We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From gabituca

Dear Eugenia,

I am really lost in my life and I don't know what to do. I was born on 03/21/1967 at 1:00am. Two years ago I left my country to live in Mexico together with my daughter (06/16/1989-7:26pm). We lived there for almost one year and we were happy. After some time I met a men who lives in US and we got married. Now we are living in US but the situation is very difficult for me and my daughter. Because my husband (01/31/1959-2:50 am) is only permanent resident here, we have to wait for the immigration process between 5 and 7 years. Meanwhile my daughter and I cannot have a legal status and it was impossible to find other ways to be legal. This means that I cannot work legally, I am 100% dependent of my husband, I feel very lonely and depressed. We don't have family around, we don't have friends. My husband is a very difficult man, grumpy, without any sense of humor, the macho style, stingy, he wants somebody to take care of him, to cook for him, to respect him, he needs a woman that can replace his mother. I caught him right after the wedding, last year, by mistake, that he receives a lot of emails from a lot of women, very loving emails...you know...I was very hurt and upset for a long time. He lived alone for many years and he told me that he was looking for a relationship and even after he said to everybody that he is married and happy now, these women are still writing to him and he doesn't know what to do with them. Can you believe that? Because I didn't...his behavior with my daughter is very bad. He is very rude with her. She is a very nice teenager, brilliant at school, very smart. Everybody loves her except him. She is doing all the time a big effort to please him, but nothing seems to be right for him. He recognizes that she is very intelligent but always he says that she is not doing enough and he puts a lot of pressure on her. I tried hundreds of times to explain to him that his behavior is wrong, but he still thinks he is perfect and his skills like a parent are perfect. In my opinion he doesn't have any skills and he doesn't want to learn anyway.

He was very sick in the last months, he had open heart surgery, and I helped him a lot in his recovery...he was not able to do anything by himself...Even if he recognizes that me and my daughter were very close to him during all this hard time that he had, his behavior doesn't change...is the same grumpy, rude and without manners person.

My daughter and I?are thinking to leave him, but the problem is that we don't have anywhere to go. We cannot return to Mexico, because we don't have anything there anymore, and is the same situation for my country too.

I would not like to divorce (it will be the third one in my life), I really want to work out this relationship, I really want to help him learn how to be a nice person, I really want to have a nice family...He tells me that he loves me, but it seems to be so difficult for him to show that...

What do you see in my horoscope regarding this situation? Do you think that I will be able to find the way to fix all this problems? I don't want to see my daughter unhappy...I don't want to be unhappy too... what do you think about that?

Thank you very much,?
gabituca

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Dear gabituca

The astrological comparison that you have with your husband really is quite good. There is some sorrow in an area that deals with children. I believe that his problem is that he was used to living alone and although he craved having a woman in his life a ready made family was not really what he wanted. He fell in love with you and your daughter was something he had to tolerate. It isn?t that he has a bad comparison with her ? in fact it is actually quite favorable however the problem is he can?t wrap his head around the idea of having to deal with the normal life changes that having a teenager around the house brings with it. For you i

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Article: From Marchalamor

Dear Eugenia

I have been with the same man for 22 years, married for 13. So there is no need to tell you how much it hurt when he left me for another woman. It was totally unexpected, as I love my husband very much. I was born in Montreal, March 15, 1961 between 1:15 and 1:30 PM and he on February 13, 1961. The woman he left the children and me for was born June 10th, 1967 and let me tell you that she is quite the number. She contacted me a few times and she is very nasty.

What is in store for me in 2003? Is it divorce or reconciliation? I have a feeling my husband does not see everything that he is losing by leaving the family and engaging in a relationship where one of the parties seems to be after money. Please tell me that my children and myself will be OK.

MARCHALAMOR

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Dear MARCHALAMOR

I understand your grief, it is always hard to be put in the position that your husband has put you in. If it's any consolation you do match up better to him then she does in most aspects however physically he matches up better to her. I do feel however that once the physical subsides that trouble will brew between them. Sorrow is present in the comparison between them and will probably surface over the next couple of years should they last that long. Even should they not last I do feel that you must be made aware of the fact that your husband is probably a bed bouncer. He can be smooth, erratic and usually gets away with things. Personally I believe that you should be the one moving on. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love over the summer months (especially August) now this can mean that he will waltz back into your life or you will meet someone worthy of your sincerity, love and affection. If your ex sees you moving on I'm afraid he will start to realize what he has given up and quite frankly you can do better. You do match up to his sign but the natal Sun in his chart does fall in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects. If you pick another Aquarius choose one born early in the sign like late January early February for best results. You also match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Leo, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn.

Eugenia

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Article: Jumping the Pond

Hi Eugenia

Your site is pretty interesting, so I often visit it. This is the first time I have written to you.

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 10 yrs. We planned to get married this year but suddenly, he suggested we both study abroad for one year and get married afterward. Even though we are still lovers, I am worrying about our future. My boyfriend was born on July 18, 1974 at 6 am and I was born March 20, 1974, at 2 AM.

Our parents do not support our decision. We will be spending our own money that we have saved for years. Also, after we come back, our jobs are not guaranteed. I don't know whether it is necessary to go abroad for our future. Can you also tell me what kinds of jobs suit me and do I have luck financially? I'm sorry to ask you so many questions at one time... Take care.

Eager to Know

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Dear Eager to Know

I don't believe either one of you will do well regarding successful studies abroad. Your chart indicates that you should be considering getting on with your career. You are in a high cycle in that regard and I would hate you to miss a good professional opportunity. As for your boyfriend the comparison was good however I believe that if he goes abroad he will regret his choice. I understand his urgency to get away as he does have a need to do something different. Perhaps the money would be better spent on a trip that would be educational. Traveling to a different part of the world and experiencing foreign cultures and traditions would be an education and something that you can share together. You wouldn't have to go away for too long and you could return to your jobs or to new positions that could very well be better then the ones you had before your trip.

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