We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I am very involved in a long distance relationship. We talk every day, but, of course, see each other infrequently. We have 3 visits of 2 weeks each planned for this year.?We have started to think about relocating to be together. The question is...which one of us moves?? Also, when should the move be planned for?? We are both in the same business and would work together too, although his business is more established than mine, so it would be easier for me to work into his.? But my family is here, and I love where I live.? Only love could make me leave it.? One more wrinkle...he is recently separated, and I feel he needs some time on his own...to be single...before making a long term commitment. With that in mind, I do fear the thoughts of losing him. My question for you Eugenia is this:? does it make sense for me to think about planning for a future of living and working with this man? Or should I just enjoy what we have now, knowing that it is short term?
I really appreciate any insight you can give me in this situation.? Dealing with a long distance relationship can be wonderful....or dreadful.? I hate the thoughts of setting myself up for getting hurt.? Thank you so much for your help Eugenia....you are wonderful! Please do not include our birth data.
Leo
Hi Leo
I don?t have a concern with the age difference however there was one problem that the astrological comparison did reveal. His natal Sun is opposite your natal Neptune and this can cause some deception or difficulties in an area of his chart that deals with communication and travel or the distance that you have between you. In your chart it deals with a work area which could eventually create problems because you are in the same vocation or work for the same company. I do not however feel that this is something that should stop you from pursuing you intention to eventually make a move to be together. His chart indicates that he is more inclined to make a short distance move over the next year. In other words he buys a house and moves from where he is living now to a nearby neighborhood. In your case the move appears to be a distant move from one state or province to another over the upcoming year.
There are no guarantees when it comes to love and even though your comparison is good a relationship takes work. If you feel that you will miss your friends and family you may want to consider your option to move very slowly with this relationship. Where he resides it is certainly not the same climate physically or mentally and the adjustment will be difficult. I suggest that you spend as much time visiting him as possible to get a better feel for the area. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with relationships which is good and you fall in the offshoot of that area in his chart which also brings favorable results. My only concern is that you are very family oriented and it will be difficult for you to leave the people you love behind should you make the move. If he were to make the move to your local it would have to be in the fall of 2005. Before that time would probably be a mistake or lead to some problems. If you feel that you want to take that amount of time before you are together I would suggest that you do so.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I guess I'm reaching out to you because I need the opinion of a person not close to me. I'm currently involved with a man who I think I might be in love with. He's a few years older than I am and he has a girlfriend. He's been with her for at least 2 years. We've been dating (having sex) for the past year. I have developed strong feelings for him and have told him so. He has told me that he isn't ready for marriage but wants to be in a relationship that could lead to that. I want what we have to turn into something more. I want a committed relationship. I have dreams about marrying this man. I just need to know if our relationship is going to develop into something deeper. Does he really want to be with me or is he just wanting me for sex? His birthday is May 13, 1975 and mine is July 8, 1980 at 4 PM. Thank you for you insight.
Cancer
Hi Cancer
A relationship built on lies, cheating and deceit isn?t likely to progress in a secure and long-lasting manner. The comparison wasn?t great however I must admit that the sex is probably decent. You did not submit his girlfriends date of birth so I can?t tell you how well he matches up to her but I?m assuming it is probably better than the comparison that you have with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and relationships beginning this fall. I suggest that you dump this loser who hasn?t had the guts to finish one relationship before he begins another. By doing so you will be free and clear to meet a much better candidate for love later this year when you chart denotes love and romance. You match up well to the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
