We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have written to you many times in hopes of a response from you. I desperately need your advise on a situation that seems irresolvable to me. Firstly, I would like to say that you are a wonderfully gifted person and I enjoy your website very much, and I wish you continued success with your new T.V. show.
I am a Capricorn female (please do not include any birth information date, place or time of any of the people mentioned in this email, thank you). Born XXX. XX, XXXX, XX X:XX pm. I am involved with two people, a Leo male we will call Leo born XXX. XX, XXXX. I am very close to this person and I am very happy with him. I am also involved with a Cancer male, we will call Gerald. The Cancer's birthday is XXXX X, XXXX. What do you see in my relationships with these two men. My heart belongs to Leo, but I feel responsible toward Gerald. How do you see them with regards to how they feel about me. Also my Leo is involved with a crazy woman, born XXXX XX, XXXX. She is an extremely jealous and insecure person. What do you see in Leo and Crazy woman's relationship? Please Eugenia, I am desperate for your help in this and I look forward to any advise you can give me. I sometimes feel very trapped in my own fears and desperate for some solution to this confusion. Please help me.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I do not usually omit birth data because I believe that it is of interest especially for students of astrology. One of the best ways to learn the subject is to take the data, cast the chart and see if you come up with a similar answer to the one I have given. In your case however I am going to make an exception.
I can see your dilemma. You do match up to your Leo however when it comes right down to it your comparison with Gerald is actually a little bit better. Your relationship with Gerald may be tired and in need of some added spice of life but that is attainable as long as you rid yourself of the Leo in your life. Your Leo on the other hand, like it or not, matches up just as well if not better to his crazy woman whom I might add may not be so crazy if he were more trust worthy in his relationships. This Leo gets plenty of opportunities to flirt and so forth and he can be quite a woman's man. You are drawn to him for various reasons but I must admit there is some deception showing in your connection with him and I venture to say that is will lead to absolutely no good if you continue down this pathway. Your attraction to one another is physical and this is just not good enough. You will end up hurting two people that you are both well suited to if you continue to play this game. The crazy woman has just gone through two and a half years of suffering, limitations and depression and it is probably due to your playful way of dealing with her mate. Back off before you find yourself at a point of no return. I believe the end result will be a loss for you on all counts. Unfortunately according to what I see in the crazy woman's chart her Leo love is probably going to leave her or make a personal change in his life putting you in a position to turn your back on Gerald to be with your Leo love. Your Cancer, Gerald I believe has been in the dark and has trusted a little too much. His limitations ring out loud and clear especially after the end of May of this year. Times are changing for all of you and I fear that the end result may be you with your Leo leaving two shattered hearts by the wayside. The ironic picture is that I believe in time you and your Leo will discover that the grass really isn't greener on the other side of the moutain.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
In January of 97 I became romantically involved with my teacher (his birth date:Aug.19,1950). He is married (his wife born Aug.10,1955). He had assured me that there was no romantic involvement with her and that he loved me, that the only reason he didn't leave her was because of his child, that theirs was a "business relationship." I believed him and loved him deeply, but recently found out that he still was having relations occasionally with her. He said that all along his feelings had been conflicting, that he didn't want to give her up, so when I said I wanted fidelity, he dumped me. His wife told me she plans to "punish" him. I am hurting terribly because I still love him very much. It is also going to hurt my studies, because he won't allow me in his classes any more. He had also gotten me a job at one of the places where he works. The day he ended the relationship (because I "pushed" him too far, he said), May 3rd (this year), I was angry and said I wanted to quit that job, so he cancelled my involvement in a joint project we were working on, which hurt my students as well as myself. I feel so hurt I cry all the time and wish I could die. I wish I had never said anything, and that our relationship had continued. Now I feel like my whole life is falling apart, because everything I did revolved around him. I have been to the counselor at school; she has been sympathetic but has no suggestions. He calls me sometimes, he says because he is sorry he hurt me, but he offers me no hope. He said he still doesn't know how he feels about anything, that I should do nothing and let time work things out. But I feel like I need to make some decisions about my life. Can you please help me? I don't even know what question to ask you, but perhaps you have some ideas. Thank you for reading my letter. It feels better just to know that you have "listened."
Sincerely,
Teachers Pet
Dear Teachers Pet
What were you thinking? Your comparison with your philandering professor wasn't all that great, for that matter his comparison with his wife wasn't earth shattering either. You are both dealing with a man who is full of himself and very capable of having secret affairs with women who are vulnerable or na?ve enough to believe his dribble. You unfortunately have been going through a very rough couple of years where love and relationships are concerned. Although your chart does denote that you could have someone from your past waltz back into your life, I certainly hope that you have enough will power to say no this time around. You should feel sorry for this man and even sorrier for his wife, whom I must say has also gone through similar transits to you regarding her relationship. I must mention that your chart and his wife's have an uncanny resemblance. I know that you are confused, hurting and you just want to be happy but strength and control will be necessary. I think that the more you back away from this man, the more he will want to come closer. It's hard to control what's in your heart especially when you are as sensitive and loving as you are. You were looking for that white knight who could stimulate you mentally and physically and we all know how hard that is to find. Please try to put this relationship in perspective and move on with your life. You will be in a high cycle for love and romance in June and I would hate to see you waste it on this man. You deserve better and I know that if you get out and join groups or organizations that you believe in you will meet like-minded people who can turn your crank. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am writing to you about a family problem. My sister and I are the primary caretakers of our mother. My mother is disabled and has a variety of health problems. Her birthday is 8/30/1941 @ 4:30 p.m.
My problem is that ever since I was a young child we have had severe disagreements, fighting, etc. My birthday is 8/5/1975 @ 11:30 p.m. I try to be patient and understanding but our bad feelings have just grown worse with time. The pain and hurt is just getting to be too much. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with her more effectively and what I should keep in mind to have any kind of good relationship at all.
Thanx
Leo
Dear Leo
Although there is a small problem that shows up in your comparison that deals with honest communication regarding the way you both feel the overall picture doesn't appear to be that horrid. Yes you can argue and yes you are very different from one another but that doesn't mean that you can't get along. Your mother needs a bit of a wakeup call. She is a very strong Virgo and I believe that she can be a perfectionist. If that is the case nothing you ever do will be good enough or right. You must sit her down and tell her that you cannot live with or under those conditions. That you are trying to help her and if she won't allow you the decency to carry on as you please that you and your sister will have to find someone else to take care of her. Your mother is going through a very debilitating period over the course of the next two years and I believe that she is severely depressed. She recently experienced her second Saturn return and I believe that she has reevaluated her life and has decided that she isn't too happy with the way it unfolded. The fact that she is lashing out at you because of her own regrets is a shame but she is your mother and what she needs is honesty, love and to be put in her place.
Eugenia
