. A soul mate that life seems determined to keep from me...I know he felt something too and I believe he was as overwhelmed as I was by our connection. I know he had at least one hesitation - our age difference - he wasn't sure that he wanted to marry and become a father at his age. But I never asked for this...and I never implied it was a prerequisite for building a relationship together! In fact, he is the only man in the galaxy I'd give that up for without a second thought! Missing him the last couple of years is taking a toll on my health - emotionally and physically....If I wrote him in the next few weeks, do you think he'd be responsive, or has he truly let me go?

Breaking Heart

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Dear Breaking Heart

You can get in touch with him between now and May of next year and he may respond. However, I feel that the outcome will probably be the same. I know that you feel an emotional attachment toward this man but there is some deception and disillusionment with regard to both yours and his feelings. The comparison did lack in many areas and I believe you would be best to put your favorable transits for finding love to better use by looking for someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Libra, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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