We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain

Dear Eugenia,

Sometime during the first half of February 1995 I met this man. His birth date is 4.4.1967. He was my supervisor; I was a phone sales associate. When I first saw him I disliked the way he looked and assumed I wouldn't care whatever his personality was, either. It turned out that he was a wonderful mentor, a really good boss and just naturally inclined at helping people out. I did very well on that job due to his excellent guidance, and I'm sure a lot of the people there, even though they didn't say anything to my face, thought that he was playing favorites. I didn't mind because I wanted to achieve much and get along with everybody at the same time, so my stance was basically a neutral one, which they had loved to call "being professional".

My confusion started when he began acting as if we were really close. In that place where men out number women in selling and dealing with auto parts, I didn't have difficulty eventually becoming one of the guys where handshakes, arm linking hugs, back pats (or slaps) and even shoulder holding were just normal, friendly ways of interacting so it wasn't an issue of unwanted advances or sexual harassment. What bothered me was that we couldn't seem to talk about ourselves except when it had to do with work. He was starting to grow on me, and during those times when he seemed to be making passes at me, I was delighted with it but didn't want to take him up on it, until he leveled with me on what his intentions were. I just couldn't allow it to sweep me off my feet because it didn't feel honest, and one thing I've always wanted more than anything else was to be in an equal relationship. We went on like this until he left the company to pursue other opportunities. Even though nothing officially intimate happened between us, I still felt really sad, as though a lover had left. I was depressed for a while, all the time thinking I was crazy and totally out of my head, that I didn't initiate things. What did it matter if you love a person yet you're both engaging in some sort of power play where it seemed like the affection was with held by omission?

The definite upside on the whole thing was that it prompted me to look for answers instead of letting it eat at me by becoming bitter. A lot of interesting things came up during my self-studies, but somehow I couldn't accept that it would've worked out nicely if only one of us had been up front to the other. Clearly he could've seen that I was focused on my work yet everybody had found me easy to talk to, to relate to, to connect to. It just didn't make any sense, partly because there were a lot of things that I didn't know about him, even though his actions spoke louder than words. It was strange too, that judging from what pathetic little I knew about him, I could feel that he was very familiar to me I couldn't help but think that past lives might be a valid concept. The chemistry and "magic" were all certainly there, but then again, I didn't want to think that his actions were spurred by those factors alone.

I know solidly now at this point that I'd throw caution to the winds and tell him what I feel about him if I was lucky enough to be given another chance at seeing him again. But since I'm not sure about it happening, I'm faced again with the task of finding an answer as to how to make my peace with the whole thing. Through sheer will I tried hard not to let it affect me so much as to disrupt the normal goings on in my life, and I'm proud to say I succeeded in doing so. I've talked to some people about it, but somehow I get the feeling that they don't really understand, and I don't blame them.

Astrology was one subject that really helped me make sense of it on my own. However, I've never gotten any insights from astrologers, except from interpretations I read in books. I was born March 24, 1973, at 4:04 PM. I hope my letter will be interesting enough to merit your attention and consideration. T

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Article: Spare Your Heart

Dear Eugenia

I know that I am only 16, but I'm sure that I love the guy I'm with. His birthday is May 30, 1985. The only thing I want to know is if this relationship is worth all the work and emotion that I'm putting into it? I hope you answer, because I don't want to make a fatal mistake!

Sara

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Dear Sara

All relationships take work however the problems begin when neither or only one of you is willing to put in the effort. In your particular case I believe that you are putting up with too much. Although you do match up I believe that he can be a little fickle and that he is a bit of a player. Spare your heart and avoid trying to take this relationship to the next level. You are too sensitive for the likes of this guy. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Karmic Intuition

Dear Eugenia

I have recently made a drastic change in my life, largely due to a relationship with a Gemini born 6/1/40.I am a Leo, born 8/4/45, at 7:44 AM. There seemed to be a sort of karmic intuition between us and we became close friends. Having many things in common; except that I am open, expressive and he is guarded emotionally and reserved, preventing a romance to come to fruition, though attraction and deep feelings were present for both of us.

Together, we decided that we would relocate as we were looking for the same sort of change in our lives. I sold my house and explored a couple of areas we were both interested in while he was dealing with some unfinished business. I believe he has Pisces rising, as he can be very nebulous and contradictory and procrastinating at times. Anyway, at the last minute, 6/20/00, he said he didn't want to do this together. I feel extremely betrayed, but more so rather stupid and confused. We had planned to work together in some sort of outreach ministry. I have had to proceed with my own move to another state without the support I felt I needed to do this. I have not heard from him. I guess what I want to know is, can this move and drastic change ultimately be beneficial for me or should I consider moving back home. I have been drawn to men who hurt me and he certainly is one of them. I am trying to change that pattern and get some spiritual healing for this. Do you see any relationship potential, either for the reconciliation of this one or for something else in the future?Betrayed

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Dear Betrayed

Your chart indicates that you are sensitive, loving and warm and those qualities although wonderful to have can leave you vulnerable when it comes to relationships. Your comparison with your Gemini friend wasn't' bad but you must know that they can be extremely flippant at the best of times. This is a man who is going through a questionable period. You could ask him the same question two days in a row and get a different answer therefore I wouldn't rule him out. The comparison was okay but I also believe that you can do better. Regarding the move he has enough Cancer and Taurus in his chart to make it difficult for him to pick up and leave. In some ways he is torn between the Gemini Peter Pan quality that makes him want to jump at the chance to do things and the Cancer/Taurus looking for stability and roots. As for you, the move was probably good. It got you away from him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love, romance and partnerships (both business and emotional) as we approach the summer of next year. Don't waste your time playing with someone who can't get it together. Although it is likely that people from your past will come back into your life at that time you are best to look forward and move on to new people, possibly places and certainly new directions. You match up well to those born under the signs Leo, Scorpio and Capricorn.

Eugenia

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