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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Eugenia hi,
I am currently on a complete roller coaster ride with a guy that I am dating and am not sure which way to go with it, ie, should I keep 'riding' in hopes of a commitment or walk away and not look back. My intentions weren't to get involved with a man 10 years younger than me but I absolutely adore him and care for him. I have friends who are happily married to men who were 'difficult' in the beginning and they are in complete bliss now. Does this person look as though he could be a 'long term' or do our charts state otherwise. Any input would be a HUGE help.
Little Leo
Dear Little Leo
The comparison with your Cancer man was adequate but did show signs of sorrow in an area of your chart that deals with friends, family, work associates and communication. This can result in some deception and dishonesty about true feelings and what else is going on when he isn't with you. There are a lot of uncertainties that are going through your chart right now with regards to continuing this relationship. You are at a place in your life where you want to settle down. He is going through some major turmoil regarding taking that step. He was born with his natal Neptune opposite his natal Venus and that usually means that he can be a bit of a player, especially with his Venus being in the sign Gemini and his Neptune in Sagittarius. Without his time of birth I cannot tell you exactly how this will manifest itself in his chart but in yours I believe that he could eventually cheat. I usually like younger men older women relationships or the other way around, but in this case I do believe that you should not put up with anything that he dishes out and that you should keep your door open for a possible new love connection because your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where meeting new partners or having someone you cared about from your past coming back into your life. If you are tied up with your Cancer friend you aren't likely to be in a position to move onto someone who will treat you better. Regarding your friends who are happily married to difficult men - you'd have to be a fly on the wall to really know how good or bad their relationships are. The grass always looks greener on the other side. You match up better to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia!
I'm a female Aquarian with a Sagittarius moon and Pisces ascendant. I'm wondering what to do with my life. I quit work last December because, while I was good at what I was doing, I wasn't happy. I'm wondering if I should push myself in a more creative direction, but money is tight. I'm actually terrified of what I think I want - my family and friends would not like it, also, I've grown accustomed to using hope as an excuse to look forward to the future: Maybe one day I'll be doing something I like and getting rewarded for it.
I think life would be much easier if we were born with little instruction books which told us our life expectancy, where to find our partners, how many children we might have - if any, what job we were designed for and a step-by-step breakdown of our destiny; maybe wanting instructions is laziness, but I'm exhausted from living. I probably think too much. I went for a reading recently and I was told that I need to take a break... but I am taking a break and it's not helping me figure anything out.
Any clues to what's eating me or where I should go, what I should do?
Aquarius
Hello Aquarius
You aren't the only Aquarius who is confused right now but nothing so serious that a little creativity and following your dreams can't fix. We were all born with what I like to call a road map of our lives. That is what an astrological chart is. You my friend were born with a splash chart and that makes you quite capable of doing many different things. You are coming into lots of changes over the next few years especially where vocation, studying and traveling to distant lands are concerned. Your chart indicates many creative interests in which entertaining is one of them. You are the one who holds yourself back - no one else. You must be true to yourself and pursue the type of career that will make you happy. If you read my work on a regular basis you have probably heard me say many times that the prerequisite to happiness is doing the right thing at the right time for you.
You are coming into your first Saturn return next year and this is what I refer to as the maturing time in a person's life. It is very common for you to be reevaluating your life and your future direction. This is a pivotal period, a time to size up what you have done with your life up until this point and what the possibilities are for the future. This is your decision - no one else's and you have to make the alterations that will please you the most. If you want to pursue something creative the next couple of years is the time to do so. Don't look back too long or you will waste the opportunity to follow your heart. Take the plunge and give yourself a chance to find your niche. The worst case scenario is not trying to achieve your dreams and looking back in fifteen years when you go through your second half-life Saturn and you say to yourself could of, should of would of. Don't fall victim to having regrets because you didn't take the initiative - just do it - the time is right.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I have been in a relationship with a man for 18 years. He is a cancer born July 12, 1959 and I am a Pisces born March 16, 1959 at 10:54 pm. We have been lovers and friends for 16 years and decided to try living together for the last 2 years. He's going through something right now that has caused him to end our relationship. I don't really understand why we can't work things out together. I feel that since we moved in together he hasn't been straightforward or honest with me in what he expected from our "live in" relationship. He feels that if after 2 years we weren't going to get married that I should leave him. In turn, he dumped me. I am devastated, but am not the type to hang around and keep waiting for him to decide what he wants. Do you think we will ever get back together? I believed he was my soul mate. Was I wrong? I'm beginning a new chapter in my life on November 12th. I will be moving into my own place....I will truly miss him, though.
Pisces
Hi Pisces
Your Cancer partner has been going through emotional confusion that has lead to a change of heart on his part. The comparison between the two of you is actually quite good except his natal Sun falls in an are of your chart that deals with dead end project and unfortunately Saturn has been moving through that part of your chart as well resulting in a spilt up situation. You began to go through your second half life Saturn around the time the two of you moved in together and this resulted in an on going make it or break it cycle. I believe that he may have regrets when things settle down for him in 2006 and that it is possible that he may come back into your life October/November of next year but I must warn you that you have to protect your heart and take your time if you decide that you still want to be with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance at that time and it is quite possible that you will meet someone who is more certain about what and who he wants in his life. You match up well to those born under that signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Your Cancer partner only has his natal Sun in the sign Cancer therefore he does match up to you because of the strong Leo influence in his chart. This means that he does have a lot of common ground with you and you do get along but also that you may have been together to teach one another a life lesson. I wouldn't rule this man out of your life but I certainly would be using the upcoming year to get out and meet new partners. You are youthful, sensitive, giving and there is every indication that you will have more than one soul mate throughout your life. They say that we all have eleven perfect matches on the planet. Just think - you have another ten to find. By joining organizations or through friends, dating services, travel and educational pursuits you are likely to meet someone very special over the course of the next ten months so don't sit around feeling badly because he is confused. Get on with your life and if he happens to come back and you've already met soul mate number two he will be out of luck.
Eugenia
