We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have two babies, a 36-month-old boy and a 20-month old girl. Their father has been an addiction of mine for four years. Just when I think I have finally made it to a place in my life where I can let go of him; I am pregnant again. I am torn between continuing in this one-sided relationship for the sake of our children, who adore him, while having another baby; or not; and disconnecting from him completely. I was born 7/6/65 at 5:30 EST and he was born 1/20/63 at 8:30p.m. PST. I fear that if I don?t walk away soon, I never will; but I feel like it is better the devil you know, then the devil you don?t know. I would really appreciate some guidance. I am afraid I won?t make the best decision for my two babies. He isn?t very kind to me; he is very abusive, distrustful and threatening. It has taken a long time and a lot of distance to break down, a little, his control of my emotions and feelings of self worth. I really need some ones insight into his character strengths and weaknesses and what is in store for our future.
Please respond
Dear Please respond
I can see your dilemma. I call this set up meeting your messiah. In other words you are so connected to this man you can?t help yourself and yet he is not good for you. The comparison was quite something, filled with love, hate, passion, deception, sorrow and so on. It is apparent that when he is feeling guilty, because he has done something that he probably shouldn?t, like cheats on you, he becomes abusive to cover it up. It is important that you don?t raise your children in this setting or they will grow up thinking that this is the way people should treat one another. I do not believe that your love is one-sided but I do believe that this man is not good for you. You are coming into a period that will be even more difficult where relationships are concerned. You can use this period to take further abuse from him or you can use this period to get out on your own with your children and start a new life. Neither will be easy but the later will certainly lead to a better future for you and your children. Opportunities for you to meet someone else are apparent and I believe you should do just that. It will help you forget about your abusive partner. Your chart also indicates that you are not likely to be with just one partner throughout your life. There is also evidence in your chart that you do attract men who will try to control and confine you. I suggest that you have an astrological evaluation done prior to giving your heart to the next man you want to become intimate with. Build on friendship first and you?ll stand a better chance of developing a long lasting union. You are coming into a high cycle where work and money are concerned. I feel confident that if you put your energy into your work, your children, your new home and meeting new friends and lovers you will find that your life will unfold quite nicely as we go into the year 2001. It sometimes helps to make a list of all the reasons that you feel that you should not be with your ex. Like the things he brings out in you that you don?t like and the things he does that you can?t live with. Every time he tries to contact you or you want to contact him pull out your list and read it just to remind yourself why you left him.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia!
Reluctantly, I must write you about matters of the heart. I am truly a contrarian Aquarian - I am going against the prevailing wisdom of almost every human I have encountered, and I am seeing someone who is considered in some circles to be unsavory, devious, shallow, self-absorbed etc....Now, this isn't the sad old story of a long-suffering girl who wants to change "her man". Who puts up with crap because she can't stand to be alone. No. I am a people-savvy person and I really do not think he deserves *most* of his negative publicity. And who wants someone completely uncontroversial and bland anyway? I was born January 28, 1974, at 11:50 PM and he January 23, 1966. So, what the heck do the stars have say about this coupling? And what does my long-term future hold? Will I have a farm, a hubby, some chickens and kids? Or will I be an eccentric old lady, alone with her cats? You rock Eugenia. You look fantastic as a blonde!
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius
Hate to disappoint you and agree with your friends but I do. The comparison shows evidence of deception and isn't even all that conducive to a good connection but there certainly is a physical bond and chemistry that is holding you. I call this kind of connection "meeting your Messiah" I have seen it many times and it is as if you can not help yourself regardless what anyone tells you. Don't feel bad it is very often the case that the person abducted by his or her Messiah is very bright, intelligent, even intuitive but when it comes to this kind of match up all ability to do what's best is gone. I hope you find the strength to distance yourself and move on as I do believe over the course of the time spent with this person you will lose self-esteem, confidence and probably everything else you like about yourself. Hopefully your friends are willing to stick around for however long it takes for you to see the light.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
How are you? I resigned from work three months ago. I did not want to look for a new job because I decided to set up my own boutique. During the preparation, I encountered many difficulties in financing and searching for shop location. I have already spent a large amount of money in the preparation and research stage. My family objects to my plans. They think that I am taking a risk, but I cannot stop at this point because I have invested quite a lot. Since the family is not rich, I don't know whether I should continue to fulfil my dream or not. Can you give me some advice? I was born October 20, 1973, at 12 PM.
Thank you.
Shopkeeper
Dear Shopkeeper
You do have a struggle ahead of you however the possibilities of success are evident. You will find that your hard work will start to pay off if you can maintain your position until May/June of next year. If this means holding down two jobs to do so I feel that it will be worth your while. Your other option will be to take on a partner however I feel that you may not find someone suitable who will be honest with you so if you can do it by yourself you should. Overspending and poor investments over the past three months show clearly in your chart and that will be the hardest thing to overcome but with a second job you should be able to survive. Do not expand when you do start to make money instead work with what you have for as long as possible before going into any more expense.
Eugenia
