We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am currently faced with a crisis situation, which involves my 16-year-old son. Two years ago he was accused of having sexually molesting his 3-year-old stepsister. He has insisted and maintained his innocence. I am a believer looking at reality and I know that there is a possibility he may have committed this act but evidence having been tested came back negative and the authorities have basically closed the case but now his stepmother has had a nervous breakdown and is undergoing psychiatric care. She has been working on this situation in her mind for two years now trying to figure out the truth that has basically greatly affected her mental and emotional health. I have been trying to keep myself on a balance trying to get facts and am absolutely not fooling myself that this couldn't possibly have happened and I would like to help my son in any way I can. My own lifestyle includes a twelve-step program, as I am a recovered alcoholic for just about ten years now. I have tried to detach to a certain extent and take it one 24 period at a time but I feel so bad for my son and everyone else I don't know what to do. If you have some advice that may help give me some semblance of serenity I would greatly welcome it. In the meantime I will continue to pray and meditate. I was born March 10, 1959, at 8:35 am.
With sincerest thanks
Heidi
Dear Heidi
I can see your struggle and the pain and endurance you have had to go through but I really need your son's and his stepmothers birth data to give you the answers that I believe you are looking for. As for you, I feel that you are putting way too much pressure on yourself. You can't account for everyone else. If you can supply me with the information I need I will try to accommodate you as I'm sure all my readers would like to know more about your situation. You are a strong woman who took a detour in life that was definitely a learning experience but the fact that you picked yourself up and took the high road is proof enough that you have what it takes to move forward and not let the dilemmas of those around you drag you down. The area in your chart that deals with children is undergoing changes right now and this probably has something to do with your eldest son however not knowing how many children you have or how many might be living with you I can't be sure. Your home environment and the area of your chart that deals with legal matters or getting help is in a high cycle until the end of the year so take advantage of this if possible. The changes coming your way I believe are good and with a little effort and focusing on yourself for a change much can be accomplished. Please send in the remainder of the data I require so that I may assist you further.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia...
I don't know whether you accept this kind of matter as well but it is quite important for me. These days I'm having weird dreams. Well, I should say scary dreams. I feel like I'm being cursed. I live in an apartment. In my dream, I was sitting in the living room. Suddenly, I looked at my terrace and I found out a cat was looking at me with a nasty face. As I was looking at the cat, she came over and bit my hand. I tried to scream but I couldn't make any sound. There were people in the living room but no one helped me. Another dream is... a cat was chasing me. I was riding a bike with my friend and she was following me. I was riding to where I used to live in my childhood. I ran and ran; after all I was the first one to win in the race. Yesterday, I had a dream about my teeth got stuck in the ice stone.Since I'm getting an interview in May, I care about these dreams because dreaming about teeth and cats are not good. Besides, cats are considered bad. Do you think these dreams are implying something? Can you tell by looking at my chart if there is a reason for me having these nightmares? I was born February 7, 1977, at 5:00 PM.
Upset
Dear Upset
Bad dreams are usually the result of going through stressful times. In your case your imagination is exaggerated. This can result in the nightmares that you are experiencing. You have a good chart and there is no reason why you should be worried or alarmed. Try to relax a little. You will do just fine as long as you focus on your goals and give yourself a chance to excel. Where your career is concerned things look pretty good. Educational pursuits you also show promise. Partnerships and relationships are in a high cycle as well. I think that you are being hard on yourself and that one of the things you should be doing is putting your creative imagination to work for you in a positive manner. Try writing lyrics, poetry or books and see if you can put your talents to work for you. Dreaming about cats and teeth can be forewarning you that obstacles will stand in your way. Prepare yourself well for your interview and you should not have to worry about its outcome. I believe that the stress that you are experiencing is due to uncertainty in your life. Once you have a better idea of your future direction you will probably not have the dreams any more. Just remember, preparation, good organization and planning your future will help you take advantage of all the favorable transits that you will be going through this year. Positive thoughts will lead to positive actions.
Eugenia
