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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I'm asking you a favor. I don't know how I should start. I have someone whom I really love. I have been going out with him for more than a year. We live in different cities. I'm not going to write a long story. What I'd like to know is whether I can keep this relation or not. My parents hate him. They haven't even seen him but they heard his voice on the phone. They say his voice is too hoarse, it make him sound like he is a triad. Well, he was once in a gang but not now. He quit long time ago and now he is working in a fabric related company. We are secretly seeing each other and I like him. What should I do? His birthday is July 5, 1976 (Lunar month) and I'm not sure about his time of birth. I was born April 9, 1980, at 2:15 AM. I'll be waiting for your reply.
In Love
Dear In Love
Lovers come and go but family is with you forever. The comparison with your Cancer man wasn't bad however sorrow does appear when it comes to dealing with your family and the possibility that he can become physical aggressiveness with you is evident as well. It is important for you to be honest with your family and ask them to at least meet this man and not judge him by his voice. If your family still feels strongly that he is not the one for you consider that they might be picking up on the fact that he does have some traits that might not be too favorable. You may be blind to his defects because you are in love with him. Keep in mind that right now he is on his best behavior but at some point he will show his true colors and when he does his aggressive side may not be as nice. His chart does indicate that he is very sensitive and extremely bright however there is also an element of unpredictability. I believe that you do have a connection to one another however without your families blessing I feel that it would eventually cause a problem in your relationship.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I am studying in London and I have been feeling very depressed and lost for quite some time. Even though I tried very hard, I still could not solve the problems. I was born on December 29, 1974 at 1:50am. First of all I want to find out if I have the tendency being a homosexual. I am still in love with a girl I met in university. No matter how she hurts me, I still care about her. I have done so much for her, even more than my ex boyfriend and fianc?e. She makes me lose my senses. After a fight with her, I even had a 1-night stand with a man to satisfy myself. I say to myself that I do not love her but I will secretly look at her email messages. I can lie to my best friend because of her but I cannot give her up. During this year, I will not accept any other man or woman. I want to ask if I am destined to be a homosexual or bisexual? Is she really the love of my life?
Once I think of her, I cannot let go of her. I cannot continue to write. Hope you will give me a reply soonest.
Thank you.
Silly baby
Dear Silly baby
Your chart does indicate that you do swim in both directions sexually. However, I believe that as you mature you will probably find that companionship will be based on friendship as well as family issues. I believe that you need a person in your life that will be loving, kind and share the same interests. This could turn out to be either sex. The fact that you are obsessed with this particular female is not necessarily a good thing. I believe that you have been going through a certain amount of self-deception and denial over the past few years. Now that this particular period has come to an end you should be able to start growing in a direction that will allow you to move on letting this relationship go. Regardless of whether this person is male or female it has not been a healthy connection for you. Prepare to clear your head and sort out what it is that you truly want out of life. Your chart does indicate that you would be a terrific mother and although that might not be on your mind right now it is something that you should consider. If not having children of your own, certainly doing something with children. Your chart is very creative and you show potential where traveling, teaching, communication and working in the medical field is concerned. You are bright, talented and need to focus on what it is you what to be and do along with where it is that you want to live. I believe that you would also do well immigrating to a country that would allow you greater freedom to expand your interests and your horizons.
Eugenia
