We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have been reading your advice for many years now and I need your help. I have been working at a job in relatively the same field now for over 20 yrs. I have many fears about leaving and going back to school to study because I don't feel it's the right thing. I keep thinking that I should be my own boss and start a sewing/designing company. I was born June 2,1963 @5:35am. My spouse was born Aug.8, 1962 @7:36pm. I feel he is there to support me most of the time but feel he's secretly jealous of anything I may accomplish beyond what I have so far. I really need to get some clear advise, I know if I have your astrological blessing in whatever I choose, I will succeed beyond my dreams. I was raised in a very strict household where boys were treated with more importance and the girls were expected to learn how to be good, quiet housewives, marry someone that would take care of them. I am not that person, but am still held back by my upbringing. I have so many self-doubts, and feel that I am too old or can't learn. I also don't have the finances to just leave my job and go to school. I just need some guidance. Please help me.
Audrey
Dear Audrey
Your chart indicates that you should have signed up for higher education already. Favorable transits will be with you until next summer so if you need to pick up skills in order to pursue your dream get busy. See if you can get the courses you need at night school or through correspondence. That way you can keep your job and you won't feel the financial crunch. Starting your own business is not a bad idea during the last quarter of next year however keep in mind that it is important to support your addiction to whatever your art or dream might be so prepare to work double duty by continuing to hold down your day job while you build your own business on the side. I know this may appear to be overwhelming but that is how most successful people get ahead - by working overtime for a few years. In that way it will be less of a risk. The comparison with your husband is okay and certainly workable. I do not feel so much that he is jealous of your accomplishments but really feeling vulnerable that you may outgrow him if you keep moving up in the world. You must make sure that on top of the heavy workload that you are about to take on that you do not neglect him and that you make him feel as if he is a part of it. My suggestions may sound like a tall order but believe me they can be accomplished. I know first hand because I worked in an unrelated field for seven years as I built up my business. So please don't be daunted by my suggestions - instead embrace them.Your chart does show some problems with health so don't let yourself get rundown just because you are stretched to the limit you still have to eat, sleep and exercise in order to stay strong enough to follow and complete your goals.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Please help me. From January 1999 to January of this year, I had a relationship with my teacher who was born 24/11/1960, I was born 09/08/1983. The relationship was secret for obvious reasons, but then one night, my best friend told me that for the last two years he had been coming on to her, buying her things, and generally making her uncomfortable. I told her my secret as well and since then my life has been awful. I was really depressed and after a lot of soul searching I decided, with my friend, to tell our headmaster and get him thrown out of school so that I could get on with my life. Well, we told the head and a lot of things have happened that I didn't want to. Firstly, he made me tell my parents, secondly, I had to speak to social services, and thirdly, I had to speak to the police. The police want me to give a statement so that they can arrest him and hopefully sendhim to prison. I told them that I didn't think it would be worth it, but they said I had to think of all the other girls if I didn't. Anyway, I was adamant that there hadn't been any other girls in his past, nor would there be in his future, so I decided not to give a statement. However, today I found out that in his previous school, somebody accused him of doing something (which he didn't do, he says) and now I am so confused. My question is, should I make a statement and run the risk of ruining his life, or should I let it go, and run the risk of him doing this to somebody else?
Please help me, I don't know who else to turn to...
A Leo Lost
Dear A Leo Lost
Dear Leo Lost
You need to ask yourself some serious questions regarding this incident. Your chart indicates that you weren't just an innocent victim, that perhaps you had an attraction to this man as well. That doesn't make it right for him to take advantage of you considering your age and vulnerability but there is also the possibility that you may be exaggerating just a little regarding what he was up to. If you feel that he was the only one flirting and caring on by all means do what you can to make sure that this will never happen to another student. However if you were just as much to blame you must tell the whole truth and let the authorities make the decision regarding his future. He will probably not be allowed to teach if he has been accused in the past. I believe that he is capable of twisting the truth and that he probably did do what he was accused of in the past. The unfortunate thing is that you probably told your friend partly because you were feeling a little jealous that he would pay attention to someone else. I believe that you were just as caught up in this whole affair as he was. It's time to tell the truth so that you all can get on with your lives.
Dear Eugenia
I have had the same best friend for almost 6 years. She, born March 10, 1989, has been recently acting like she does not what be friends with me. She has made some new friends since we have entered Junior High School and has only been hanging around them. In the beginning of 8th grade one of her new friends asked her out and they began dating. She began ignoring me and our other friends more and more to hang out with him and his friends. When I confronted her, she said she didn't realize she had been acting differently and she told me she would try to stop. She hung out with me for about a week until she was back to canceling things that we had planned to do together because her boyfriend would be mad at her. She broke up with him awhile later and came to me to cry on my shoulder. For two weeks my other friends and I did things to make her feel better like go to the mall and stuff. After about two weeks her ex asked out someone else and his best friend asked out mine. She said yes and it started all over again. I told her how I felt yet again. Yesterday she broke up with her boyfriend. She hasn't come to me to be consoled. Instead she goes to her other friends. It hurts to see someone that you have shared a great friendship with snub you. I was wondering what I should do. She doesn't listen to me when I talk to her and she makes me feel selfish that I want her to start hanging out again. Is it selfish? She also gets embarrassed when she is seen with me by any of her new friends. Her friends are nice, but not the type that I hang out with. I thought that if I tried to make friends with them, than she might accept me more, but she just gets embarrassed when I am around. I was born May 12, 1989, at 5:25 pm. Help me please.
~Best Friendless
Dear ~Best Friendless
Your girlfriend has been going through a lot of changes since the spring of last year especially regarding her friendships, school and secret or behind the scenes activity. Her ideas concerning what she likes and does not like are changing and she is becoming more and more attracted to different types of people. As for you - you can't be whom she wants you to be in order to maintain the friendship. It just doesn't work that way. You must however protect yourself so that she doesn't use you whenever she feels insecure with her newfound friends. She may make a reversal by late summer or early fall of this year however don't be too willing to trust that she will not yo-yo you around again. As for you the fall indicates a far better time where friendships and school are concerned so look to expanding your own circle of friends but not at the expense of letting your grades drop. You have a lot going for you and you should focus on yourself your direction in life and spending time with friends who have the same interests as you.
Eugenia
