We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Too Tired

Dear Eugenia,

I am an AstroEast fan. The first thing I do when I get back to my office is log on to your site. Thank you for all the advice you have given us. I have wanted to write to you for a long time. Until today, I have not had the courage to do so. I have just started to work. The place that I am working in is far from home. I originally thought that my boyfriend and I would continue to spend a good deal of time together. But a year ago, I discovered that his relationship with another girl was questionable. As far as I know, they have only met once. I know it is not his fault so I forgive him. But recently, I found that he treats me in a very cool and distant manner. He is now living overseas and won't be back for one or two years. I am worried. Will we have a good future? I have been pregnant twice. He once said that we were not suitable for each other, but I don't want to break up with him. I have tried my best to keep this relationship going. I write him, call him, but I am tired. Please help me. I was born in Nov 11, 1977 at about 5pm. He was born in Apr 8, 1975. Will you reply to my letter?

Thanks in advance.
Uncertain

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Dear Uncertain

The comparison with your Aries boyfriend was good however the distance is probably playing a role in his actions. He has transiting Uranus adversely positioned to his natal Venus and this is causing some uncertainty on his part. I feel that for now you are probably best to give one another some space to find out how you feel and what you want out of life. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and romance from July until well into next year and you may want to experiment a little yourself. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Cancer, Scorpio and Sagittarius. You should also be concentrating on getting ahead professionally especially over the course of the next year and a half. It's time to focus on yourself and what you want out of life instead of dwelling on whether he is being loyal or not. You have your whole life ahead of you and this is a perfect opportunity for you to discover whether Mr. Aries is the right person or not. By allowing one another to see other people you can determine whether or not you truly belong together.

Eugenia

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Article: From Torn

Hi Eugenia

Pleeeaaassse help me!

I just moved into a new place with my boyfriend but I'm not sure he's the one. Some days I convince myself that everything is okay then other days I wonder if I can handle all the issues he has with his ex wife, children and him not wanting anymore kids. (his b-day is: Jan 11/62 at 3am and mine August 26, 1964, at 6 am). We have been arguing so much more ever since we moved in and I'm ready to walk. Should I stay and give it a chance or is it best to leave now?

Thanks,
Torn!

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Hi Torn!

You and your partner match up very well astrologically. It's times like these that you discover how strong your character is as well as his. His chart indicates that he has difficult transits regarding divorce settlement, legal matters, financial agreements and so forth but this will continue to haunt him for the next two years and like it or not he does have to be responsible to his first family regardless of how his ex is responding. All that being said he should probably try to put a stop to any harassment that he may be subject to by coming to a suitable arrangement that both he his ex and his children stick to. Once that is done things at least have a chance to settle down. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a period of uncertainty and you must try to curb any desire to overreact or to make changes suddenly that you might regret later on. Regarding having children of your own you will be feeling the urge especially over the course of the next year and I do believe that the chance of getting pregnant is likely however it may not be the best thing to do when your relationship is going through so much turmoil. I have seen many comparisons that are good where the end result was separation. Right now your timing is bad and it likely that you will get fed up. You are both going through a fair amount of stress over the course of the next 18 months. To add to that if you should get pregnant, fly off the handle or get upset about things that are out of your control will not help matters. This is a relationship worth nurturing but with the transits you both are experiencing I have my doubts that you will make it. Should you decide to walk, and you probably will, I believe that you will meet someone new before year-end. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Without having your partner's ex-wife's date of birth as well as his children's birth data I can't be sure what he will do should you walk but his chart indicates that he could very easily return to his family should that be the case.

Eugenia

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Article: Changing His Ways

Dear Eugenia:

I am in a dilemma right now my best friend has gotten into some trouble with the law, he was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He is going through a tough time being locked up, we have been the best of friends for over 3 years and in the beginning of our friendship we started out in a romantic relationship. Well a lot happened and I guess you could say it wasn't our time, but we continued to develop a strong friendship bond which nothing could destroy, and since he has been locked up I have been to visit him twice. His charge is nothing really major so he won't be in jail long but over the last 16 days in jail he said that his eyes have opened up to so much and he sees things so clearly. He has seen his faults and he is going to change he says that I am all he thinks about and he knows that I am really the only one that has always been there for him and I have stood by him through everything. He asks me if I am going to wait for him. He keeps making remarks about me, him and us, and getting back what we once had. He knows how strongly I feel for him and that I would do anything for him. I would give anything to have back what we once had. My question is should I take him and everything he has said seriously or should I just take it as "Jail talk"

I was born September 9, 1971, at 7 PM.

Confused

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Dear Confused

You didn't submit your best friends birth data so I really can't tell you where he's coming from but I do know by your chart that this is not the best time for relationships. That confusion is definitely in an area of your chart that deals with your personal life. You are coming into your Saturn return next year and this will be a period in your life that you reevaluate what you have done up until this point. It is a time of change, turning things around, getting ready to move into your next stage of life. You have time right now to wait and see how sincere your friend is but don't fool yourself. He is lonely and although he means what he is saying right now it may be a different story when he gets out of jail. Protect your heart and wait and see. There is nothing wrong with friendship for the time being. After all you will build a much stronger relationship if you are friends first. Stand by him as a friend for now and run a comparison on my site to see how well you match up to him and also to check out his personal profile. If you see much deception or ability to smooth talk in his profile you will know that he is just giving you jail talk. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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