We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
Here is my problem. My husband of 17 years (September 19,1959.) He has been visiting my ex-girlfriend, I tell him I don't like it, he's says he's doing nothing wrong that they are just friends and nothing more. This causes me pain and our marriage isn't that great these days. I was born Feb.15 1960 at 1:39pm. I'm wondering if I should stay with him or leave. We have two children and I really want to work this out and not feel so insecure. Thanks for any suggestions.
Third Wheel
Dear Third Wheel
Your comparison with your husband is adequate however you are moving into a period of time that could take the relationship either way. The unfortunate thing is that your husband has broken the code of ethics that two people usually have with one another and that is sticking together on issues that concern relatives and friends. If you and your girlfriend no longer see one another there must be a good reason for that and therefore he should stand behind your decision not to see her and do the same. You did not give me her birth data so it's difficult for me to be sure that nothing is going on between the two of them however according to his chart I do believe that he has been confused and questioning his life so he could be planning to make changes in his person life within the year. This is a difficult situation for you to be in and I feel that if you care about this man and your family that you suggest counseling or at least start talking about the options available if you want this marriage to work. You are both heading toward your second half-life Saturn, him this year and you next. This is usually a time when decisions and changes are made. As I mentioned the comparison is okay but as a couple you both need to work at this relationship much harder if you really want it to survive.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born in Taipei on 5th November 1973 between 1-3am. I am an engineer specialising in the research and development of programming, circuit design and etc. I have worked for two companies during the past five years. I am working for this company for one year. I feel that I am underpaid compared to the hard work I've contributed. When I have creative ideas or developed new products, my boss always tells me that they would be difficult to sell to the market.
I know some people through freelance jobs. Recently, A friend of mine plans to set up a new company and would like me to join him offering me a high salary. Although I would like to take the challenge, I am afraid that the new company is not established and not sure how long it will survive. If it does close down, then I have to start all over again. I cannot make a decision. Can you analysis for me according to my characters or career opportunities?
I always felt that I have the ability and should have better professional development, but I am afraid to quit the job I have for an unknown future. I visited your web site and one of paragraphs said that, someone like me would change jobs all the time. I am nearly 30 years old. If I always need to change jobs, will it affect my family life? Am I suitable to form business partnerships and start my own business? When will the timing be best for such a venture? Can you help me to answer these questions? Thank you.
In a dilemma
Dear In a dilemma
Your future looks bright. You have some wonderful ideas however to people like your current boss you are a little ahead of your time. You have a strong chart that indicates that you should be your own boss. Your friend that wants to start up his own business and hire you for big dollars should be considering making you a partner instead of an employee. You will eventually form your own business and probably take his clients with you if he doesn't offer you the right deal. As for your current position I feel that you will have problems with superiors, employers and authority figures for the next year. You will be in a high cycle regarding doing your own thing and starting your own business beginning next June. You should start putting things into place now. Continue to work for the company you are with or work for your friend for the time being however don't lose sight of your future expectation. Although it won't be easy going you can be successful if you push hard professionally over the course of the next four years. If you decide to get into a partnership that is fine however do check your partners out astrologically under business compatibility on the web site.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
How's this for a love triangle with an international flavor as we were all born in different countries, with two Cancers potentially battling it out? I'm a Cancer born July 9, 1963 at 11:30 am, married for many years to a Gemini man (b. 6/10/1955) who I fear might be seriously interested in another Cancer (someone in our social circle). I understand from mutual friends that he does flirt with this woman when I'm not around and that she is equally interested in him. I learned from one close friend in particular that the only thing stopping her at least is the fact that he is married. I'm hoping that this woman does respect my marriage, but I fear that I may be losing my Gemini man to a possible midlife crisis. It took some doing but I found out that her birthday is 7/5/1959. I hope this is enough information for you to chart us and give me some guidance. Please Eugenia, is my marriage about to come unglued?
Cancer in distress
Dear Cancer in distress
Your comparison with your husband is better than his comparison with the other Cancer in question. However he has been going through emotional confusion the past couple of years and this has probably contributed to his obvious midlife crisis. Generally your husband is a good guy and even though he is a Gemini and they can tend to wander as well as marry more than once in a life time I have to say with his natal Venus in the sign Taurus it does give him some stability. Your chart indicates that you may be overreacting to this whole situation and that could in fact push him away. There is also evidence that by the fall of this year you will be in a high cycle regarding love and winning back the heart of your husband should you actually have lost it to another. Your Cancer friend is not trustworthy when it comes to respecting your marriage. She may be born under the sign Cancer but unlike you she is predominantly a Leo with her natal Mercury, Venus, Mars and Uranus in that sign and her Moon positioned in Gemini therefore the challenge of the chase is probably what she is enjoying. Protect yourself, your heart and your marriage by being fun to be with, paying special attention to your husband and keeping a close watch on who he's with and what he does without being overbearing or smothering.
Eugenia
