We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I realize you are swamped with letters, however I am going through a divorce after 291/2-years. I was born 3-31-48 at 11:27pm in Chicago, IL. My husband was born 8-28-50 at 11:13am in Gary, Indiana. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple! We have one daughter age 27 that dearly loves us both. My husband had an affair with his 25-year old secretary. I found out in Feb. of this year and he did not give her up after all my attempts to make the marriage work. I finally realized I am better off without him. But, God it hurts and I am scared to death. We came to a divorce agreement on Friday and the papers are being drawn up for us to sign. How do I get my self-confidence back after being knocked down for so many years? Last week I saw my first loves identical twin brother and we definitely have a connection (I think) he was born 3-1-41.
I am looking for advice on how to go on with my life and not hurt so much. I loved my husband so much but didn't like what he turned into. Please help me-I am hurting so bad.
Aries
Dear Aries
You have a pretty good chart. Some high cycles are approaching in different areas of life. Romance and relationships look promising between October and February and it will be important that you get out and join in the fun in order to hook up with someone who can take your mind off your cheating husband. You do match up quite nicely to your first loves brother and I wouldn't hesitate to follow through with your connection to him. You also match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces. Regarding your comparison with your ex, surprisingly enough it was just adequate. I must stress that it is important that you take care of any legal matters. Make sure that you get your share of whatever the two of you accumulated over the years. It's one thing to be hurt and another to be hurt and financially in the poorhouse. Once you know that your financial situation is okay you will feel much better about yourself and your future. You should be considering what you want to do with the rest of your life. The area of your chart that deals with work and money is moving into favorable times and you should consider all the things that you used to dream about doing. Your chart indicates that you do have ability in areas that deal with communications, travel, hospitality industry and sales. Don't be afraid to try new things. You will find out how capable you are very quickly if you take control and make the effort.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel so frustrated and unhappy at times. Nearly 5 years ago I moved to another province with my partner (March 13, 1951) so that we could be near his kids. We thought it was for the best; one of the children was having problems and it made sense to be closer. But problems with his ex-wife have never gone away and it's just never improved here. We don't get to see the kids and it's been at times a nightmare dealing with his ex. On top of that, we have had financial difficulties almost from the beginning. I couldn't find full time work for ages and he found work, was laid off and has been trying to do contracting since. I finally found work that I like but I am still not very happy. My partner gets work sporadically and we are just not doing well financially. I get frustrated with him and frustrated with this situation. Plenty of times I think about leaving. My head says go home, my heart says stay here. I don't feel that this is the right place for me. It seems a waste of time since we rarely see his kids anyway. My biggest concern is finding work; his is losing the kids even more. But I still feel the burning desire to move home. Do you see me (or us together) leaving here and returning home or moving someplace else? What is our financial outlook for the next year? I was born September 12, 1961 at 10:44 am. Thanks for listening.
Virgo/Pisces
Dear Virgo/Pisces
Without your husbands time of birth it is difficult to know what he will do. He is facing some changes and I do believe that emotionally he will be getting his life together over the course of the next year while he benefits from a Saturn transit that is moving through his chart. On the other hand he may also be questioning his personal direction as well. Once he has come to some decisions regarding his ex and his children he should be able to make a move. I believe that will begin to make more sense to him in August of this year. Your comparison was good but there are signs of emotional deception which means you probably aren?t communicating with one another the way you should be right now. It is time for both of you to talk openly and honestly about what you really want to see happen in the future. Your chart does indicate that you should stick it out together but also that it would be better for you to make a move back to where you have the support of friends and family. Once again without your husbands time of birth I can not tell whether he should make the move or if he will.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I am currently going through a divorce and I feel that the financial burden being imposed on me is unfair. Also, I fear that my wife will leave the state with my children making it even more difficult for me to see them. My question is two fold. Will I be able to financially afford what she is asking for and still have a place of my own to take the kids? And, do you believe she will move the kids out of state?
Gemini
HI Gemini
You didn't submit your wife or children's birth information making it difficult for me to know what she will do. What I can tell you is that your financial limitations are still present between now and the summer of next year however after that time it is evident that you should be able to swing whatever settlement or agreement you make with her. I believe there is a law that does not allow one parent to take the children more than X amount of miles away from the other parent if you have joint custody however this may change from state to state. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on your professional goals and that if you are diligent about getting ahead you can be successful over the next four years. I do believe that your wife will try to restrict your visitation rights between now and the end of the summer of next year. You must fight this and do whatever is necessary to be as much a part of your children's lives as you can. If you live close to one another it isn't uncommon these days to have the children with you half the time and with her the other half. In that case you should not have to pay support because you are both equally raising your children. There are many routes to take however if she has left you because of infidelity or other damaging or cruel reasons you will end up paying dearly so get working towards professional advancement now so that you can cover the costs. Don't let the uncertainty or depression regarding your failing marriage deter you from getting involved with new partners or develop new friendships. It is important for you to get on with your life.
Eugenia
