We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Third Wheel

Hi Eugenia

Here is my problem. My husband of 17 years (September 19,1959.) He has been visiting my ex-girlfriend, I tell him I don't like it, he's says he's doing nothing wrong that they are just friends and nothing more. This causes me pain and our marriage isn't that great these days. I was born Feb.15 1960 at 1:39pm. I'm wondering if I should stay with him or leave. We have two children and I really want to work this out and not feel so insecure. Thanks for any suggestions.

Third Wheel

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Dear Third Wheel

Your comparison with your husband is adequate however you are moving into a period of time that could take the relationship either way. The unfortunate thing is that your husband has broken the code of ethics that two people usually have with one another and that is sticking together on issues that concern relatives and friends. If you and your girlfriend no longer see one another there must be a good reason for that and therefore he should stand behind your decision not to see her and do the same. You did not give me her birth data so it's difficult for me to be sure that nothing is going on between the two of them however according to his chart I do believe that he has been confused and questioning his life so he could be planning to make changes in his person life within the year. This is a difficult situation for you to be in and I feel that if you care about this man and your family that you suggest counseling or at least start talking about the options available if you want this marriage to work. You are both heading toward your second half-life Saturn, him this year and you next. This is usually a time when decisions and changes are made. As I mentioned the comparison is okay but as a couple you both need to work at this relationship much harder if you really want it to survive.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini

Hi Eugenia

MY HUSBAND HAS HAD AN AFFAIR. I need to know if it is over. I need to know if he plans to stay around, and if so, for how long. Is he just pacifying me till things blow-over. I need to know what else he is hiding. He is a Pisces born Feb 22 1957 and I am a Gemini born May 23 1957 at 1:30 am. I do not know his time of birth. I also need to know if I will be winning any money in the next three months. Will this money be enough to keep me going through an impending divorce?

Gemini

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Hi Gemini

I do not know how many years the two of you have managed to stay together but I must admit the comparison is not very good especially from a physical aspect. Although your husband is capable of having an affair and he is probably still is in the midst of it he doesn't have the type of chart that is any more inclined to do so than yours. You are both in a high cycle between now and the end of the summer of next year regarding love, relationships etc. This can mean that you will both find new partners or that you will try to get the relationship you have with one another back on track. I have seen plenty of couples that don't match up all that well astrologically have a long and lasting union so if you feel you have any love left for on another consider giving it one last try between now and the spring of next year. If it still isn't working move on. I suggest that you talk to your lawyer and gather all the information you require regarding your husbands assets so that you are prepared to win a good settlement. Your husband does keep secrets from you regarding what he is up to, how he feels and how much he is worth or makes. Your chart indicates that you do have some high cycles coming up during the later part of next year regarding coming into money however that could be a divorce settlement, insurance It's most likely that it will be one of the first five possibilities. Your chart does indicate that the dynamic of the situation in your home is changing this year and that your husband will be emotionally uncertain as to what he should do. The turn of the year will be particularly explosive for him. He does appear to show some abusive tendencies and you should not put yourself in harms way.

Eugenia

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Article: Slim Pickings

Dear Eugenia,

I was in a very intense, 4-month relationship that ended Feb, 2000. I am a Taurus/Gemini cusp, born May 21, 1958 @ 3:20 a.m. and he was born Sept. 13, 1957. He ended it in a very callous fashion, i.e. a phone call informing me it was over with no prior discussion, no fight, no indication whatsoever that anything was wrong. Needless to say I was devastated, not to mention shocked and betrayed beyond belief. He was/is the only man I have ever loved as there wasn't a single thing about him that I didn't like and I have NEVER found that before or since.

Being single at age 42 is no picnic. Pickings are slim simply because of logistics and what is available usually involves problems with kids, ex-wives and whatever other baggage they are bound to be carrying. So I find myself feeling totally hopeless that I will never find someone I cared for like I did him. I have been to the beach and back and know full well how bad the odds are.

So, before I toss in all my chips and waste no further effort into trying to meet someone, I thought I'd ask you if and when you foresee me ever finding happiness.

Ready to Give Up

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Dear Ready to Give Up

Don't throw in the towel just yet. There are opportunities to meet potential partners this year but you must get out and join organizations you believe in. It is important that you also take the time to grow and expand your horizons this year. You are headed toward your second half-life Saturn and it is time to reevaluate and make the necessary changes. To travel both mentally and physically will be enlightening and should lead you down unfamiliar avenues that will change your life. If you think back to when you were around the age of 14/15 you went through this same transit as a child, now you are going to experience similar events as an adult. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Libra and Sagittarius. You can also form relationships through travel, friends, relatives or taking courses that interest you.

Eugenia

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