We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Third Wheel

Hi Eugenia

Here is my problem. My husband of 17 years (September 19,1959.) He has been visiting my ex-girlfriend, I tell him I don't like it, he's says he's doing nothing wrong that they are just friends and nothing more. This causes me pain and our marriage isn't that great these days. I was born Feb.15 1960 at 1:39pm. I'm wondering if I should stay with him or leave. We have two children and I really want to work this out and not feel so insecure. Thanks for any suggestions.

Third Wheel

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Dear Third Wheel

Your comparison with your husband is adequate however you are moving into a period of time that could take the relationship either way. The unfortunate thing is that your husband has broken the code of ethics that two people usually have with one another and that is sticking together on issues that concern relatives and friends. If you and your girlfriend no longer see one another there must be a good reason for that and therefore he should stand behind your decision not to see her and do the same. You did not give me her birth data so it's difficult for me to be sure that nothing is going on between the two of them however according to his chart I do believe that he has been confused and questioning his life so he could be planning to make changes in his person life within the year. This is a difficult situation for you to be in and I feel that if you care about this man and your family that you suggest counseling or at least start talking about the options available if you want this marriage to work. You are both heading toward your second half-life Saturn, him this year and you next. This is usually a time when decisions and changes are made. As I mentioned the comparison is okay but as a couple you both need to work at this relationship much harder if you really want it to survive.

Eugenia

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Article: A Baby With A Bottle

Dear Eugenia,

I have written to you a few times. I hope you can tell me what to do. I lost my mom on Nov. 13, 2000. I am very lost and lonely. I don't want to do anything but sleep. I have lived with my 3 year-olds father for 4 years. We don't get along very well. He is drinking a lot and also thinks I should be over the death of my mom already. He has two healthy parents, so he doesn't know what it is like. My dad was only given 1 to 3 months to live last week, because of cancer. My boyfriend (if that is what you call him) says I can pull myself out of this or die right along with them. He is no support to me. I know he is seeing someone else, but at this point I don't care. I just need some advice on what to do with the way I feel about life. I was born May 26, 1963, at 12 PM.

LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!

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Dear LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!

I can tell by the transits moving through your personal houses in your chart that you are at a turning point in your life regarding your partner. I feel that it is time to start thinking about the best way to make yours and your child's life better. You did not submit the birth data of either your child or the man you're living with therefore I can not explain his lack of support. My guess is that he can't face death himself therefore he is not able to justify the kind of loss that you are experiencing. It hasn't been very long since your mother died and with your father in the shape that he is in it must be extremely painful for you. You do however for the sake of your child have to handle your situation bravely. You should probably consider making a move in a positive direction (possibly away from your boyfriend) late spring or you should start talking to him about his insensitivity and telling him you need greater support and love if he expects you and your child to stay with him. Your depression and grieving you are experiencing will end but for now it is what you need in order to get through this most difficult period in your life. You were born with your natal Moon in the sign Cancer and this makes it very hard for you to let go when it comes to family members who are so dear to you.

Eugenia

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Article: From Worried Mom

Hello Eugenia.

You have helped me in the past and I really appreciate what you do. This time I'm asking for and about my daughter. She was born 10/18/85 @3:44AM, and I love her with all my heart and soul, but something happened when she met up with this boy almost a year ago his month is April and year 1989, I'm not sure of the date the 13th sounds about right. He is a very very very smooth talker and has led my daughter down paths that I believe she never would have thought of. She started lying and sneaking around and quitting jobs or refusing them and lied to me about them.

So, due to this boy and his family she does not live at home with me anymore, left her fathers house and eventually ended up in a shelter. I've asked her and have even told her to come home with the condition that she work and the response I get is nothing. (My date of birth 7/14/63 7:30 PM.) She is now living with the boy's aunt that has a very big nose and mouth to match and has taken it upon herself to let me know what she thinks about me. (God only knows what my daughter has told this woman. My daughter has problems with her menstrual cycle and I have been very worried, as she had informed me that she "believes" the last one was in December. We have had a really major falling out and the aunt has informed me that my daughter is going to disown me... Eugenia, I don't know if my daughter is OK or if she's pregnant. She has told my younger daughter and stepdaughter that if she is pregnant the aunt is going to kick her out.

My heart is broken and is still breaking, she is very special in many ways and by rights should not have even been born, but she beat those odds. Please tell me what you see, for my eyes are very clouded with tears and fears.

God Speed Eugenia
Worried Mom

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Hi Worried Mom

Without your daughters boyfriends exact birth information it is difficult for me to tell you much about him and the relationship they have with one another. I can tell you that he falls in an area of her chart that deals with dead ends so it isn't likely to go the distance if that is what you are worrying about. However, I believe the real problem is that your daughter is going through astrological transits that are causing a great deal of deception, disillusionment and sorrow when it comes to dealing with friends and relatives. She is extremely confused and has been for some time. This is probably why she isn't in school continuing her education like she should be. There is a good chance that she is pregnant as such transits have been with her since the fall of last year and will continue to be until mid to late summer of this year. There is a great deal of uncertainty in her home both your home and the home she is currently residing in. This does not stabilize for a number of years and your only hope at this point will be to let her go with the intent that you will be there for her when the bottom falls out of her world. She can be explosive at times and this only leads me to believe that you aren't going to be able to talk any sense into her and if you try she will only become more distant. It is apparent that she has probably over-indulged the past several years and gotten into things that you wouldn't approve of. She was born with the major sign of sorrow and the highest form of creativity and although this can be bad and good at the same time depending on what she does with it she is the only one who can choose to take the route that will lead her in a positive direction. Unfortunately you cannot do that for her.

The comparison between you and your daughter is typical but it does show some sorrow based around her relationships with other people and how you react to them. The saying keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer is something you should consider. Had you brought this young man closer instead of trying to get your daughter

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