We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
I had watched your show about a woman with cancer making preparations for her family. You said her illness was not going to go into a remission that she needed to prepare.
I hope you may be able to better enable me and my family in the passing of my father.Recently he has been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and it is terminal. Radiation has been given to him to help him in quality of life and to slow the inevitable. I fear he doesn't have long. His birth date is Feb 13 1936.I don't live close to my father and have financial struggles. I was able to fly out for a week. We shared happy memories and also said our good byes. He has just had a "step down" in his health and response to his pain medications. This happened while my brothers were here for a visit. They immediately flew back home (they live in the same city), to be with Dad. I too want to go to him, but I must time my visit and budget. I also have three small children, ages 10 months, 2 years and 6years. I need to make sure they are taken care of.
I guess my question is, when should I go...or how long does my Dad have? When should I go?
As I mentioned, I do need to know rather quickly as I don't think he has very long.
Dad's birth date is Feb 13 1936, 2:00 pm
My birthday is Oct 16th 1970
My brothers are April 19 1963 and July 7 1965
My children are Sept 8 2002, Feb 2 2001, July 7 1997
Thank you for helping us through the last chapter of a great man's life. He will be missed greatly.
Daddy's little Libra
Dear Daddy's little Libra
It is the time you spend with him while he is still coherent that counts my dear so what are you waiting for. Once he's gone there is nothing you can do for him it will only be to comfort yourself and other family members. The quality time however is now while you can bring him joy by sharing fond memories and make him feel more comfortable by taking his mind off his deterioration. It is difficult to tell you when he might pass - only God has the answer to that question. According to his chart however the possibility of living another year and a half is present but it certainly would not be a great quality of life and for his sake and that of the family some of the transits he is experiencing between now and the end of the year could be enough to take him which would probably be a blessing. It is never easy to lose someone you love but having experienced that love and the obvious connection that the two of you had will allow him to live on through you. You matched up well with your Sun signs being at a precise trine to one another. Your chart indicates that you should be going to see him in August/September of this year. It will do you both a lot of good to have this time together. Without the rest of your families birth times it is hard for me to be more specific regarding his passing but it is apparent that the aftermath will hit you and your Cancer brother first and your Aries brother later on. Hold together as a family and take time to share the different memories that each one of you has with your dad so that you can all understand the dynamics of your family and your roots much better. With this your father will be remembered in a much deeper way by all of you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you in advance for responding and offering this wonderful website. My troubles for the past two years have been in regards to my partner. I am a Leo (11/08/76); he is a Libra (08/10/75). We met each other while quite young, and have managed to maintain a seven-year relationship through the worst of events. Since 2000 however, I have been drifting away from him, wanting more out of life and out of the relationship -things he does not believe he can deliver. I love him dearly, but I am confused as to whether or not this relationship has outlived its usefulness or if I am searching for qualities only found in a "dream-man"? The strain between us has become unbearable. My heart tells me one thing, my head says otherwise. What can be done?
Confused
Dear Confused
Unfortunately I have to admit that you are in a brother sister type relationship right now and it is time to move on. You are feeling depressed and stressed about this because transiting Saturn is adversely aspecting your natal Venus and you know within your heart that it is time to move on. It is never easy to leave someone you care about but you can't stay for the wrong reasons either. Set him free. You are like birds of a feather but you both need someone different. Hopefully you will be able to put this behind you and save the friendship for that is what this union should have been all along.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born in 31 Oct. 1974 at 8:20pm. Most of my friends think that I am a strange person, sometimes cool but sometimes full of enthusiasm. They also think that I am mysterious and difficult to understand. When in reality, I am very simple. Almost all of the friends my age have married and started a new phrase in life. But I am still alone. Why can't I attract someone of the opposite sex? Is it difficult for me to find someone?
I read my astrology chart and found that most of the planets fall into the 5th house. Should I just treat love and life as a game? When it comes to love, I believe that I need to take some time to understand a person. I cannot love at first sight. But love always comes and goes at a fast pace. The guys I have been with will chase someone else once they find that their target is not right. My love affairs were always short-lived. Eugenia, I really don't want to spend another lonely Valentines Day, Christmas, birthday or other important day alone any more. I wish you would give me some suggestions and thank you for reading my letter.
Looking for Love
Dear Looking for Love
You have an interesting chart that indicates that you probably have lots of opportunities to meet potential partners however, you are also not likely to fall for just anyone. You will be very particular when it comes to love. Whoever you fall in love with will have to give you the freedom you need in order to exist happily within that relationship. You may appear to be uninterested in some of the partners you have had in the past and so they moved on quickly. You are coming into a high cycle next year regarding love and romance and you should be prepared to get out and meet people from May of next year on. Just because you have a lot of planets in the 5th house doesn't mean that you shouldn't take love seriously, it just means that you will socialize, have more to do with children, you will be creative or you may enjoy gambling. This makes you more youthful and fun-loving then most people and there is nothing wrong with that. Your chart also indicates that you are not as likely to marry just anyone at a young age. You will want to get to know your partner well before you will settle down. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Virgo and Pisces. Stop being so hard on yourself. You'll be married for a long long time so don't rush into it. Take your time and consider the best possible places and ways for you to meet Mr. Right. Your chart indicates that you could meet someone special through travel, educational pursuits or getting involved in an organization that shares your philosophy.
Eugenia
November 16th 2025
Happy Birthday: Put your energy where it counts. Investments, how you earn your living, and ways you can give back or make a difference in your community or address matters of concern, will lead to interesting alternatives and connections. An about-face is in the forecast this year, and plenty can happen if you are alert and ready to take a leap of faith. It's up to you to seize the moment. Your numbers are 3, 11, 20, 33, 37, 42, 49.
