We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Feeling left out

Hi Eugenia

I'm considering divorce... my problem is my husband (Sept. 19, 1959.) still considers visiting a single woman, secretly, I always find out, and it hurts me, but he doesn't seem to care, cause as he puts in he isn't doing anything wrong. Well I feel betrayed. I also feel he has other secrets that he doesn't share with me. I could be wrong but I don't really know. My birthday is Feb. 15,1960. Hers is Feb. 26 1960. I kind of do believe they are friends but it still doesn't sit well with me nor do our children like it... Do you think that a divorce is the right thing for me to initiate at this time.. I seem to be running out of options.. Cause deep down I don't want a divorce I want my husband to appreciate & love me.

Thanks for listening............
Feeling left out

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Hi Feeling left out

This is a very sticky situation. He matches up to you a little bit better than he does to his Pisces friend. His comparison with her does show some sorrow and on the other side his comparison with you does not indicate deception. I do believe that he is attracted to her and enjoys her company as a friend but I don't believe that he has taken it further. I feel however that she might try. With that in mind it does put you in a very difficult situation. If you nag him you will only make him move towards her. You may want to suggest however that anyone that is a friend of his should also be a friend to the family and have him invite her over for lunch or dinner. This way you get yourself and the children into the loop. At least from that position you can monitor the situation and protect your interests wisely. If he isn't interested in doing so you may want to play his game and find a male friend to spend some time with. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Be smart about the situation. I believe you love him and that your family means enough to you to try to hold it together. If he truly believes in friendship with the opposite sex he should not have a problem with you having male companionship as well. I must caution you however that this can turn into a very dangerous situation especially if you happen to actually meet someone who fills the needs that your husband is obviously not fulfilling. The other approach will be for your children to voice their concerns and how they feel about being left out and that he should be spending the time he gives to his Pisces friend with them.

Eugenia

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Article: Don't Stop Moving

Dear Eugenia

My birthday is May 30/75, at 10:40 AM, my boyfriend's is Aug.24/72 I just found out that I am pregnant with my third child. This is my fifth pregnancy, but I had previous miscarriages. My question is I am just finishing up my upgrading and will be graduating this June. My baby isn't due until January. The thing is my school counselor's thinks I should put off continuing into a trade for about a year. I am not so sure I would like to do that. You see I struggled to get this far, I don't seem to want to stop. I am trying to go forward and become a financial advisor, but first I need another year of schooling. Do you have ANY SUGGESTION FOR ME?

I have two boys and one on the way that I need to support financially. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to realize that this is something I need to do for myself. For four years of our six year relationship we have been living with his mom, and I want to be able to move out and have our own place, going forward into getting a job I may be able to move us. That is one of many reasons I need a job.

Thanks for reading my complaint.
Struggling

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Dear Struggling

You should give yourself a pat on the back and keep on moving in the direction that will bring you the highest rewards. The more education that you can get the better. You have to put yourself in a position that will allow you to support your children and your boyfriend should understand that. If he is not able to support your desires and wishes you should question how much he truly cares about you. Your chart indicates that you should continue your studies however it would not hurt you to take time off until after the baby is born. The educational area of your chart will be in a high cycle for the next few months but by October you will move into a period that might be difficult to pursue your goals. You will find however that if you wait until the spring of next year that you will once again have the ability to do well in your educational pursuits. Set your goals and your priorities and don't look back. You do match up well to your boyfriend however emotional deception may be a problem. He might find your desire to improve yourself threatening and therefore you must compensate for this in order to put his mind at ease.

Eugenia

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Article: From Aquarius

Hello Eugenia!

I'm a female Aquarian with a Sagittarius moon and Pisces ascendant. I'm wondering what to do with my life. I quit work last December because, while I was good at what I was doing, I wasn't happy. I'm wondering if I should push myself in a more creative direction, but money is tight. I'm actually terrified of what I think I want - my family and friends would not like it, also, I've grown accustomed to using hope as an excuse to look forward to the future: Maybe one day I'll be doing something I like and getting rewarded for it.

I think life would be much easier if we were born with little instruction books which told us our life expectancy, where to find our partners, how many children we might have - if any, what job we were designed for and a step-by-step breakdown of our destiny; maybe wanting instructions is laziness, but I'm exhausted from living. I probably think too much. I went for a reading recently and I was told that I need to take a break... but I am taking a break and it's not helping me figure anything out.

Any clues to what's eating me or where I should go, what I should do?

Aquarius

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Hello Aquarius

You aren't the only Aquarius who is confused right now but nothing so serious that a little creativity and following your dreams can't fix. We were all born with what I like to call a road map of our lives. That is what an astrological chart is. You my friend were born with a splash chart and that makes you quite capable of doing many different things. You are coming into lots of changes over the next few years especially where vocation, studying and traveling to distant lands are concerned. Your chart indicates many creative interests in which entertaining is one of them. You are the one who holds yourself back - no one else. You must be true to yourself and pursue the type of career that will make you happy. If you read my work on a regular basis you have probably heard me say many times that the prerequisite to happiness is doing the right thing at the right time for you.

You are coming into your first Saturn return next year and this is what I refer to as the maturing time in a person's life. It is very common for you to be reevaluating your life and your future direction. This is a pivotal period, a time to size up what you have done with your life up until this point and what the possibilities are for the future. This is your decision - no one else's and you have to make the alterations that will please you the most. If you want to pursue something creative the next couple of years is the time to do so. Don't look back too long or you will waste the opportunity to follow your heart. Take the plunge and give yourself a chance to find your niche. The worst case scenario is not trying to achieve your dreams and looking back in fifteen years when you go through your second half-life Saturn and you say to yourself could of, should of would of. Don't fall victim to having regrets because you didn't take the initiative - just do it - the time is right.

Eugenia

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