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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I'm considering divorce... my problem is my husband (Sept. 19, 1959.) still considers visiting a single woman, secretly, I always find out, and it hurts me, but he doesn't seem to care, cause as he puts in he isn't doing anything wrong. Well I feel betrayed. I also feel he has other secrets that he doesn't share with me. I could be wrong but I don't really know. My birthday is Feb. 15,1960. Hers is Feb. 26 1960. I kind of do believe they are friends but it still doesn't sit well with me nor do our children like it... Do you think that a divorce is the right thing for me to initiate at this time.. I seem to be running out of options.. Cause deep down I don't want a divorce I want my husband to appreciate & love me.
Thanks for listening............
Feeling left out
Hi Feeling left out
This is a very sticky situation. He matches up to you a little bit better than he does to his Pisces friend. His comparison with her does show some sorrow and on the other side his comparison with you does not indicate deception. I do believe that he is attracted to her and enjoys her company as a friend but I don't believe that he has taken it further. I feel however that she might try. With that in mind it does put you in a very difficult situation. If you nag him you will only make him move towards her. You may want to suggest however that anyone that is a friend of his should also be a friend to the family and have him invite her over for lunch or dinner. This way you get yourself and the children into the loop. At least from that position you can monitor the situation and protect your interests wisely. If he isn't interested in doing so you may want to play his game and find a male friend to spend some time with. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Be smart about the situation. I believe you love him and that your family means enough to you to try to hold it together. If he truly believes in friendship with the opposite sex he should not have a problem with you having male companionship as well. I must caution you however that this can turn into a very dangerous situation especially if you happen to actually meet someone who fills the needs that your husband is obviously not fulfilling. The other approach will be for your children to voice their concerns and how they feel about being left out and that he should be spending the time he gives to his Pisces friend with them.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is my third letter to you in the last few months; I would be so grateful if you could respond, either via email or on the site. I was born on 4/14/71 at 4:41 PM. In the summer of 1997, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend (of approximately 7 years). I have been alone ever since, but for a few guys passing through. I am really feeling ready for a relationship, but it seems like the universe is against me. I rarely meet anyone, and when I do, it ends quickly. I am still connected to my ex (born 2/25/69, at 9:41 AM) although he is married now. Happily, I do not know, because he still contacts me and admits that he dreams of me. He took me out for dinner a few months ago, and didn't tell his wife. I, of course, would never do anything to harm his union, although I still love him. Does it seem like anything is on the way for me romantically? Should I sever my ties with my ex completely?
Thanks in advance, Eugenia.
Meant To Be
Dear Meant To Be
Do yourself, your ex and his wife a favor. Opt out on this one. Your comparison with your ex wasn't all that great. The fact that you went out to dinner with him is already hurting his marriage. Just think how his wife will feel if she finds out. You should tell your ex to get his life together and not to call you anymore. Chances are good that if he did come back into your life you would probably break up again. As for you, regarding relationships you appear to be a little self-deceptive about what you really want. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Aquarius. Better opportunities for love and romance will be yours next year and you are likely to meet someone through a work related event. Your ex's chart indicates that he is looking for an affair. For you to get involved in a love triangle would only result in you missing the chance to meet someone special as well as feeling terribly guilty. Remind yourself why this relationship ended. Don't be his escape because he isn't happy. Move on and refuse to engage in his deceptive plans. It takes two to tango, I urge you not to be his partner.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I have written about five times now, I realize that you are very busy & I'm hoping this is my lucky day.I was born on the 19th of May 1943, at 1 am & do not know for sure what sign I am under. Also I have been separated from my Husband for about 7 years. He has another partner & is doing very well financially & with his new love (his birth date is June 3, 1943). I would really like to know what is in store for me love, financial & job. Please Please answer this one as I am very depressed & no longer feel there is any hope for me.
Thanks
Unsure
Hi Unsure
You were born under the sign Taurus - there is no question about that but you also have a strong Gemini influence having your natal Mercury, Saturn and Uranus in that sign. The sign Cancer is also strongly placed in your chart with both your natal Venus and Jupiter situated in that sign, all that being said it probably leaves you a little bit confused. A chart is made up of many different facets your sun sign being a small but important part of the big picture. In your case the sign Taurus affects areas of your chart that deal with communication as well as your home environment. You are slowly but surely moving into a much better position where work and money are concerned but at the age you are at right now you will have to be very smart about the way you go at it. For the rest of this year and most of next you are in a high cycle regarding apprenticeships and learning new skills. It's hard to get into a position like that because of age discrimination these days so it will be important that you consider areas of work and learning that won't discriminate. Consider real estate or a product or service for the home, something that you can virtually be your own boss. If you pick up the skills or information you require now you will find yourself in a much better position this time next year. You don't have a bad chart you've just gone through some rough transits. Regarding your ex-husband, you do have a good comparison however even the best don't always last especially where Gemini males are concerned, in his case he as four planets in that sign. The past couple of years have probably not been the best for him either although he probably wouldn't share this with anyone. I feel his problems have probably been of an emotional as well as physical nature. I don't know how much contact you have with him but I believe that you should probably get in touch with him now. I think that you still have some unresolved issues and that he may be willing to help you out. Although your chart stills shows some depression and limitations financially that transit is lifting over the course of the next two months and I feel that you will be singing a different tune by the fall. Where love is concerned there is far more activity showing in your chart as early as mid summer but it's up to you to get out and be a participant. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
