We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
Please help. I once paid for a consultation with you. You said I was moving into a high for the next 2 years. I feel as though nothing has changed. Nothing has come to pass in the consultation given to me. I have been searching for a better job. I did take the initiative, I sent out resumes. I never hear anything back. Not even a call. I have searched and searched and still nothing. I feel as though nothing I do will ever be right. I feel like Salomon swimming against the current and still I can't get ahead. What is my purpose? Nothing ever seems to go right. I get no respect from my co-workers. People are getting promotions that have no clue about the job. What is the purpose? I would really like to go back to school and become a teacher but in the consultation you said you would have liked it if I had tried 14 months prior, The funny thing is I did try during the time frame you said would have been better, but like I said I feel like a salmon swimming against the current. Everything seemed to be going wrong. Work was stressful my daughter needed me. I just couldn't seem to catch my breath. I could not juggle the demands of work and home life. I passed the courses but with lots of tears and stress. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I could not sign up for another semester. The thought made me cringe. I would really like to go back to school and finish. Is this possible? Will my life continue to be difficult? What do my finances look like? Please be honest with me. I can take it no matter what the outcome is. Bad or Good. Will things get better? Will I ever have a job that gives me satisfaction? Please let me know what is in store for my daughter born 8/15/92 5:09PM. My Husband born 3/17/66 3:05 AM. Did my husband and I do the right thing when we purchased our house 10/16/98. We were married on 10/08/87. Will I ever get the respect for knowing my job and doing it very well? I know my sun sign is Cancer but I believe I am a Taurus at heart. Is this the case? Please Help me. Please shed some light on my dark life. Please !!!!!Please!!!!!! Please!!!!!! Please Help Me!!!!
Cancer
Dear Cancer
The consultation I sent you has not changed. You should have been signing up with a headhunter and following through with phone calls. Not just sending out a resume and leaving things to chance. The competition is fierce and in order to get ahead you have to work hard for it even when you do have good transits. Part of the problem has also been due to Saturn moving through your Sun sign Cancer. This can be debilitating if you let it get to you. It can also give you the added discipline to follow through. Yes it can make you tired and depressed which can in turn make you your own worst enemy. If you are negative about yourself and your abilities you will give off that vibe and that is never a good way to approach getting ahead. Although Saturn will continue to be moving through your sign and conjunct your natal Mercury it is also favorably aspected to your natal Saturn at the same time. This should be enough to help you get that added drive to move ahead. Unfortunately you were born with your natal Saturn in your first house which gives you that poor me syndrome and nothing every goes my way and when you think that way that is the way things turn out. You have to stop being so negative if you ever want to turn things around. It is a trait that many Cancers or people with lots of planets situated in that sign have. We always apply Murphy's Law to your sign because you always expect everything to turn out badly and the truth of the matter is that if you think it you can make it so. Your chart has been quite well aspected this past year and yet you have continued to hold yourself back. Please don't think I'm being harsh but just because a person has good transits doesn't mean that he or she will be successful. Nothing in life is free and if
Dear Eugenia,
This is my first time to do this and I'm a little nervous. I recently was in a three-year relationship with a gentleman born Nov.17, 1950, no birth time, I was born February 23, 1948, at 7:04 AM. We have known each other for years but each of us married and went out separate ways. He was married for 27 years and then got divorced, not his choice. He found me through my brother and came to see me the day he received his divorce papers and wanted me to read the papers for advice. Having been through a divorce I was very familiar with the situation and I helped him. Since that day we became friends again and talk nearly everyday. As time we on we became very close and I being a fool fell madly in love with this wonderful man. We lived together for three years. On April 12, 2003 he told me I needed to move out because he needed some time and space between us to think things out. He had never really gotten over his ex wife and was hoping she would try to come back. Several people told him as long as I was living with him she would never come back, so he ask me to leave. Well, to make a long story short she never intended to come back, it was wishful hoping on his part. After I left, we began seeing each other a few days a week and talked nearly everyday but he didn't really want to pursue out relationship as it was. We had a wonderful relationship; we were best friends, lovers and did everything together. He told me he was happy until everyone was telling him his ex wanted to come back and that confused him. I was so hurt. Now he is with someone four years younger and not even acting like the same person. Our last date was June 6, 2003 and his first date her was June 7, 2003 and they have been inseparable ever since. He moved into her home on June 18, 2003 and has no real contact with me since. His was a great family man with his children and grandchildren and now has moved out of his house and has really nothing to do with them. The woman he is with has her own successful business and has money. He has told several of our friends that he thinks the world of me and what a wonderful person I am. He will always love me but not be in love with me. The few time I have seen him, such as when I went to get me things from his home he was all over me (hugging & kissing). I have not heard from him for two weeks and never will. He is with this woman night and day, when he was on vacation he would even go to her work so she would not have contact with other people without him. He tells our friends he has a cute little rich girlfriend now. What do I do, I'm trying to get on with my life, I now have a good job but I am miserable without him. They have nothing in common. Please help me!! Thanks
Pisces
Hi Pisces
Quite the situation you are experiencing. You didn't tell me his new girlfriends birth date so I don't know how well they match up but I can tell you that your comparison with him really wasn't very good. You have a great chart however especially where your work is concerned and you can find love with the right person but you have to make your choices when it comes to love for the right reason. This man was on the rebound when you met him. That is never a very good way to start out a relationship and although I believe his connection to this younger woman probably won't last I do feel that he has been going through a certain amount of restlessness that has made him react suddenly. Unfortunately he is going through a very erratic period and this will continue for some time. With this in mind he may come back to you and probably will should he have a falling out with his younger playmate. However, don't be fooled by this, he is likely to go back and forth and that will only end in upset for you. Forget this man and move forward. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Virgo, Sagittarius and Aquarius. You will have opp
Hi Eugenia
My husband has a drinking problem. He has been able to control this problem for the past 5-6 years. Recently he has begun drinking again and there is starting to be the same kind of mental abuse as he displayed in the past. I am at the age where I do not feel I can repeat and repeat this sort of abuse and lifestyle. Money is also becoming an issue as he continues to drink. He continues to threaten to leave and I am at the point where if not for my financial position, I would put the entire relationship behind me and move on alone. Is this a good idea?.......Please help, he is born July 10, 1951 at 6:30 a.m. and I April 25, 1944, at 10 a.m.
Stay or Leave
Dear Stay or Leave
I believe that your husband will become worse before he becomes better. The next year and a half will be filled with all sorts of limitations for him regarding health, authority figures, dealing with institutions and so forth. I feel that the past couple of years you have taken the brunt of his obvious lack of control and abuse and now is the time to give him an ultimatum. Should he leave he will go down hill over the course of the next couple of years. Should he seek help it will take him the next couple of years to reform. As for you I feel that the time for change is fast approaching. That you should be seeking help from women's groups and co-dependent organizations in order to get back on your feet and away from him. Your comparison did indicate that there has been love in the past with this man but that was probably a long time ago. There is also sorrow especially where substance abuse is concerned and because of this I feel that even if he does seek help that there will always be the potential for him to slip over and over again. I do not believe that you will ever be able to fully put his abuse behind you and that your reason for staying with this man has more to do with fear of being alone and lack of funds. Your chart indicates that you are youthful and entertaining and that you will be okay if you can only get yourself out of this situation. By all means - if he wants to leave let him go.
Eugenia
February 22nd 2026
Happy Birthday: Let kindness and consideration lead the way. How you approach others, situations, and concerns will determine the outcome. If you don’t participate in making things happen, you lose the right to complain. Take the time to gather facts, approach the powers that be, and make a clear-cut run at bringing about positive change. Self-improvement projects, personal growth, learning something new, and love and romance are in the stars. Your numbers are 6, 17, 24, 27, 32, 39, 48.
