We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope I get lucky this time and you can answer my mail! I am sorry I cannot afford the confidential consultation right now. I'll try to make this as simple as possible given the world of questions I want to ask. Basically, I have been "in disgrace with fortune" all my life: I lost my childhood to anorexia, have been bullied very cruelly forever throughout my adolescence, and have always felt achingly alone. I have a very low self-esteem, which has led me to undertake breast augmentation surgery last year. Unluckily enough, I've developed capsular contracture (painful and deforming) on one breast, and have also contracted herpes (ironically enough, being a virgin). All this has kept me awake at night, seemingly a cascade coming from a destructive relationship I had last year with a boy (May 25, 1977, birth time unknown), my first "boyfriend" who? only used me and then treated me like nothing. I had never felt -and can never explain- such emptiness and desolation before, and given my timid, self-deprecating character, this shattered me. Will the stars ever shine on me one day Eugenia? I'm tired of trying to love myself and prove myself to others. By the way, as of now, there are two significant men on the horizon, one a Taurus (5.20.74), another Virgo (9.16.-, around 20 years older than me). And of course, the absence of He who hurt me so lingers ever present. Also, what do you see regarding my career? I work very hard. My dream has always been to be an artist - be it in the field of painting or writing.? I would appreciate it from the depth of my soul if you answered me Eugenia, and would think of your answer as one of the sweet miracles I often pray for. I was born March 6, 1982, at 1:18 pm.
Yours, Annabel
Dear Annabel
Let?s start with career and prospects in that area of your life first. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on learning, developing, picking up skills and definitely being creative in whatever you pursue. All that being said you may have to pick up a sales job or temp work in order to buy yourself some time to pursue whatever art you are drawn to. I have to say that music or lyrics also show up prominently.
Regarding your down and out attitude ? transiting Saturn has been largely responsible for that. It has been moving through a crucial area of your chart the past several years. First it affected your health and well being leaving you confused and feeling reclusive and then it moved on to an area of your chart causing depression especially when dealing with your personal life, the way you view yourself and dealing with relationships. Although this will continue to move through your chart over the upcoming year it is apparent that you should be handling matters a little better come the fall. Late September and October you will be in a high cycle regarding love, relationships and being with someone who understands you. Now this can also bring someone from your past back into your life so if you feel that you have unfinished business with your Gemini friend you may want to readdress that situation even if it is only to close the book, but don?t waste too much time on him because I believe you can do better. Now that is not to say that you didn?t match up to him but the comparison was a little iffy when it came to honesty. He has a lot of growing up to do and unfortunately I believe that he may never do so. He is erratic, fickle and probably a bed bouncer. The unfortunate thing is that he also captured your heart. Your Taurus friend matches up nicely however there is also a lack of honesty especially with regard to your philosophy, beliefs and values. He too is quick to change his mind and I believe he may have a hidden agenda that you are not aware of. You did not mention your Virgo friends exact year of birth so I can?t set up a chart or compare him to you but you can check out how well you match u
Dear Eugenia,
I am at a very strange point in my life, which feels very chaotic--sometimes as though it is moving in a positive direction, and sometimes as though it is very stagnant.
I am entering my third year of university, studying art, art history, and German. I'm at a point at which I really need to figure out what it is I want to do long-term. I feel pressure from my family to make this decision (mainly on my mother's side, though my mother and I are almost entirely out-of-touch, as she is with her sister and parents). I also feel internal pressure, as though I may feel more confident and clear-headed if I can make a commitment and develop some sort of plan to pursue my education and career beyond this point. Basically, I am feeling directionless, confused, and as though I have no solid ground to fall back on. I worry a lot about my mother, but cannot stay in contact with her, as she is experiencing a time of sever financial difficulties and, as a result, has no phone line, disallowing contact by phone or email. (She was born August 11, 1950.) All I can say about my desires for the future is that I want to be involved in art --the only thing that is truly fulfilling for me. I would love to be a professional artist, but that is risky and I do not want to put myself into a situation of financial despair. I have seen both of my parents struggle throughout my entire life thus far.
In addition to these feelings, I am having a difficult time romantically. I have been seeing a man (born February 6th, 1977) for about 6 months. Though we connect very well intellectually, we are both very busy. I have a hectic work, school and homework schedule, while he is very social and constantly has plans to go out with friends, which he views as obligations. He therefore has little time to spend with me during the time I actually have free and is frustrated that I never want to go out and party with him and his friends. I think that, due to our different lifestyles, we may not be able to reconcile this, though I care for him very much and when we are together, he seems to feel the same way. My luck with men isn't too good and upon our initially getting together, I was excited to finally meet someone I could connect with, who was intelligent, observant, and who seemed to share so many interests.
Do you see any end to the constant stress, chaos and frustration resulting from my present life and relationships, as well as my attempting to sort out my future endeavors?
Please help! I am so confused and freaked-out by every aspect of my life right now!! I was born Oct. 22, 1981 at 1:45 PM.
Thank you so much,
M
Dear M
You are a strong Libra. All your natal planets in that sign are in an area of your chart that deals with higher education, travel, philosophy, immigration and different cultures. That being said it isn't surprising that you are waffling about your future and your educational pursuits. I believe however that you must get on with it and finish whatever you have already begun. Your chart indicates that you should be in school or at least in a learning environment for the next two years although I do believe that you will be able to pick up work in the field of your choice beginning next year. This could lead to an apprenticeship, learning on the job or working and continuing your education. I believe that it is important to follow your dream however it is also necessary to support your addiction to your art/dream/etc. You are still young and have time. Your chart indicates that if you finish school this next year that the following year will still be a learning experience for you - possibly a chance to move to Germany where you can put your second language to use while you pursue a position in at a gallery or in some other area that relates to the arts. Teaching is also something that shows prominently in your char
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
