We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
I had watched your show about a woman with cancer making preparations for her family. You said her illness was not going to go into a remission that she needed to prepare.
I hope you may be able to better enable me and my family in the passing of my father.Recently he has been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and it is terminal. Radiation has been given to him to help him in quality of life and to slow the inevitable. I fear he doesn't have long. His birth date is Feb 13 1936.I don't live close to my father and have financial struggles. I was able to fly out for a week. We shared happy memories and also said our good byes. He has just had a "step down" in his health and response to his pain medications. This happened while my brothers were here for a visit. They immediately flew back home (they live in the same city), to be with Dad. I too want to go to him, but I must time my visit and budget. I also have three small children, ages 10 months, 2 years and 6years. I need to make sure they are taken care of.
I guess my question is, when should I go...or how long does my Dad have? When should I go?
As I mentioned, I do need to know rather quickly as I don't think he has very long.
Dad's birth date is Feb 13 1936, 2:00 pm
My birthday is Oct 16th 1970
My brothers are April 19 1963 and July 7 1965
My children are Sept 8 2002, Feb 2 2001, July 7 1997
Thank you for helping us through the last chapter of a great man's life. He will be missed greatly.
Daddy's little Libra
Dear Daddy's little Libra
It is the time you spend with him while he is still coherent that counts my dear so what are you waiting for. Once he's gone there is nothing you can do for him it will only be to comfort yourself and other family members. The quality time however is now while you can bring him joy by sharing fond memories and make him feel more comfortable by taking his mind off his deterioration. It is difficult to tell you when he might pass - only God has the answer to that question. According to his chart however the possibility of living another year and a half is present but it certainly would not be a great quality of life and for his sake and that of the family some of the transits he is experiencing between now and the end of the year could be enough to take him which would probably be a blessing. It is never easy to lose someone you love but having experienced that love and the obvious connection that the two of you had will allow him to live on through you. You matched up well with your Sun signs being at a precise trine to one another. Your chart indicates that you should be going to see him in August/September of this year. It will do you both a lot of good to have this time together. Without the rest of your families birth times it is hard for me to be more specific regarding his passing but it is apparent that the aftermath will hit you and your Cancer brother first and your Aries brother later on. Hold together as a family and take time to share the different memories that each one of you has with your dad so that you can all understand the dynamics of your family and your roots much better. With this your father will be remembered in a much deeper way by all of you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
Hi, Eugenia!
I have been using this wonderful site even before its Japanese version opened! I would like to ask your opinion on two men who are currently in my life. My birthday is 7/8/1973, and I was born around 7. I have been with this Gemini guy (6/15/1975) for five years. We maintained a steady, comfortable, and very fun relationship since meeting each other in college. But about a year ago, I found out that he cheated on me. He deeply regrets hurting me and promises me that he would never cheat on me again. I still care about him and hope that we could be a happy couple again. We have been trying to work things out but I still feel insecure. I fear that he will hurt me again in the future. Then, there is another guy, a Leo whose birthday is 8/5/75. We work together in a design office. Not only he is an attractive young man, but also he has been a great inspiration for me in my design work. We are pursuing the same career, so we share the same interests naturally. He is breaking up with his current girlfriend (don't know her birthday) and I am still involved with a Gemini guy, so we don't have anything going on at this moment. We often go out for lunch and talk about each other's love problems, art, philosophy, religion, music, and much more. I truly enjoy his company and I believe that he is feeling the same way, too. What I would like to find out from you is do I have any chance with this Leo? Or, should I keep trying with my Gemini man? I am seeking a partner who can truly love me, commit the future, and gives me an opportunity to grow as a person. Your help will be very much appreciated! Thank you for reading.
Twisted Love
Dear Twisted Love
You do match up well to both men in question however your current Gemini boyfriend's comparison to you does indicate emotional deception. In the case of your Leo friend some sorrow is evident. I believe that you are sitting between a rock and a hard place. For the time being I feel that you have to give your Gemini partner more time to build a strong friendship with your Leo. After all lovers come and go but friends are with you forever. The only other alternative that you have is to back away from both and take some time for yourself. However, if you do so you may lose out on both counts. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where work and meeting important and influential people are concerned, building friendships and pleasure travel. It is obvious with transiting Neptune sitting opposite to your natal Venus for the past couple of months that you will be confused regarding love and although you will get some relief from July until mid January it will come back to haunt you at that time on and off until the early part of 2004. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a good relationship it just means that you will go through periods of confusion as well as temptations regarding secret affairs or the person you are with cheating on you. It can be a highly creative period and a great time to expand where your professional goals are concerned.
Eugenia
