We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Sometime during the first half of February 1995 I met this man. His birth date is 4.4.1967. He was my supervisor; I was a phone sales associate. When I first saw him I disliked the way he looked and assumed I wouldn't care whatever his personality was, either. It turned out that he was a wonderful mentor, a really good boss and just naturally inclined at helping people out. I did very well on that job due to his excellent guidance, and I'm sure a lot of the people there, even though they didn't say anything to my face, thought that he was playing favorites. I didn't mind because I wanted to achieve much and get along with everybody at the same time, so my stance was basically a neutral one, which they had loved to call "being professional".
My confusion started when he began acting as if we were really close. In that place where men out number women in selling and dealing with auto parts, I didn't have difficulty eventually becoming one of the guys where handshakes, arm linking hugs, back pats (or slaps) and even shoulder holding were just normal, friendly ways of interacting so it wasn't an issue of unwanted advances or sexual harassment. What bothered me was that we couldn't seem to talk about ourselves except when it had to do with work. He was starting to grow on me, and during those times when he seemed to be making passes at me, I was delighted with it but didn't want to take him up on it, until he leveled with me on what his intentions were. I just couldn't allow it to sweep me off my feet because it didn't feel honest, and one thing I've always wanted more than anything else was to be in an equal relationship. We went on like this until he left the company to pursue other opportunities. Even though nothing officially intimate happened between us, I still felt really sad, as though a lover had left. I was depressed for a while, all the time thinking I was crazy and totally out of my head, that I didn't initiate things. What did it matter if you love a person yet you're both engaging in some sort of power play where it seemed like the affection was with held by omission?
The definite upside on the whole thing was that it prompted me to look for answers instead of letting it eat at me by becoming bitter. A lot of interesting things came up during my self-studies, but somehow I couldn't accept that it would've worked out nicely if only one of us had been up front to the other. Clearly he could've seen that I was focused on my work yet everybody had found me easy to talk to, to relate to, to connect to. It just didn't make any sense, partly because there were a lot of things that I didn't know about him, even though his actions spoke louder than words. It was strange too, that judging from what pathetic little I knew about him, I could feel that he was very familiar to me I couldn't help but think that past lives might be a valid concept. The chemistry and "magic" were all certainly there, but then again, I didn't want to think that his actions were spurred by those factors alone.
I know solidly now at this point that I'd throw caution to the winds and tell him what I feel about him if I was lucky enough to be given another chance at seeing him again. But since I'm not sure about it happening, I'm faced again with the task of finding an answer as to how to make my peace with the whole thing. Through sheer will I tried hard not to let it affect me so much as to disrupt the normal goings on in my life, and I'm proud to say I succeeded in doing so. I've talked to some people about it, but somehow I get the feeling that they don't really understand, and I don't blame them.
Astrology was one subject that really helped me make sense of it on my own. However, I've never gotten any insights from astrologers, except from interpretations I read in books. I was born March 24, 1973, at 4:04 PM. I hope my letter will be interesting enough to merit your attention and consideration. T
Dear Eugenia,
A few months ago, I could not get an ex-boy fiend out of my mind. It was his 30th Birthday coming up and I just could not stop thinking about him! I took it upon myself to write a letter to him just to say hello, as we had not spoken in over 5 years since I moved back home to Australia. I didn't know where he was (he lives in the US) so I sent the letter to his parent's address, which they forwarded to him. In the letter I said not to feel obligated to write back if he didn't want to etc. I knew he was married and wanted to respect that. He was the love of my life, the one that I still compare everyone else to. He was such an important influence on who I am.Two days ago, I received an email back from him. He was amazed and very happy to hear from me. He is divorced now, living with a new girlfriend in another state. We have sent a few e-mails back and forth over the past few days and I am stunned that we still know exactly what to say to make the other laugh and connect! We were the best of friends and I was equally as devastated when we split up for losing a lover and best friend.
My point is, have we come back into communication with each other for a reason? I always thought of him as my soul mate and have often said that if we had met in our late 20's, we would have been together for life. I am now 29. I am sure I am reading too much into it. Or am I? If not, it is really nice to be in touch again. What's happening here???
Kindest Regards
Kate
Dear Kate
It is too bad that you didn't include his date of birth. Without it I can't run a comparison in order to determine if you do belong together or not. I can tell you however that you are going through your Saturn return right now and this always makes you reevaluate your past. It can bring past partner back into your life especially if you didn't have proper closure the first time around. I suggest that you tread carefully because you also have transiting Saturn opposite your natal Neptune and this can mean that you or he are not being completely honest about your intentions, situation or feelings. Check out your compatibility with this man on the site before you proceed and if you do match up well I suggest that you move forward with caution. Ask questions and dig deep to find out where he has been and whom he is with. Truth will be the most important issue regarding your romantic future this year. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Respected Eugenia,
I am a Sagittarius (born on 25th November, 1956 at 19hrs 50min. One and half months ago I came across a girl (about 24 yr. old) in the bus I travel regularly to reach my office. I am deeply attracted to her. I have come across a number of beautiful girls in my life but none could touch my heart like that. I took it as a minor disturbance and felt that I would be normal soon.
SHE SMILES AT ME AT THE FIRST LOOK OF THE DAY AND IGNORES ME THEREAFTER TILL NEXT DAY.
We get down from the bus at the same stop. She follows her own route as if no one is around to notice. Gradually, I developed a strong desire to talk to her and make a proposal for friendship (? I don't know). She could read my feelings through my eyes (I believe) and completely ignored me for a week but continued the usual practice of smile and ignore. I am just not getting any chance; I could not dare to talk to her. I BELIEVE I WOULD BE EASED OF THE MENTAL PRESSURE ONCE I TALK TO HER IRRESPECTIVE OF THE OUTCOME FROM THE DISCUSSION. One day, I followed her on getting down from the bus in order to know what is on her mind.
She walked at an unusually brisk pace on noticing me following her. After a while, she turned back, looked at me and almost ran away.
I COULD CLEARLY SEE FEAR IN HER FACE and thus the pressure further built upon in me.THE PROBELM IS THAT I find it impossible to keep my mind off of her. Since my efforts express myself and to know her ideas failed, I became restless and reckless towards my duties at office and at home. Though I know, it is extremely dangerous for my survival in this materialistic world, I find it impossible to concentrate on my work. My best efforts to keep her away from my mind have failed. I planned to take a different bus in order to avoid her but as the day falls on I fall back, become weak and take the same bus.
In Asia the relationship between opposite sexes are sensitive and restricted. I fear loss of prestige, social boycott and thrashing if I chase (?) her.
I am married. I am fortunate to have a very caring and beautiful wife.
We are blessed with two cute kids. I have no regrets at domestic life. Everything at home is cordial and I love my wife very much. That girl is married too and I don't know about her married life
AFTERALL WHY SHOULD SHE SMILE AT ME WHEN SHE DOES NOT LIKE TO TALK AND FEARS AS I APPROACH HER?
What is going to happen? I am going insane. Please advice ASTROLOGICALLY.
Going Insane
Dear going Insane
Not knowing when this young female was born I can't tell you what she is thinking but by looking at your chart I do know how confused and mixed up you are right now. Your chart indicates that you are reading far too much into her smiles. You are going through a period that indicates sorrow where love and romance are concerned. It represents one-sided romantic infatuations and these can only lead to depression. You need to pull yourself together and get on with your life. If you follow your desires you will end up in trouble and that might not only be with her but with your family and the authorities as well. You must back off and focus on what's important, your wife, your children and your job.
Eugenia
