We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope I get lucky this time and you can answer my mail! I am sorry I cannot afford the confidential consultation right now. I'll try to make this as simple as possible given the world of questions I want to ask. Basically, I have been "in disgrace with fortune" all my life: I lost my childhood to anorexia, have been bullied very cruelly forever throughout my adolescence, and have always felt achingly alone. I have a very low self-esteem, which has led me to undertake breast augmentation surgery last year. Unluckily enough, I've developed capsular contracture (painful and deforming) on one breast, and have also contracted herpes (ironically enough, being a virgin). All this has kept me awake at night, seemingly a cascade coming from a destructive relationship I had last year with a boy (May 25, 1977, birth time unknown), my first "boyfriend" who? only used me and then treated me like nothing. I had never felt -and can never explain- such emptiness and desolation before, and given my timid, self-deprecating character, this shattered me. Will the stars ever shine on me one day Eugenia? I'm tired of trying to love myself and prove myself to others. By the way, as of now, there are two significant men on the horizon, one a Taurus (5.20.74), another Virgo (9.16.-, around 20 years older than me). And of course, the absence of He who hurt me so lingers ever present. Also, what do you see regarding my career? I work very hard. My dream has always been to be an artist - be it in the field of painting or writing.? I would appreciate it from the depth of my soul if you answered me Eugenia, and would think of your answer as one of the sweet miracles I often pray for. I was born March 6, 1982, at 1:18 pm.
Yours, Annabel
Dear Annabel
Let?s start with career and prospects in that area of your life first. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on learning, developing, picking up skills and definitely being creative in whatever you pursue. All that being said you may have to pick up a sales job or temp work in order to buy yourself some time to pursue whatever art you are drawn to. I have to say that music or lyrics also show up prominently.
Regarding your down and out attitude ? transiting Saturn has been largely responsible for that. It has been moving through a crucial area of your chart the past several years. First it affected your health and well being leaving you confused and feeling reclusive and then it moved on to an area of your chart causing depression especially when dealing with your personal life, the way you view yourself and dealing with relationships. Although this will continue to move through your chart over the upcoming year it is apparent that you should be handling matters a little better come the fall. Late September and October you will be in a high cycle regarding love, relationships and being with someone who understands you. Now this can also bring someone from your past back into your life so if you feel that you have unfinished business with your Gemini friend you may want to readdress that situation even if it is only to close the book, but don?t waste too much time on him because I believe you can do better. Now that is not to say that you didn?t match up to him but the comparison was a little iffy when it came to honesty. He has a lot of growing up to do and unfortunately I believe that he may never do so. He is erratic, fickle and probably a bed bouncer. The unfortunate thing is that he also captured your heart. Your Taurus friend matches up nicely however there is also a lack of honesty especially with regard to your philosophy, beliefs and values. He too is quick to change his mind and I believe he may have a hidden agenda that you are not aware of. You did not mention your Virgo friends exact year of birth so I can?t set up a chart or compare him to you but you can check out how well you match u
Dear Eugenia:
My life is a mess. I really hope that you will choose my letter as I really don't know what to do anymore. I know that you can't give me all the answers but maybe you can give me some direction.
I was born April 11, 1964 1:07AM, and I currently live abroad. I have been involved in a relationship since 1989 and last March I was told it was over. My fianc?e was born July 3, 1965 1:45PM. I have spent over 1 year trying to work things out with her but she maintains that it is over. I believe that she is the one for me and that is why I have tried so hard to work things out.
I am now at the point where I feel like giving up. If I do, I don't feel that I can stay here anymore. It would hurt too much. I have been here so long that I really don't have a home anywhere. Where I grew up, no longer feels like home.Therefore my question really comes down to whether or not I should keep trying to work things out and if not should I return to my birthplace or go somewhere else?
Up in the Air
Dear Up in the Air
The comparison was quite good however I believe that it is possible that too much has happened during the ten years you were together such as not committing one hundred percent through marriage. Her chart indicates that she may have found some outside interest early last year that made her realize that she wasn't happy with you. That may sound harsh but I feel that it's reality. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that could bring someone from your past back into your life between now and October. This could be her or someone from back home perhaps. My suggestion to you is that you take a month and travel back to your routes just to see what's happening. You may meet someone who urges you to move home. The other scenario might be that if your Cancer fianc?e feels that she may lose you forever she might be inclined to change her mind. Your charts indicate that you have been going through a make it or break it period for a few years and it was only natural that something had to give. I believe she truly loves/loved you but that you probably frustrated her regarding marriage and children for a number of years and now you are paying the consequences.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Sometime during the first half of February 1995 I met this man. His birth date is 4.4.1967. He was my supervisor; I was a phone sales associate. When I first saw him I disliked the way he looked and assumed I wouldn't care whatever his personality was, either. It turned out that he was a wonderful mentor, a really good boss and just naturally inclined at helping people out. I did very well on that job due to his excellent guidance, and I'm sure a lot of the people there, even though they didn't say anything to my face, thought that he was playing favorites. I didn't mind because I wanted to achieve much and get along with everybody at the same time, so my stance was basically a neutral one, which they had loved to call "being professional".
My confusion started when he began acting as if we were really close. In that place where men out number women in selling and dealing with auto parts, I didn't have difficulty eventually becoming one of the guys where handshakes, arm linking hugs, back pats (or slaps) and even shoulder holding were just normal, friendly ways of interacting so it wasn't an issue of unwanted advances or sexual harassment. What bothered me was that we couldn't seem to talk about ourselves except when it had to do with work. He was starting to grow on me, and during those times when he seemed to be making passes at me, I was delighted with it but didn't want to take him up on it, until he leveled with me on what his intentions were. I just couldn't allow it to sweep me off my feet because it didn't feel honest, and one thing I've always wanted more than anything else was to be in an equal relationship. We went on like this until he left the company to pursue other opportunities. Even though nothing officially intimate happened between us, I still felt really sad, as though a lover had left. I was depressed for a while, all the time thinking I was crazy and totally out of my head, that I didn't initiate things. What did it matter if you love a person yet you're both engaging in some sort of power play where it seemed like the affection was with held by omission?
The definite upside on the whole thing was that it prompted me to look for answers instead of letting it eat at me by becoming bitter. A lot of interesting things came up during my self-studies, but somehow I couldn't accept that it would've worked out nicely if only one of us had been up front to the other. Clearly he could've seen that I was focused on my work yet everybody had found me easy to talk to, to relate to, to connect to. It just didn't make any sense, partly because there were a lot of things that I didn't know about him, even though his actions spoke louder than words. It was strange too, that judging from what pathetic little I knew about him, I could feel that he was very familiar to me I couldn't help but think that past lives might be a valid concept. The chemistry and "magic" were all certainly there, but then again, I didn't want to think that his actions were spurred by those factors alone.
I know solidly now at this point that I'd throw caution to the winds and tell him what I feel about him if I was lucky enough to be given another chance at seeing him again. But since I'm not sure about it happening, I'm faced again with the task of finding an answer as to how to make my peace with the whole thing. Through sheer will I tried hard not to let it affect me so much as to disrupt the normal goings on in my life, and I'm proud to say I succeeded in doing so. I've talked to some people about it, but somehow I get the feeling that they don't really understand, and I don't blame them.
Astrology was one subject that really helped me make sense of it on my own. However, I've never gotten any insights from astrologers, except from interpretations I read in books. I was born March 24, 1973, at 4:04 PM. I hope my letter will be interesting enough to merit your attention and consideration. T
