We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Feeling left out

Hi Eugenia

I'm considering divorce... my problem is my husband (Sept. 19, 1959.) still considers visiting a single woman, secretly, I always find out, and it hurts me, but he doesn't seem to care, cause as he puts in he isn't doing anything wrong. Well I feel betrayed. I also feel he has other secrets that he doesn't share with me. I could be wrong but I don't really know. My birthday is Feb. 15,1960. Hers is Feb. 26 1960. I kind of do believe they are friends but it still doesn't sit well with me nor do our children like it... Do you think that a divorce is the right thing for me to initiate at this time.. I seem to be running out of options.. Cause deep down I don't want a divorce I want my husband to appreciate & love me.

Thanks for listening............
Feeling left out

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Hi Feeling left out

This is a very sticky situation. He matches up to you a little bit better than he does to his Pisces friend. His comparison with her does show some sorrow and on the other side his comparison with you does not indicate deception. I do believe that he is attracted to her and enjoys her company as a friend but I don't believe that he has taken it further. I feel however that she might try. With that in mind it does put you in a very difficult situation. If you nag him you will only make him move towards her. You may want to suggest however that anyone that is a friend of his should also be a friend to the family and have him invite her over for lunch or dinner. This way you get yourself and the children into the loop. At least from that position you can monitor the situation and protect your interests wisely. If he isn't interested in doing so you may want to play his game and find a male friend to spend some time with. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Be smart about the situation. I believe you love him and that your family means enough to you to try to hold it together. If he truly believes in friendship with the opposite sex he should not have a problem with you having male companionship as well. I must caution you however that this can turn into a very dangerous situation especially if you happen to actually meet someone who fills the needs that your husband is obviously not fulfilling. The other approach will be for your children to voice their concerns and how they feel about being left out and that he should be spending the time he gives to his Pisces friend with them.

Eugenia

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Article: From Need Help

Dear Eugenia,

I have a question regarding a love interest. I am in an abusive relationship with my alcoholic husband and I am trying to get my life in order to leave him. In the meantime I met someone else that I have deep feeling for. I have been seeing him for over 3 months now but I have known him for 30 years. I just wonder if you can see what lies in my future. I am so confused as what to do. I know I need to get away from the abusive relationship and work on my self-esteem. My birthday is 12/23/59 at 2:30pm; my love interest birthday is 1/11/58. I do not know birth time. Any insight would be greatly appreciated, as I am very confused right now.

Need Help

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Dear Need Help

In most cases I would strongly suggest that you get out on your own for a while until you really know what you want and you have a chance to work on your own problems. However, in your case I have a feeling that you will make the adjustment quickly. The comparison with your Capricorn friend is so good that I don't believe that you should hesitate to have him in your life. He has plenty to offer you and he will help to rebuild your confidence. There is a tiny element of sorrow that does appear in this comparison however it falls in an area of your chart that isn't to negative unless perhaps you work with one another. Should this be the case you may want to consider changing jobs. You probably should have made your move away from your husband a year ago but it's never too late so get yourself packed and out of there. No one should put up with an abusive spouse who isn't dedicated to getting help.

Eugenia

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Article: Independence

Dear Eugenia,

I am a 43-year-old woman born February 24, 1957, at 3:45 AM, and my parent's are still trying to tell me how to run my life. They broke up my last marriage of 13 years, Now I am remarried again, and they don't like the husband I have now. They have a lot of money they inherited, and they hang this over my head all the time. Saying if you don't do what we say we will take you out of our will. I think they are being so foolish, they act like children. I am very happy with the marriage I have now, but afraid they will try to break us up also. Why do they act this way? Should I stay away from them? Why do they want so much control? They have never helped me in anyway I have always taken care of my children and myself. So what's the deal?

Controlling Parents

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Dear Controlling Parents

You didn't submit your parents or your husbands birth data so I will have to base my answer on your chart alone. From what I can see you are an independent person who should not be in this position. Others can only control you if you allow it to happen. Tell your parents that you don't care about the money, instead you care about your immediate family and you wish that they would accept you and your loved ones for who you are. Unfortunately, it is not up to you to make the adjustment so you will have to leave it in their hands to do so. Until that time keep your distance.

Eugenia

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