We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have a question regarding a love interest. I am in an abusive relationship with my alcoholic husband and I am trying to get my life in order to leave him. In the meantime I met someone else that I have deep feeling for. I have been seeing him for over 3 months now but I have known him for 30 years. I just wonder if you can see what lies in my future. I am so confused as what to do. I know I need to get away from the abusive relationship and work on my self-esteem. My birthday is 12/23/59 at 2:30pm; my love interest birthday is 1/11/58. I do not know birth time. Any insight would be greatly appreciated, as I am very confused right now.
Need Help
Dear Need Help
In most cases I would strongly suggest that you get out on your own for a while until you really know what you want and you have a chance to work on your own problems. However, in your case I have a feeling that you will make the adjustment quickly. The comparison with your Capricorn friend is so good that I don't believe that you should hesitate to have him in your life. He has plenty to offer you and he will help to rebuild your confidence. There is a tiny element of sorrow that does appear in this comparison however it falls in an area of your chart that isn't to negative unless perhaps you work with one another. Should this be the case you may want to consider changing jobs. You probably should have made your move away from your husband a year ago but it's never too late so get yourself packed and out of there. No one should put up with an abusive spouse who isn't dedicated to getting help.
Eugenia
Eugenia
On the off chance that you'll respond I'm asking for advice. I was born 8/23/68 at 10:42 AM - how does being on the Leo/Virgo cusp affect my love life? I was married for 8 years to a Leo (8/18/63) and it ended recently by him being unfaithful. I am currently dating another Leo (7/28/71) with whom I get along great - except he is unable to make the sort of commitment I want and need. What draws me to these Leo men? I have dated other men who were Sagittarius and Libra and those didn't work out, either. My one true love was a Taurus (5/3/68) and I was the one who ended things with him, which, of course, I now regret (but that was years ago). Any advice you can offer would be appreciated.
Leo/Virgo
Dear Leo/Virgo
You may be born on the cusp but Virgo is by far the more influential sign in your chart. You are attracted to Leo's, Saggi's and Libra's because of where these signs are positioned in your chart. Unfortunately these placements contradict everything else pertaining to love and your sign Virgo. The Taurus did match up the best, no doubt about it. However he also had planets in an area of your chart that deals with dead issues, therefore it wasn't likely to be lasting. I suggest that you let go of the past and start anew. Consider dating men born under the signs Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. You will be in a much better position to meet someone worthwhile next year however that doesn't mean that you shouldn't get out and mingle before that time. You will have the best luck if you take interest courses, travel, join groups you believe in or those having the same philosophical approach to life as you do. Don't give up Virgo's often marry later in life and when they do it is because they waited for the right partner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have this wonderful friend in my life that I share so much with. We travel together, make art, shop, talk for hours, go on midnight adventures, love the same food, find each other hilarious, hug every time we say goodbye, and can't spend two days apart. I haven't had a man in my life, long term, for over three years. This guy seems to have found his way into my life, and my heart, but is it more than friendship? What are the possibilities for us? My birthday is Feb 12/76 (4:15pm), his is June 27/75 (4:15am). I was told that my moon is Cancer (his sun), and his moon is Aquarius (my sun). Is that right? What does that mean for us? We both seem to be in a state of flux right now. Will we still be close over the next year? Thank you for all your insights.
Hopeful Girl
Dear Hopeful Girl
The comparison does show a definite admiration between the two of you. I am a big believer that you have to be friends before you become lovers. That doesn't mean that you won't have chemistry. The stronger the chemistry is the more important it is to go slow and build the friendship first. In your particular case you do have your Moon in Cancer and he does have his Moon in Aquarius and this is a start. The problem I feel that you are facing is that even though he was born under the warm Cancer sign he has a few elements in his chart that tell me he is not going to want to settle down at a young age. If for some reason he does I fear it won't be lasting. He is not always honest with himself or with his partners and this can lead to problems. You are best to remain friends for now. He is going through changes this summer as well as throughout next year and it would be sad if you jumped into a hot intimate relationship only to lose the friendship that you both enjoy. He is going to have to be the one to make the move and if he should do so especially over the course of the next year I think that it will end in disappointment. As for you, you are in a high cycle where love is concerned until the end of January. Therefore, don't miss out on opportunities with other potential partners because you only have eyes for your friend. Get out and meet like-minded people. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
December 22nd 2025
Happy Birthday: Incorporate the changes that excite you into your daily routine. Step outside your comfort zone and be the one to make things happen. Embrace life, love, and turn negatives into positives. Be the driving force behind your happiness, and you'll have no regrets. Opportunity is within reach; it's up to you to do your part. Stop holding yourself back when you have so much to gain by following your dreams. Your numbers are 5, 17, 22, 27, 32, 39, 45.
