We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Divorce Court

Dear Eugenia,

Thank you for providing this service for self-exploration. These days my computer is on auto pilot to your I Ching feature; although he has proven insightful, I would like the chance of experiencing the human element of your web site.Here goes.... My husband and I are both Aries, and have totally different personality traits. I was born 24/03/1960, at 2 AM. My husband birth date is 22/03/1961, I do not know his time of birth. I am energetic, motivated, outgoing, competitive; he is passive, laid back, doesn't like change. When we were married in 1981, we moved over 1000 miles away from our birthplace and families. Since 1981 to now, we have experienced a lot of life, from our youngest son being diagnosed with Cancer, to loosing my father. Right now, we are in a position to re-evaluate our career paths, and move closer to home. In the small northern community that we live in, the health and education systems are in shambles. We decided last March to let our eldest son have the opportunity to go to a boarding school. He loved it, and will be returning this September. For me, it is very hard to have my 15-year-old son living away from home. I have taken the initiative of "doing" a resume for my husband and have sent it out to several places... and telling him after the fact. He is now getting responses for interviews. You see, the company that he works for is re-evaluating their economic viability, and have closed down operations for one year, while still maintaining all staffing levels. We are in limbo. He came home from work the other night, and said there was a job posting up for a job he would really like to apply for at this "Limbo Company", and that he liked to be "comfortable". I need change, and to be with my family... Does this mean DIVORCE COURT!!!

Regards,
Limbo Land

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Dear Limbo Land

Just because you are born under the same sun sign does not mean that you have to be alike. A personalized chart is like your thumbprint. There are several differences that stand out between you and your husband's charts even without having his birth time. I wouldn't be surprised however if he were born around the noon hour giving him a Cancer ascendant. If this is the case I suspect that he will be moving along with you and not staying put. This could be because he gets an interesting offer from one of the companies you sent his resume to or because he does not get the job at the Limbo Company. You match up too well to have divorce enter the picture, as I'm sure you are well aware. Changes are apparent and the opportunity to make a move looks good. I'd be putting your house on the market if you own it or looking for a place to live closer to your birth place come October with hopes of selling your house or making your move sometime before the end of the year.

Eugenia

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Article: From Leo

Dear Eugenia

I am writing to you right now because I am so sad and I do not know what to do. I am going to be 40 this year and never experienced unrequited love in my life until this past 2003. Like in Bridget Jones' Diary he came out of nowhere and allowed me to experience love in its purest form, he loved me for me. There was nothing sexual about our relationship, just 2 souls who seemed to be blessed by Heaven. He was my reflection as I was his.

He went away to med school and since November he seemed to have silenced all communication with me. After I played an April fool joke on him saying that I would be visiting, he sent me back a reply saying that he finds our relationship not rewarding anymore and does not ever expect to hear from me ever again. I have tried to email him to explain why because there is no closure and since this is the 3rd time someone has just walked out of my life with no reason, I am beginning to develop a complex that I am not worthy of love.

I had my palms read and the old man said that I would not experience any love, or if I did in my 30s, it would not work out.

Eugenia, what can you tell me about me, as I don't know anymore.
Thank you so much. - Afraid - as in afraid to be vulnerable ever again.
Could you please blank out this person's bdate if the question in answered? Tks. I was born August 3, 1965 at 7:01 am.

Leo

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Dear Leo

The comparison isn't bad but it did show some sorrow coupled with the fact that your Capricorn friend has his Neptune conjunct his Venus and Mercury in the sign Sagittarius making him the one with a problem not you. You just happened to pick someone who isn't likely to commit to anyone - at least not until he is much older.

As for you another high cycle regarding love will be heading your way by the end of this year and throughout the first half of next year. You do best with people born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. Yes, I know your friend is a Capricorn but in his case he isn't much of a Goat and is really strongly influenced by the signs Sagittarius, Gemini and Libra none of which do well when it comes to settling down.

Eugenia

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Article: Sexual Discord

Dear Eugenia:

I have been married for six years. For most of that time, our sex life has been practically nonexistent, even though we seem to be quite compatible based on our charts. This is my fault, really, as early on I lost my desire to have sex with him; in fact, I am turned off by his touch. I've never told him this because I don't want to hurt him, but, obviously, the "sex" issue has caused some major discord in our marriage. I have tried to rekindle my passion, but I haven't had any success. I know the problem is not physical, as I often have sexual dreams and fantasize about other men (but I've never cheated). If I am unable to get past this, it most surely will lead to divorce. I was born 11/20/71 at 6:50 a.m., my husband was born 5/6/65, (time unknown). Thank you for your advice.

Passionless Wife

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Dear Passionless Wife

I don?t really see your comparison as being all that great regarding love. It lacks in areas essential to building a happy and loving relationship. It appears to be more like a brother sister connection that is definitely not built on passion. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that brings opportunities for you to meet someone who knocks you off your feet. This could lead to a secret affair if you aren?t out of your current situation. I suggest that if you don?t want this to happen and you truly want to try to rekindle your relationship, that you start communicating with your husband honestly about your feelings and let him know what?s lacking in your marriage. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to put in the effort. However, unfortunately I have found that in most cases when it doesn?t work there is a lack of communication and it?s often quite one-sided with regards to who puts what into the marriage. In your case I feel that honesty and straightforwardness will be required. Although this may hurt your husbands feelings initially, if you are living in a loveless marriage I think he would agree that getting help or splitting up would be preferable to the nonexistent connection that you have right now.

Eugenia

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