We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have written numerous times and am anxious to get an answer please as my life is turning around very quickly. In January of 2003 I left my husband of 22 years and we are now legally separated. I was born on July 6th, 1959 at 1 am and my ex was born on April 27, 1960. I have been seeing a married man, since September of 2002. He was born on June 13, 1962. He was verbally and physically abused as a child. His first wife cheated. His second wife was on the rebound and is verbally abusive to him to the point of him being depressed. There are many walls around this wonderful man, some of which have come down somewhat. He is hard to read sometimes but has become more open with me because of the trust we have built. I know there is stress in this relationship because I don't see him often and it is hard to tell sometimes where I stand. I know you are going to tell me to get out of this relationship because of the circumstances but I love him dearly and can't see life right now without him. Where does my life stand with him.
Cancer
Dear Cancer
I?m not about to tell you to get out of your relationship with your Gemini friend however I never believe that it?s a good idea to get into a relationship with someone until you are both free and clear of your past partners. You may be legally separated from your ex but with the high comparison you have with one another and the sort of love/hate connection that is so apparent I find it hard to believe that it is totally over. Your relationship with your Gemini friend is a little calmer and I certainly can see the attraction but he is hasn?t made a move to leave his current wife even though you say that she is abusive. You did not mention when she was born so I can?t comment on whether they actually get along or not. I believe that if he is to leave her it will probably be next fall when transiting Saturn conjuncts his natal Venus. That will be when he goes through his make it or break it period so he will either leave you or her but he probably won?t keep you both under wraps when that period hits. I don?t know that I would wait around if I were you but feel that you probably will.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I've written to you several times but as yet have not had an answer, so I'm sure that you must be extremely busy. Your advice is so thorough that I hope you will answer my letter. I have been seeing a Gemini male, born June 13, 1950, 4:30 p.m. We've been intimate but it has been more as a friendship than anything else. We don't live together but we live nearby one another. I've known him for approximately one and a half years. He comes on hot and cold (depending on his stresses of the day). He works in an extremely high stress job. If he's had a couple of beers he confesses that he likes me and that he can't believe that I would care for someone like him. He insists he wants to remain friends, yet when I tell him that I can't be friends and try to let go, he talks me into hanging around. I love this man deeply and have been trying to help him. Deep down I feel that he cares more than as a friend for me and doesn't want me out of his life. If the job has stressed him that particular day he does not want to talk and if he does, he has a tendency of cutting you off, so that all you want to do is get off the phone with him. Am I wasting my time? Should I continue to be friends with him? He continually tells me that I deserve better because he's not very stable emotionally, then when I stay away and then see him again, he's major happy to see me. Please tell me if it's worth my while to continue being friends with him or should I just leave him alone and hope he gets better without me. I'm having a hard time letting go but I need to know if I'm wasting my time. I was born January 7, 1947 at 5:15 PM.
Sabrina
Hi Sabrina
You have to be friends before you become lovers. Friends are there forever but lovers come and go. Wake up and realize that if you enjoy being with this man it really doesn't matter and get over his Gemini aloofness and enjoy the moment. I do believe that he loves you. You match up very well emotionally, physically and mentally - what more do you want. On the down side he falls in an area of your chart that deals with secret affairs so if he isn't including you in the rest of his life you may have a serious problem to deal with and you fall in an area of his chart that deals with communication and dealing with his friends and family so if there is a problem regarding these matters you may want to consider clearing them up before moving forward. Your chart indicates that you will be in a high cycle regarding commitment and getting serious beginning mid summer however that doesn't guarantee that it will be with him. With transiting Saturn beginning to move across the top of his chart this year you may find him more receptive to settling down as well as less stressed because he will finally be getting the recognition he needs to feel good about his work. If you don't find him leaning toward becoming more serious between now and the fall of next year you may want to set your sights on someone new. That being the case you may want to consider someone born under the sign Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn or Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
How do I get a reading done from you?? I watch your show, but it seems like you are in Toronto. How does one get a reading if they live in Vancouver from you? I also want to know whether it is a good time for me to return back to school. I work in the Construction Industry and I am thinking of taking some industry related courses. I am also concerned about my love life, I haven't been in a relationship since 1996, at that point I let go of a six-year relationship and felt we were going different directions. I dated someone in 2002 for about 6 weeks and it suddenly ended. What is in store for me now? I am pretty sociable; I try not to go to the bars to meet men, where else would you suggest?? The gentleman from 2002, is there another possibility for us, all I know is he was born Feb 6, 1965.
Please give me some guidance, as I feel I am at a loss with my life situations right now. My birth data is August 12, 1966 @ 3:30 am.
Thank you Eugenia!
Leo
Leo
You will find it easier to return to school or to take course later this year and next however in the mean time the area of your chart that deals with your profession is moving into a high cycle over the next couple of months so you may want to take a last stab at finding something that you really enjoy doing during this period. Regarding your relationships I believe that you will have some opportunities to meet someone through your new position. You did have a good comparison with t he gentleman in question however I feel that the timing was probably wrong. If you want to check him out again I suggest that you contact him in June/July. I will be offering an email consulting service very shortly. My web master is working on this feature and hopes to have it fully operational by April.
Eugenia
