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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am desperately in need of your help.? I was in a relationship with a Leo born August 08, 1966.? We were together for 7 years and he ended the relationship approximately 9 months ago and immediately started a relationship with another Leo born August 9, 1956.? I still care for him deeply even though I think he is a loser.? Recently (One month ago) he came back into my life and wants to have a relationship based on his terms (sexual) while still seeing this other person.? Do you see us having any sort of a future together based on compatibility.? I was born March 8, 1957 at 1 AM. He claims that sex was never an issue between us.
?We never really fought over anything when we were together.? I just got tired of his leaning on me financially and think he is now in financial trouble.? I think that is the only reason he wants to be with me.? Please advise as he is the only person who has ever made me truly happy in the past with his sense of humor.?? I need to know whether I should just let go and move on so I am desperate for a reply.? The other woman knows about our previous relationship but she is unaware that he has since cheated on her with me.
R
Dear R
Your Leo man matches up to both you and his Leo partner in similar ways. I believe that he was probably already seeing her when he was still with you. He has been dishonest and emotionally deceptive with both of you. The comparison he has with her shows sorrow as well. I believe that he wants his cake and eat it to. You must walk away from this situation swiftly. It?s time for you to move on ? meet new people and start a new relationship. Your chart indicates that travel or moving a distance may be a good move on your part if possible. This man is a loser and you deserve someone better. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and that is usually an indication that it won?t last. Don?t let this guy use you sexually - you really don?t know how many other people he is intimate with. Serious consequences are likely. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
My sun sign is in Cancer, I was born July 7, 1979, at 12:15 AM, and I've read enough on astrology to know that I should be compatible with both Virgo and Pisces. My past two relationships were with each, and although lengthy, they proved difficult.I think it may have something to do with my Aries rising. I'm afraid the aggressive nature so common in the ram is a bit intimidating, especially when the aggressor is female. My last fling was with an Aries male, and although at first there were sparks, it quickly diminished. I realize that other aspects affect astrological matchmaking, but I'd like to get your opinion on the matter. What male sign can handle both the Aries stubbornness, and the crab's ultra-sensitivity? My moon is in Sagittarius.
Thank you.
Aggressive Crab
Dear Aggressive Crab
Actually in your particular case the Sun sign match up doesn't work all that well. Normally you should get along well with both Virgo and Scorpio. However, the sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects so it's unlikely to work. To add to this your natal Jupiter and Mercury are in the sign Leo adversely aspected to the sign Scorpio. The sign Virgo falls in an area that deals with work not personal matters such as relationships plus you have your natal Mars in Gemini and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius and that would clearly play havoc with a strong Virgo. Having your natal Sun in the 4th house adversely aspected to your natal Pluto in the 7th leads me to believe that you will have difficulty with relationships. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a happy union. Especially with your natal Moon, Neptune, Jupiter and Mercury well aspected to the Pluto in your 7th but it does mean that you will have to choose your partner wisely and realize that relationships don't just happen, they require work, dedication, devotion and perseverance. You match up well to those born under the signs, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn and Aquarius. I suggest that you always run a comparison before you decide to get serious and intimate with someone. Although a person can be born under one of these signs it does not mean that they will have a lot of their natal planets in that sign and this could result in difficulties once again.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia,
This my second time attempting to write to you and to hopefully get some kind of feedback. I am a 21-year old female born 4-21-80 at 2:26 am, anyways, my question is relating to my status in the department in love; I have dated a lot of duds that never seem to live up to my expectations in love. I always settle for second best, I always stay with them when I know they are not being true to me, I always do all the phone calls to them and the "I love you's", and always in the end I get burned. I know it sounds like I'm complaining BIG time butI'm tired of falling in love with the wrong men. I get so jealous when I see happy couples around my age in love that I get bitter, depressed and angry.
But oddly, I'm in a relationship right now, a long distance one at that, but I'm not happy, but I'm holding on to it because I need to fill that empty space in my heart. So I guess what I'm asking is what path to take with this problem I have in love.
Confused (and Bitter) in Love
Dear Confused (and Bitter) in Love
You aren't alone. Many people pick the wrong person, stay in a relationship that isn't working for too long and so on. It usually has to do with a lack of confidence, self-esteem, fear of being alone etc. I must reiterate however that if you are involved with someone who isn't good for you it is hard to meet someone who could be. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding love and will continue to be for the better part of the next year. You do need to get out and socialize and I suggest that when you do meet someone you have an astrological comparison done just to know what the pro's and cons of the relationship will be and how well you match up. You do well with those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Part of the problem that you have regarding picking the right partner is due to your natal Venus being opposite your natal Neptune. This can cause sorrow, deception and disillusionment if you aren't careful. Please consult my compatibility feature at www.astroadvice.com before you give your heart to another loser.
