We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for providing this service for self-exploration. These days my computer is on auto pilot to your I Ching feature; although he has proven insightful, I would like the chance of experiencing the human element of your web site.Here goes.... My husband and I are both Aries, and have totally different personality traits. I was born 24/03/1960, at 2 AM. My husband birth date is 22/03/1961, I do not know his time of birth. I am energetic, motivated, outgoing, competitive; he is passive, laid back, doesn't like change. When we were married in 1981, we moved over 1000 miles away from our birthplace and families. Since 1981 to now, we have experienced a lot of life, from our youngest son being diagnosed with Cancer, to loosing my father. Right now, we are in a position to re-evaluate our career paths, and move closer to home. In the small northern community that we live in, the health and education systems are in shambles. We decided last March to let our eldest son have the opportunity to go to a boarding school. He loved it, and will be returning this September. For me, it is very hard to have my 15-year-old son living away from home. I have taken the initiative of "doing" a resume for my husband and have sent it out to several places... and telling him after the fact. He is now getting responses for interviews. You see, the company that he works for is re-evaluating their economic viability, and have closed down operations for one year, while still maintaining all staffing levels. We are in limbo. He came home from work the other night, and said there was a job posting up for a job he would really like to apply for at this "Limbo Company", and that he liked to be "comfortable". I need change, and to be with my family... Does this mean DIVORCE COURT!!!
Regards,
Limbo Land
Dear Limbo Land
Just because you are born under the same sun sign does not mean that you have to be alike. A personalized chart is like your thumbprint. There are several differences that stand out between you and your husband's charts even without having his birth time. I wouldn't be surprised however if he were born around the noon hour giving him a Cancer ascendant. If this is the case I suspect that he will be moving along with you and not staying put. This could be because he gets an interesting offer from one of the companies you sent his resume to or because he does not get the job at the Limbo Company. You match up too well to have divorce enter the picture, as I'm sure you are well aware. Changes are apparent and the opportunity to make a move looks good. I'd be putting your house on the market if you own it or looking for a place to live closer to your birth place come October with hopes of selling your house or making your move sometime before the end of the year.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I'm only 12 years old. Most adults wouldn't take this serious, but I hope you will. This is my problem. I have two friends. They are both guys. One is my best friend which I will refer to as M, and the other one I'm dating and I will refer to him as R. I kind of had something going on with M, but it was a friendly thing. M doesn't like R, so that makes it hard. Recently M called to tell me I would have to choose. I don't know whom to choose. My birth date and time is May 1, 1988 6:45 p.m. M's birth date is July 8 1988. R's birth date is August 19 1988. Unfortunately I don't have the birth times. I would really appreciate it if you reply to this letter. Thank you for taking your time to read this letter. I hope you give me a reply and advice or clues. Thank you once again!!!
Taurus
Dear Taurus
Both M and R match up in similar ways to your chart. In the case of M he claims to be your friend but proceeds to put an ultimatum on you. A friend wouldn?t do that. Also in your comparison with M deceptiveness is present so it is obvious that he isn?t telling you how he really feels about you. Keep in mind that friends are there forever and lovers come and go. Regarding R the comparison shows sorrow, which means that it will probably end with one of you getting hurt. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and this generally means that you will attract plenty of romantic opportunities throughout your life. You will be coming into a high cycle next year that not only will bring such happenings but will also leave you open to unwanted pregnancy if you aren?t careful. You may be young but one thing can lead to another and before you know it you can find yourself in a whole lot of trouble. You are best to opt for friendship for now. If both M and R are willing to be friends with you, that?s great. If either tries to push for more it should be your cue to end the connection.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I am in a dilemma right now my best friend has gotten into some trouble with the law, he was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He is going through a tough time being locked up, we have been the best of friends for over 3 years and in the beginning of our friendship we started out in a romantic relationship. Well a lot happened and I guess you could say it wasn't our time, but we continued to develop a strong friendship bond which nothing could destroy, and since he has been locked up I have been to visit him twice. His charge is nothing really major so he won't be in jail long but over the last 16 days in jail he said that his eyes have opened up to so much and he sees things so clearly. He has seen his faults and he is going to change he says that I am all he thinks about and he knows that I am really the only one that has always been there for him and I have stood by him through everything. He asks me if I am going to wait for him. He keeps making remarks about me, him and us, and getting back what we once had. He knows how strongly I feel for him and that I would do anything for him. I would give anything to have back what we once had. My question is should I take him and everything he has said seriously or should I just take it as "Jail talk"
I was born September 9, 1971, at 7 PM.
Confused
Dear Confused
You didn't submit your best friends birth data so I really can't tell you where he's coming from but I do know by your chart that this is not the best time for relationships. That confusion is definitely in an area of your chart that deals with your personal life. You are coming into your Saturn return next year and this will be a period in your life that you reevaluate what you have done up until this point. It is a time of change, turning things around, getting ready to move into your next stage of life. You have time right now to wait and see how sincere your friend is but don't fool yourself. He is lonely and although he means what he is saying right now it may be a different story when he gets out of jail. Protect your heart and wait and see. There is nothing wrong with friendship for the time being. After all you will build a much stronger relationship if you are friends first. Stand by him as a friend for now and run a comparison on my site to see how well you match up to him and also to check out his personal profile. If you see much deception or ability to smooth talk in his profile you will know that he is just giving you jail talk. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
May 30th 2026
Happy Birthday: Fluctuating life experiences can be expected. Some will elate you, and others will lead to scrambling. You’ll find it necessary to think and act spontaneously and to choose to be realistic and financially practical. When in doubt, stand still, observe, and do what’s best for you. Verifying information will determine the highs and lows you encounter this year. Set expectations and boundaries to avoid disappointment and regret. Your numbers are 9, 13, 22, 26, 34, 41, 45.
