We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I got to know your site from a book. I hate my life and I scold myself sometimes. I'm a father of one family, whose life can't be described as smooth-going. People say I'm smart. Maybe I'm showing off but I don't think I'm a loser either. However, if you look at what has happened to me, it feels like Murphy's Law. It goes the opposite of what I have planned. If it were my own fault, I wouldn't blame anyone. But, it's not...For example, there are always some unexpected things in business. Someone makes a mistake while I am always the one who gets the blame and has to be responsible. Thus, I'm very careful at work and I make sure not to make mistakes. But, well, things always go wrong. Now, I'm afraid of starting new things. One day, I went to a temple with my colleagues. I was extremely tired when I got there because I had to drive for hours. One monk there looked at how tired I was and he told me, I'll have bad fortune since I have done something bad in my previous life (destiny). He said I need to help others in order to pay back what I have done badly. However, I was busy so. I came back to Seoul and started a new business. What he said was right. Nothing worked out. I don't know what I have done in my previous life. That's why I'd like to know what it was. How should I accept this daily routine then? I'm writing to you since my life is a continuation of failures. If there is a way to help me, I hope I'll get the help.... I was born January 13, 1962, at 1:30 AM.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I don't believe that you are failing because of something you did, however I do believe that your timing has been off. Your chart indicates that you have been going through very changeable times and that you have not had the most honest and forthright people around you. When you are blamed it probably isn't your fault. You are not a person who should go into business partnerships and the type of work you choose to do should be dealing with public relations, sales, business, travel, computers, communications, teaching and so on. I do agree with what the Monk said regarding the fact that you should be helping others but so should everyone else who is capable. You are coming into a much higher cycle regarding your home, family and personal investments however if you don't do something in order to make the changes that are necessary you will once again be off on your timing. February, April and May will be very important months for you to make simple, safe and secure changes, not drastic alterations. The key will be to build a solid base by taking tiny steps that will result in added confidence as well as lead to the success you're looking for. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
December 5th 2025
Happy Birthday: Relationships will play a role in how and where you live. An ideal way to handle change is to initiate trial runs to ensure you are making the most suitable choices. Jumping into something too quickly can lead to having to backtrack. Devote the necessary time to testing possibilities and exploring your options. There are always alternatives if you are open to discovery and suggestions. Your numbers are 5, 13, 22, 24, 35, 38, 43.
