We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have had the same best friend for almost 6 years. She, born March 10, 1989, has been recently acting like she does not what be friends with me. She has made some new friends since we have entered Junior High School and has only been hanging around them. In the beginning of 8th grade one of her new friends asked her out and they began dating. She began ignoring me and our other friends more and more to hang out with him and his friends. When I confronted her, she said she didn't realize she had been acting differently and she told me she would try to stop. She hung out with me for about a week until she was back to canceling things that we had planned to do together because her boyfriend would be mad at her. She broke up with him awhile later and came to me to cry on my shoulder. For two weeks my other friends and I did things to make her feel better like go to the mall and stuff. After about two weeks her ex asked out someone else and his best friend asked out mine. She said yes and it started all over again. I told her how I felt yet again. Yesterday she broke up with her boyfriend. She hasn't come to me to be consoled. Instead she goes to her other friends. It hurts to see someone that you have shared a great friendship with snub you. I was wondering what I should do. She doesn't listen to me when I talk to her and she makes me feel selfish that I want her to start hanging out again. Is it selfish? She also gets embarrassed when she is seen with me by any of her new friends. Her friends are nice, but not the type that I hang out with. I thought that if I tried to make friends with them, than she might accept me more, but she just gets embarrassed when I am around. I was born May 12, 1989, at 5:25 pm. Help me please.
~Best Friendless
Dear ~Best Friendless
Your girlfriend has been going through a lot of changes since the spring of last year especially regarding her friendships, school and secret or behind the scenes activity. Her ideas concerning what she likes and does not like are changing and she is becoming more and more attracted to different types of people. As for you - you can't be whom she wants you to be in order to maintain the friendship. It just doesn't work that way. You must however protect yourself so that she doesn't use you whenever she feels insecure with her newfound friends. She may make a reversal by late summer or early fall of this year however don't be too willing to trust that she will not yo-yo you around again. As for you the fall indicates a far better time where friendships and school are concerned so look to expanding your own circle of friends but not at the expense of letting your grades drop. You have a lot going for you and you should focus on yourself your direction in life and spending time with friends who have the same interests as you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have dated. I have been engaged a few times but never married (I think I always took marriage too seriously -- and never could promise to do all that marriage entails). I had a loving relationship with a man who had a terminal illness, who died in '95. I have always kept the door open in my heart that I might find a life-long partner, but now I wonder: should I shut the door on this option? I'm not afraid of being alone. I am afraid of nurturing false hope in myself. I was born January 6, 1953, at 5:45 am.
Thank you.
Capricorn
Hi Capricorn
You should never close the door on love, romance, marriage, partnership etc. One of the reasons why you have gone the route but never crossed the line when it came to marriage is due to having your natal Uranus in an area of your chart that deals with relationships opposite your Sun in an area of your chart that deals with your personal outlook. This has probably caused you or your partners throughout life to back away or have a change of heart at the last minute. With transiting Saturn moving into that area of your chart there has never been a better time to find love and get serious then now. Also with your Moon in the sign Virgo it isn't unusual for you to find love or get into a serious relationship during the second half of life. In your case you are moving into a high cycle regarding love right now and you should be out meeting new people. This particular transit can also bring someone from your past back into your life so perhaps if there is someone you still think about you should readdress this relationship. In the past the timing was probably wrong with this person. This is a great year for you creatively, educationally and where growth is concerned. You should be expanding your circle of friends, getting involved in discussions or courses that will alter your philosophy, attitude, lifestyle and outlook. You are going through changes and that is part of the reason you are feeling somewhat concerned or restless about finding love or backing away from it completely. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, early Cancer, Virgo, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Hi. Eugenia!
I still don't know why I'm writing a letter again. It's embarrassing to tell people that I haven't really had any romantic relationship with anyone. I have never said, "I love you" to anyone so far. I missed many opportunities in the past. However, I am interested in an American guy right now. He was born on Oct 25, 1965. He is running his business and I'm running mine. I'm afraid that I might not have a chance to tell him my true feelings. Maybe we both have sort of a fantasy about one another. I will be visiting him this July. I really want to fall in love with him. I'm too tired of being single. What will our future be?
Because of my personality, I have missed several chances to be with him. Well, I'm afraid that we might have to face a lot of problems because our cultural backgrounds are different. I'm afraid that I would be hurt in the end. What are your thoughts? I was born November 7, 1969, at 4:10 PM.
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
I understand your dilemma but I do feel that your motives are questionable. The comparison is workable. I believe however that you are considering him because there is no one else in sight. Please back up a moment and think about what it is that you want in a partner. I can see that you have a physical attraction to one another and that he can offer you all sorts of opportunities. His Sun sign does fall in an area of your chart that deals with relationships and partnerships so it is possible. You are in a high romantic cycle this summer when you are visiting him but I want you to take it slowly and really give yourself as well as him a chance to get to know one another better. During this cycle you will also be open to other romantic connections. Don't rule out the possibility of meeting someone on your own turf with the same cultural background. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
