We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm only 12 years old. Most adults wouldn't take this serious, but I hope you will. This is my problem. I have two friends. They are both guys. One is my best friend which I will refer to as M, and the other one I'm dating and I will refer to him as R. I kind of had something going on with M, but it was a friendly thing. M doesn't like R, so that makes it hard. Recently M called to tell me I would have to choose. I don't know whom to choose. My birth date and time is May 1, 1988 6:45 p.m. M's birth date is July 8 1988. R's birth date is August 19 1988. Unfortunately I don't have the birth times. I would really appreciate it if you reply to this letter. Thank you for taking your time to read this letter. I hope you give me a reply and advice or clues. Thank you once again!!!
Taurus
Dear Taurus
Both M and R match up in similar ways to your chart. In the case of M he claims to be your friend but proceeds to put an ultimatum on you. A friend wouldn?t do that. Also in your comparison with M deceptiveness is present so it is obvious that he isn?t telling you how he really feels about you. Keep in mind that friends are there forever and lovers come and go. Regarding R the comparison shows sorrow, which means that it will probably end with one of you getting hurt. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and this generally means that you will attract plenty of romantic opportunities throughout your life. You will be coming into a high cycle next year that not only will bring such happenings but will also leave you open to unwanted pregnancy if you aren?t careful. You may be young but one thing can lead to another and before you know it you can find yourself in a whole lot of trouble. You are best to opt for friendship for now. If both M and R are willing to be friends with you, that?s great. If either tries to push for more it should be your cue to end the connection.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My Daughter, December,14th,1986, and? my son, August,20th,1988, are tearing me up inside.? We have had a very busy year, confusing and some-what unsettling. Now that a few of my accomplishments have been met, they are no longer apart of my daily life.? They are both so young, and they both need to grow up so fast. I am really hurting inside I cry, when I am alone, which is quite often the past few weeks. I do not see why this is happening to us. They rebel against my rules, but go live with others and abide by their stricter rules!! What is going on? Where is this all going to lead? Eugenia, you helped me before, I need you again. I need to know what I am doing so wrong. It really is killing me inside; help me to understand these challenges, and obstacles. Why can't they grow and prosper in my care? I was born April 20, 1970, at 2 am.
Rejected Mom
Hi Rejected Mom
You have a good chart and a very capable chart in so many ways however where children are concerned (having them, raising them) you have a Neptune Mars opposition that stands in your way. This causes uncertainty, confusion, and anger and it unfortunately hooks up to the Moon in both your children?s charts negatively. This means that there is emotional deception and disillusionment when it comes to the way they relate to you and you to them.
Your chart denotes that right now you should be focusing on career and moving in a direction that will help you grow and prosper financially and professionally. Your home environment continues to show weakness, deception and plenty of confusion until the spring of 2009. This may make it difficult for you to do the job necessary in order to raise your children. Your children do have a rebellious nature and if someone else can make the difference or help to get them through their growing years without too many incidence it will be a blessing. Consider yourself lucky that you have someone who can handle your children. As for you ? I know it must hurt but you have to do what?s best for all of you and in this situation I believe that as long as you can let your children know that you love them and you work hard in order to build financially so that you can provide extra?s for them that you will be accomplishing the best that you can.
Eugenia
Hi there Eugenia,
My birth date is July 15, 1979, at 3:15 PM. I've been involved in a gay relationship with another guy (Birth date: 03 June 1977 05:15 PM) for the last 3 months. When we started our relationship he was living with his ex and he said it was a "living arrangement"...I believed him. Anyway during our relationship he would rarely visit me (we stay in different cities) and behave oddly if I ran into him in a public place with his ex around. Eventually he came clean with me (his friends forced him to tell the truth) and it turned out that he'd been having a relationship with the "ex" at the same time as me, and recently started seeing yet another guy. After all of this and around 2 weeks of deciding what to do, I called him and we broke it off. Leaving me very hurt and confused...He still says that he loves me and everything we had was real, but I'm at a loss to describe the pain this has caused me. Especially since him and the new guy are now fully in a relationship. I'd really like some advice on this situation, and if I should be foolish enough to still hope that one day we will get back together...
Thnx,
Broken
Dear Broken
You met your messiah, in other words you met someone who captured your heart and you had no power to pry yourself from him. The comparison was so powerful between you. This Gemini is just as bad for you as he is good. You can't however allow yourself to be played with this way. It isn't good for your self-esteem. You are too proud to forgive and you shouldn't forget. Playing sexual games can be dangerous and it's obvious that your Gemini friend doesn't care enough about any of his partners to be open and honest about his goings on. Unfortunately he probably will slip in and out of your life until you put a stop to it. I strongly suggest that you put up your guard and move on. You will be coming into a transit over the summer as well as during the first half of next year that does indicate that people from your past will want back into your life. You must remember that he will not change. He is not a lover who can be true to one person, let alone himself. If you go with him you will be risking your emotional and your physical well-being. During this transit, it can also mean that you will have some new people come into your life. However, if someone is preoccupying your life you aren't likely to have the opportunity to start a new relationship. I know that your Gemini friend is exciting and adventurous and that you have plenty of chemistry with him but that will not be enough in this case. Please consider making yourself a list of all the reasons why this person hurt you, and why you should not be together and carry it with you. When he tries to come back into your life read your notes. Hopefully you will find the strength to say no to him. You do match up to, and attract, the sign Gemini. Nonetheless Gemini's are not good for you in general due to your natal Neptune placement. You should consider a Leo or Aquarius for future relationships.
