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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am really lost in my life and I don't know what to do. I was born on 03/21/1967 at 1:00am. Two years ago I left my country to live in Mexico together with my daughter (06/16/1989-7:26pm). We lived there for almost one year and we were happy. After some time I met a men who lives in US and we got married. Now we are living in US but the situation is very difficult for me and my daughter. Because my husband (01/31/1959-2:50 am) is only permanent resident here, we have to wait for the immigration process between 5 and 7 years. Meanwhile my daughter and I cannot have a legal status and it was impossible to find other ways to be legal. This means that I cannot work legally, I am 100% dependent of my husband, I feel very lonely and depressed. We don't have family around, we don't have friends. My husband is a very difficult man, grumpy, without any sense of humor, the macho style, stingy, he wants somebody to take care of him, to cook for him, to respect him, he needs a woman that can replace his mother. I caught him right after the wedding, last year, by mistake, that he receives a lot of emails from a lot of women, very loving emails...you know...I was very hurt and upset for a long time. He lived alone for many years and he told me that he was looking for a relationship and even after he said to everybody that he is married and happy now, these women are still writing to him and he doesn't know what to do with them. Can you believe that? Because I didn't...his behavior with my daughter is very bad. He is very rude with her. She is a very nice teenager, brilliant at school, very smart. Everybody loves her except him. She is doing all the time a big effort to please him, but nothing seems to be right for him. He recognizes that she is very intelligent but always he says that she is not doing enough and he puts a lot of pressure on her. I tried hundreds of times to explain to him that his behavior is wrong, but he still thinks he is perfect and his skills like a parent are perfect. In my opinion he doesn't have any skills and he doesn't want to learn anyway.
He was very sick in the last months, he had open heart surgery, and I helped him a lot in his recovery...he was not able to do anything by himself...Even if he recognizes that me and my daughter were very close to him during all this hard time that he had, his behavior doesn't change...is the same grumpy, rude and without manners person.
My daughter and I?are thinking to leave him, but the problem is that we don't have anywhere to go. We cannot return to Mexico, because we don't have anything there anymore, and is the same situation for my country too.
I would not like to divorce (it will be the third one in my life), I really want to work out this relationship, I really want to help him learn how to be a nice person, I really want to have a nice family...He tells me that he loves me, but it seems to be so difficult for him to show that...
What do you see in my horoscope regarding this situation? Do you think that I will be able to find the way to fix all this problems? I don't want to see my daughter unhappy...I don't want to be unhappy too... what do you think about that?
Thank you very much,?
gabituca
Dear gabituca
The astrological comparison that you have with your husband really is quite good. There is some sorrow in an area that deals with children. I believe that his problem is that he was used to living alone and although he craved having a woman in his life a ready made family was not really what he wanted. He fell in love with you and your daughter was something he had to tolerate. It isn?t that he has a bad comparison with her ? in fact it is actually quite favorable however the problem is he can?t wrap his head around the idea of having to deal with the normal life changes that having a teenager around the house brings with it. For you i
Hi Eugenia
I would like to thank you for taking to time to read this. I'm a 21-year-old male born February 16, 1982, at 1 AM and life just is not getting better for me. I have been on my own since I was 16 and alone ever since then. I busted my ass in high school and finished with a 3.5 GPA on my own while working a full time job. I have been out of school for 2 years now and I haven't had a job since Oct. I wake up ever day and look for a job and nothing yet. I'm also in a band and it's going ok but very slow. I would like to know if any thing good is going to happen for me. Will I find a good job, will my band take off, and will I find some one to spend my life with, please tell me any thing you can. Thank you again
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius
Things have been tough but you've worked hard and it will pay off. Regarding your band you should be walking the pavement, making calls, sending out demo's etc between now and June. There is a transit going through your chart that should bring you help as well as favors. Partnerships also look good and that can be regarding both business and personal between now and then. The job prospects start to get much better over the summer months and will continue to do so until late next year. Now that doesn't mean that you can't find something before that time but that you should advance over the course of the next eighteen months. Your chart still shows educational pursuits with the intent of raising your earning potential so don't rule out taking a course that interests you. You have an entrepreneurial chart and that means that you can do your own thing and run your own business. If something interests you that you can offer others do so now. That way you will choose your own hours leaving yourself open to pursue music. You are talented but you hold yourself back by not believing that you have what it takes. You match up well to the signs Aries, Taurus, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I'm going to be 57 years old born November 22, 1947 at 6 AM, married twice, had a good life well yes and no, don't know what I want, still looking for some thing, why am I so mixed up, I still don't know what I want to be or what I'm here for, love traveling, but would really like a goal in life before it's over, I plan to live a long life could you point me in the right direction, I'm a very confused Cusp you said I'm a Scorpio but feel more like a Sagittarius ....please help me okay .I think your so very very good I read all your letters ,you must be very special great gift you have ...
James
Hi James
I'm surprised you've only been married twice after viewing your chart. You do have just as much Sagittarius in your chart as Scorpio but the sign Leo appears to influence you even more. Having your natal Venus in Sagittarius well aspected I don't think you have a problem meeting partners nor do I think you are one to totally commit. The past couple of years and for the next couple of years you are being hit by a transiting planet that is causing great confusion and although this can make it difficult to find a direction it can also open doors and lead you down some very creative and unpredictable pathways that will help contribute to where you end up by around 2008. This can mean a complete lifestyle change but you must be careful not to let someone else be your guru so to speak. I believe when it comes to reaching or fulfilling your goals you tend to hold yourself back from what you really and truly want to do. You must travel back in time and think about your earliest aspirations and if you haven't gone down that road it may be time to take courses or do whatever is necessary in order to fulfill these desires. Love is in a high cycle between now and late summer of next year and you will meet potential partners if you travel or get involved in something that interests you or possibly by getting involved in a totally different way of life than what you are used to. You have a good chart but you are right about being confused. The only way to use this transit that is causing all your confusion positively is to get involved in a creative endeavor, a relationship or a different way of living.
Eugenia
