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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have two babies, a 36-month-old boy and a 20-month old girl. Their father has been an addiction of mine for four years. Just when I think I have finally made it to a place in my life where I can let go of him; I am pregnant again. I am torn between continuing in this one-sided relationship for the sake of our children, who adore him, while having another baby; or not; and disconnecting from him completely. I was born 7/6/65 at 5:30 EST and he was born 1/20/63 at 8:30p.m. PST. I fear that if I don?t walk away soon, I never will; but I feel like it is better the devil you know, then the devil you don?t know. I would really appreciate some guidance. I am afraid I won?t make the best decision for my two babies. He isn?t very kind to me; he is very abusive, distrustful and threatening. It has taken a long time and a lot of distance to break down, a little, his control of my emotions and feelings of self worth. I really need some ones insight into his character strengths and weaknesses and what is in store for our future.
Please respond
Dear Please respond
I can see your dilemma. I call this set up meeting your messiah. In other words you are so connected to this man you can?t help yourself and yet he is not good for you. The comparison was quite something, filled with love, hate, passion, deception, sorrow and so on. It is apparent that when he is feeling guilty, because he has done something that he probably shouldn?t, like cheats on you, he becomes abusive to cover it up. It is important that you don?t raise your children in this setting or they will grow up thinking that this is the way people should treat one another. I do not believe that your love is one-sided but I do believe that this man is not good for you. You are coming into a period that will be even more difficult where relationships are concerned. You can use this period to take further abuse from him or you can use this period to get out on your own with your children and start a new life. Neither will be easy but the later will certainly lead to a better future for you and your children. Opportunities for you to meet someone else are apparent and I believe you should do just that. It will help you forget about your abusive partner. Your chart also indicates that you are not likely to be with just one partner throughout your life. There is also evidence in your chart that you do attract men who will try to control and confine you. I suggest that you have an astrological evaluation done prior to giving your heart to the next man you want to become intimate with. Build on friendship first and you?ll stand a better chance of developing a long lasting union. You are coming into a high cycle where work and money are concerned. I feel confident that if you put your energy into your work, your children, your new home and meeting new friends and lovers you will find that your life will unfold quite nicely as we go into the year 2001. It sometimes helps to make a list of all the reasons that you feel that you should not be with your ex. Like the things he brings out in you that you don?t like and the things he does that you can?t live with. Every time he tries to contact you or you want to contact him pull out your list and read it just to remind yourself why you left him.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born September 1, 1960. I am feeling a very strong connection with a younger man that I work with. He was born February 4, 1972. Currently, our relationship is nothing more than professional and friendly, although he has indicated that he has strong feelings for me. While I would love to go for it with this guy, he is known as a "player" and I do not want to get burned. Is this strong connection that I feel nothing more than lust, or is he correct when he states that he feels together, we are so strong as a team, both personally and professionally. I do not want to make the wrong move and if all you see is lust between us, I will leave our relationship as it currently stands, professional and friendly.
Thank you.M.
Dear M
I cannot even start to tell you how big a mistake it would be for you to take this connection and try to turn it into something more. I don't have a problem with the age difference but I do have a problem with your comparison. It indicates that deception, disillusionment and yes a one sided infatuation is likely. If you were to follow through with your feelings you would not only hurt your reputation but your position as well. This man can be a player and he does have plenty of romantic opportunities. I can see why you are attracted to him and that he may very well be attracted to you too but it will end up being a secret affair and once your little escapade is discovered trouble will begin. Spare yourself the heartache and humiliation by taking a pass. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
