We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Perplexed

Dear Eugenia,

I used to read your horoscopes daily in the Kansas City newspaper. I wrote you around March to ask for your help regarding my situation with my husband (born November 17, 1976). At the time he was leaving me alone all of the time and telling me he no longer wanted to be married. You suggested that I leave him alone and concentrate on myself for a while because love would be more likely in the fall and either he'd return or I would find someone else. Right on cue he has returned asking to go back to how things were before. But now I've changed and I have met someone else (born May 7, 1973). Now I feel like I am being torn apart because I believe marriage is for life and I should be doing everything I can to make it work, but for so long I was trying so hard alone and was unwanted. I feel like there is too much that has taken place between us. The other person came into my life two months ago as a friend and something clicked between us. Now I don't know what to do. I am so hurt that all I want to do is run away from all of this. Please tell me who has the best comparison. In my heart I think I already know, but I really need advice. Thank you.

Perplexed

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Dear Perplexed

I can certainly see your dilemma after running an astrological comparison between you and the two men in your life. They both match up about the same. In the case of your Taurus friend I do have to say that there is some sorrow that shows up in the comparison so I believe that if you choose him you will have regrets or that it won't end up being any better with him than it is with your husband. With your husband I believe that you can't just let him come back with the intentions of having things be the same as they were before he left. I believe that you must set some ground rules. That you must talk about why your marriage wasn't working and what you both need from one another in order to make it better. Keeping things the same will only result in a vicious circle. The comparison with your husband is better physically and mentally and although that may not be apparent right now it is only because you have been with him so much longer than you have with your Taurus friend. I believe you owe it to yourself and to your husband to give it another chance. Please communicate this time so that things don't go array.

Eugenia

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Article: From Tom

HI there

I have been friends with a lady for 5 years and we have been dating for 2 years of that time. I am Aries born 31/3/1978 not sure the time and my girlfriend was born 23/9/1971 not sure on time.

About 2 weeks ago she split with me one day and went straight over to another guy the next day. Even though she said she was going to think about us. I found out now that they have been fully seeing each other and she already says she loves him. Why I am writing to you is I was wondering what would have been the better match for her.

He was born on the 24/9/1973 not sure the time. What I have read on the net is a lot and I figured out that I think that she and I would have been a better match for each other than her and this other guy. Could you please tell me up front if a Libra and an Aries are better for each other than a Libra and Libra? Also I have read that Libras are big on flirting and so on and that Libra males are always on the look out for something better if it comes long is this true???

Thank you
Tom

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Hi Tom

Sun Sign Astrology is a fun approach to the subject but not that realistic. When you run a comparison you really have to look at all the planets involved etc in order to see how well two people match. In the case of your ex-girlfriend (I might add that she is really a much stronger Virgo) she does happen to match up better to her Libra friend. You my friend are best to put her behind you and start looking forward to the transits you have coming up later this year for love and romance. Even if she leaves her Libra friends and tries to get back together with you it really isn't worth your while. You match up well to the sign Libra however just not to this one. You also do well with Aries, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. As for your friend - she is going through a make it or break it period where love is concerned. With regard to her new boyfriend - he is a strong Libra and yes they are flirts and usually looking for someone who is flawless so they do tend to jump to whoever appears to be perfect but in this particular Libras case he has his natal Venus in the sign Scorpio well aspected to his natal Saturn in Cancer and that is usually an indication that he will be devoted to his lover and even possibly jealous and controlling - now that could push her away eventually. As for you - get on with your life and don't look back. She isn't your soul mate.

Eugenia

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Article: Feelings of Guilt

Dear Eugenia,

I (6 July 69, 2.40am) am the last of many siblings to leave home. I was 28 years old and realized I had to create some kind of independent life for myself. Though I love my mother (19 Dec 25) very much, we do not get along well for long periods, I've endured a lot of very hurtful criticism from her, but never retaliating out of respect. I left partly because I just couldn't take it anymore. I feel a lot of guilt and shame in even admitting this because your mother should be on a pedestal. I have a lot of problems trusting because I feel that if the closest person to me can wound me so much, then strangers may be even worse! Though I have stable platonic relationships, my romantic ones have been very sporadic and short lived (9 months is the longest). My past boyfriends either tried to treat me like their mother (23 Oct 66) or like a child (12 Dec 59). I got out cause I felt the walls were closing in and I couldn't be myself. My one true love (6 May 61) is now married to someone else. Is there any luck for me in the next few years and what signs should I look out for?

lover in a rut

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Dear lover in a rut

It's a good thing that you are finally moving on and out of your parental home. Once you are away from the negativity you will begin to have more confidence in yourself and in others. You were born with Venus opposite Neptune in your natal chart and this can cause some sorrow or difficulties for you where relationships are concerned. You should be checking out the compatibility astrologically between yourself and whomever you fancy before you become too intimate. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you do not have a hard time meeting potential partners but you do make it difficult for the people you meet to get too close to you. Once you learn to open up a little you will find yourself enjoying the company of others. If you don't allow your partner to treat you like a child or a mother it will be hard for him to do so. Be strong, take control and most of all check every potential lover out through my compatibility feature.

Eugenia

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