We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I used to read your horoscopes daily in the Kansas City newspaper. I wrote you around March to ask for your help regarding my situation with my husband (born November 17, 1976). At the time he was leaving me alone all of the time and telling me he no longer wanted to be married. You suggested that I leave him alone and concentrate on myself for a while because love would be more likely in the fall and either he'd return or I would find someone else. Right on cue he has returned asking to go back to how things were before. But now I've changed and I have met someone else (born May 7, 1973). Now I feel like I am being torn apart because I believe marriage is for life and I should be doing everything I can to make it work, but for so long I was trying so hard alone and was unwanted. I feel like there is too much that has taken place between us. The other person came into my life two months ago as a friend and something clicked between us. Now I don't know what to do. I am so hurt that all I want to do is run away from all of this. Please tell me who has the best comparison. In my heart I think I already know, but I really need advice. Thank you.
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
I can certainly see your dilemma after running an astrological comparison between you and the two men in your life. They both match up about the same. In the case of your Taurus friend I do have to say that there is some sorrow that shows up in the comparison so I believe that if you choose him you will have regrets or that it won't end up being any better with him than it is with your husband. With your husband I believe that you can't just let him come back with the intentions of having things be the same as they were before he left. I believe that you must set some ground rules. That you must talk about why your marriage wasn't working and what you both need from one another in order to make it better. Keeping things the same will only result in a vicious circle. The comparison with your husband is better physically and mentally and although that may not be apparent right now it is only because you have been with him so much longer than you have with your Taurus friend. I believe you owe it to yourself and to your husband to give it another chance. Please communicate this time so that things don't go array.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I'm asking you a favor. I don't know how I should start. I have someone whom I really love. I have been going out with him for more than a year. We live in different cities. I'm not going to write a long story. What I'd like to know is whether I can keep this relation or not. My parents hate him. They haven't even seen him but they heard his voice on the phone. They say his voice is too hoarse, it make him sound like he is a triad. Well, he was once in a gang but not now. He quit long time ago and now he is working in a fabric related company. We are secretly seeing each other and I like him. What should I do? His birthday is July 5, 1976 (Lunar month) and I'm not sure about his time of birth. I was born April 9, 1980, at 2:15 AM. I'll be waiting for your reply.
In Love
Dear In Love
Lovers come and go but family is with you forever. The comparison with your Cancer man wasn't bad however sorrow does appear when it comes to dealing with your family and the possibility that he can become physical aggressiveness with you is evident as well. It is important for you to be honest with your family and ask them to at least meet this man and not judge him by his voice. If your family still feels strongly that he is not the one for you consider that they might be picking up on the fact that he does have some traits that might not be too favorable. You may be blind to his defects because you are in love with him. Keep in mind that right now he is on his best behavior but at some point he will show his true colors and when he does his aggressive side may not be as nice. His chart does indicate that he is very sensitive and extremely bright however there is also an element of unpredictability. I believe that you do have a connection to one another however without your families blessing I feel that it would eventually cause a problem in your relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Until last January I had been in a yearlong relationship with a man who was born 1/16/66. Then out of the blue he stops calling or writing me. After two months of avoiding me, I made him admit that he had met a woman who slept with him on the second date. Needless to say I was devastated and fell into a depression that I had to seek treatment for. My question is, will I ever hear from this man again. We have never slept together and I suppose that was one of the reasons that the relationship didn't work. I didn't feel it was right to sleep with a man who wouldn't ever come down and pick me up at my home or invite me out with his friends. He went from having dinner and movies 2 or 3 times a week to him completely ignoring me.
How can I avoid this in the future? I was born on March 1, 1968 at 5:30 PM. What happened with him and his feelings for me?
Lonely Pisces
Dear Lonely Pisces
You should hope that your Capricorn friend doesn't call again. The comparison really wasn't that great and you do have to question a man who won't come to your house to fetch you. You have a different set of values and standards and you should not compromise yours for the sake of pleasing him. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and you should be getting out and meeting people who have similar interests. If you join groups or clubs, you will expand your circle of friends and you will meet someone special. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Leo, Libra and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
