We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Sometime during the first half of February 1995 I met this man. His birth date is 4.4.1967. He was my supervisor; I was a phone sales associate. When I first saw him I disliked the way he looked and assumed I wouldn't care whatever his personality was, either. It turned out that he was a wonderful mentor, a really good boss and just naturally inclined at helping people out. I did very well on that job due to his excellent guidance, and I'm sure a lot of the people there, even though they didn't say anything to my face, thought that he was playing favorites. I didn't mind because I wanted to achieve much and get along with everybody at the same time, so my stance was basically a neutral one, which they had loved to call "being professional".
My confusion started when he began acting as if we were really close. In that place where men out number women in selling and dealing with auto parts, I didn't have difficulty eventually becoming one of the guys where handshakes, arm linking hugs, back pats (or slaps) and even shoulder holding were just normal, friendly ways of interacting so it wasn't an issue of unwanted advances or sexual harassment. What bothered me was that we couldn't seem to talk about ourselves except when it had to do with work. He was starting to grow on me, and during those times when he seemed to be making passes at me, I was delighted with it but didn't want to take him up on it, until he leveled with me on what his intentions were. I just couldn't allow it to sweep me off my feet because it didn't feel honest, and one thing I've always wanted more than anything else was to be in an equal relationship. We went on like this until he left the company to pursue other opportunities. Even though nothing officially intimate happened between us, I still felt really sad, as though a lover had left. I was depressed for a while, all the time thinking I was crazy and totally out of my head, that I didn't initiate things. What did it matter if you love a person yet you're both engaging in some sort of power play where it seemed like the affection was with held by omission?
The definite upside on the whole thing was that it prompted me to look for answers instead of letting it eat at me by becoming bitter. A lot of interesting things came up during my self-studies, but somehow I couldn't accept that it would've worked out nicely if only one of us had been up front to the other. Clearly he could've seen that I was focused on my work yet everybody had found me easy to talk to, to relate to, to connect to. It just didn't make any sense, partly because there were a lot of things that I didn't know about him, even though his actions spoke louder than words. It was strange too, that judging from what pathetic little I knew about him, I could feel that he was very familiar to me I couldn't help but think that past lives might be a valid concept. The chemistry and "magic" were all certainly there, but then again, I didn't want to think that his actions were spurred by those factors alone.
I know solidly now at this point that I'd throw caution to the winds and tell him what I feel about him if I was lucky enough to be given another chance at seeing him again. But since I'm not sure about it happening, I'm faced again with the task of finding an answer as to how to make my peace with the whole thing. Through sheer will I tried hard not to let it affect me so much as to disrupt the normal goings on in my life, and I'm proud to say I succeeded in doing so. I've talked to some people about it, but somehow I get the feeling that they don't really understand, and I don't blame them.
Astrology was one subject that really helped me make sense of it on my own. However, I've never gotten any insights from astrologers, except from interpretations I read in books. I was born March 24, 1973, at 4:04 PM. I hope my letter will be interesting enough to merit your attention and consideration. T
Dear Eugenia,
I never believed in love at first sight before....nor the "fireworks" during a first kiss...and I always thought it ridiculous when I heard people say they just couldn't live without "so-and-so". But, I have experienced these undeniable feelings in the past year. A much older gentleman has, quite literally, STOLEN MY HEART. I have never been so incapable of walking away from someone in my entire life. I never want to do without him...he's all I want...and all I need.
In the beginning he fell in love with me first (and told me so) and, I soon followed. I am 37 and he is 58. But, I don't think either of us even notices the age difference, because we "connect" so naturally. Some of the problems we've had are: 1.) He's a Christian and I'm an atheist. 2.)He has a problem trusting women...he has unrealistic expectations concerning honesty (he believes all women are liars). 3.) He's sometimes manipulative (which I find challenging). 4.) He refuses to give me any kind of a commitment. 5.) A friend of mine that has studied astrology for 35 years warned me of his dangerous temper, and great need to control...this advice from her has caused my imagination to work over-time and has caused some real problems between he and I...I've had trouble trusting him...and that bothers him...and me. We've broken up a couple of times, and then always find our way back to each other. This astrologer friend of mine is my ex-boyfriend's mother, and I have always suspected she is "saving" me for her son when the "time" is right for us to get together again. But, I have no proof.
My birth info: 2-5-64, 7:37pm, His birth info: 2-7-43, 6:05pm, The older gentleman and I met for the first time somewhere between April 3 and April 13, 2000 (last year). He was a potential customer of mine. I was calling on his business (we were instantly inseparable...all we wanted to do was talk to one another....we still do). My question is: Can you go back and see during those dates if either of us were suppose to meet our "soul mates"?
I need to know this. I am raising two teenagers on my own and don't want to waste my time with a man that is just using me. I'd like to know if he really loves me, if I can trust him, and if we have a future together or not. Please, help me....this other astrologer friend of mine may be manipulating me....I want to know the truth.
Lost In Love
Dear Lost In Love
I do not believe that the astrologer giving you the information is too far off the mark. Your comparison with this man was not all that great. I believe that there is some deception involved in your connection. You have recently been going through a rough period regarding relationships and this could be the reason for the problems that you are experiencing with him however I do believe that there is more to it. He is controlling at an emotional level and I do not believe that you are one to be controlled with your strong Aquarius personality however with your Venus in Pisces and the type of transits that you are experiencing I believe that you are in what I call a messiah mood meaning that in some way part of the attraction is feeling vulnerable and out of control. I do believe that you will continue on with him until you can't take it any more I believe that you will be in a high cycle for love or past lovers coming back into your life next year and I hope that you have the wherewithal to walk away from this connection by that time so that you might actually hook up with someone who could be considered your soul mate.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
First of all, I just wanted to inform you that I admire you for all the advice you have given people. You have been blessed with the gift of astrology on your side and you have used it to help others. I totally admire that. I guess that is why I come to you for I am in desperate need of advice. I trust what the stars and planets have in store for me and know that astrology can tell me thingsabout myself that I didn't know or I can learn about others. I guess that is why I am so fascinated with astrology. Recently things in a relationship had been turned upside down. I was seeing this guy and everyone knew that we liked each other a lot. You could tell just by the way we would look at each other or the way we would speak to one another. After two months of seeing each other, the guy I was seeing finally decided he wanted to move to the next level with me. This came from out of the blue considering he was ditching me all the time. He told me the reason he was ditching me all the time was because I scared him with the fact that I was so into him and the age differencebetween the two of us. He was born August 5, 1967(don't know the time) and I was born on March 6, 1981 at 1:34am. So there is a good 12 years between us. I accidentally made him mad by being inconsiderate and he blew everything out of proportion. He hasn't spoken to me in overa month and then I find out that he lied to me. He told me that he was being evicted from his apartment because of me knocking on his door for so long when he actually didn't pay his rent. I have forgiven him for not telling me the truth. In all honesty, I don't know if I am in love with him. My mom tells me that it does matter how I feel and she knows that I feel very strongly for this guy. My world doesn't seem complete with him not in it. Do you think that I should let go or do you think that there will be a second chance with him in my future? According to what the stars say, and what your expertise says, will help me to decide if I shall seek this relationship more or to give up on the only person I have ever felt this strongly about. Thank you for taking the time to read this because I know how busy you are. I would appreciate any advice you can give me. According to the compatibility tests, we are compatible and everything but I want an even more in-depth reading into our stars. He is a Leo and I am a Pisces. Once again, thank you for your time and advice. Thank you for this awesome site. Keep up the outstanding work!
Thanks.
Which way to turn
Dear Which way to turn
Should you stay or should you go is the question. The compatibility was okay but I do feel that an element of deception is present and this could mean that there will be more dishonesty in the future. His Sun sign also falls in an area of your chart that can lead to dead end projects. I also believe that you are going through a very vulnerable time regarding love and relationships. Regardless of the direction you take I feel that you will have some romantic problems over the course of the next two years. I would be inclined to tell you to proceed with caution and to give him another chance if you do have strong feelings for him however I would not suggest that you commit to him legally for the duration of the next two to three years. If he loves you he should be okay with dating and building a strong friendship and intimate relationship. At the end of that period if you both still want to move to the next level (marriage etc.) that would be fine. As for now I believe that during the second half of this year you could very well meet someone who will capture your attention and possibly your heart. However that will only happen if you are free to come and go as you please and to meet and interact with people who could turn into potential life partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scor
