We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Tom

HI there

I have been friends with a lady for 5 years and we have been dating for 2 years of that time. I am Aries born 31/3/1978 not sure the time and my girlfriend was born 23/9/1971 not sure on time.

About 2 weeks ago she split with me one day and went straight over to another guy the next day. Even though she said she was going to think about us. I found out now that they have been fully seeing each other and she already says she loves him. Why I am writing to you is I was wondering what would have been the better match for her.

He was born on the 24/9/1973 not sure the time. What I have read on the net is a lot and I figured out that I think that she and I would have been a better match for each other than her and this other guy. Could you please tell me up front if a Libra and an Aries are better for each other than a Libra and Libra? Also I have read that Libras are big on flirting and so on and that Libra males are always on the look out for something better if it comes long is this true???

Thank you
Tom

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Hi Tom

Sun Sign Astrology is a fun approach to the subject but not that realistic. When you run a comparison you really have to look at all the planets involved etc in order to see how well two people match. In the case of your ex-girlfriend (I might add that she is really a much stronger Virgo) she does happen to match up better to her Libra friend. You my friend are best to put her behind you and start looking forward to the transits you have coming up later this year for love and romance. Even if she leaves her Libra friends and tries to get back together with you it really isn't worth your while. You match up well to the sign Libra however just not to this one. You also do well with Aries, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. As for your friend - she is going through a make it or break it period where love is concerned. With regard to her new boyfriend - he is a strong Libra and yes they are flirts and usually looking for someone who is flawless so they do tend to jump to whoever appears to be perfect but in this particular Libras case he has his natal Venus in the sign Scorpio well aspected to his natal Saturn in Cancer and that is usually an indication that he will be devoted to his lover and even possibly jealous and controlling - now that could push her away eventually. As for you - get on with your life and don't look back. She isn't your soul mate.

Eugenia

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Article: Time and Space

Dear Eugenia,

I am not sure if you will answer this question, but I will try anyway. I was born February 24, 1963, at 12:07 PM. I hope this will help you come to a conclusion. I recently lost my loving husband of 35 years of age to liver cancer, we were only married one year and 3 months before his death. At this time, I don't know which way my life is heading; I am lost, and very lonely. I miss him with all my heart; he truly was my soul mate. I was married before for 17 years to a Scorpion, this man is now back in my life. He says that he has changed, some things yes, he has others, no he hasn't. My question is, should I try and make this past relationship with my ex husband work, or move on? We have three wonderful children together, and he has helped me through some of the emotional problems I have had to deal with since my husband's death. I am confused about him, and don't feel the attraction as I once did. Will I ever find that loving man again in this lifetime, that I had with my great loss. My late husband, taught me many things about how a women should be treated, do I need to settle for less? I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I also am worried about my late husbands father. This man lost his only son, and I care about him deeply, will he be ok? He says that I am the only thing he has left in this life, who was a part of his son's life. So, I do feel worried and concerned. As for my late husbands mother, she blames his father and me, for his death. Never did she come to see him in the hospital to the very last few days of his life. I was by his bedside 24-7, I was his nurse and his loving wife, until he took his last breath. So, why is she blaming me? This causes me great heartache also. No one can cause someone to get cancer. I don't understand why I had to loose the only man that I loved so deeply. Your time is greatly appreciated.

Thank you,
Lost Love

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Dear Lost Love

You are going through a very confusing period in your life and you need some time and space to sort out your feelings. You don't have to settle for anything or anyone until you are good and ready. I believe that if you ask your ex-husband to be your friend, not your lover that you will feel much better about the connection. As for a new love, you will be in a much better frame of mind and you will also be in a high cycle regarding love and romance next year. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn. As for right now you should put your time and effort into travel, learning and your beliefs and opinions regarding your philosophy of life, love and future intentions. You are sensitive and you need to nurture yourself for the time being.

Eugenia

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Article: Talent Doesn't Always Lead to Success

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on February 26th 1979 in Split, Croatia,20 minutes past midnight. I am really concerned about 2 different aspects of my life and I need your help. I would like to know if my career choice-becoming an actress-is the right one for me. I am very ambitious and also interested in the financial aspect of my work and sometimes I am uncertain if this is the right choice for me. For some time I`ve been involved in fashion business, but I didn`t have the success I expected although I had worked hard. Sometimes I just feel that I will never be able to realize myself professionally and I do not want to end up being frustrated. Please help me with these career problems. 2.I`m having problems with my relationship which lasts for almost 5 years. He was born on August 13th 1961 in Kotor, Yugoslavia at 5am. We have a wonderful 7 months old son and deep down I know I love him, but I`m getting more and more unsatisfied with my relationship. I need your advice about this very much. Also, can you just very briefly tell me about his health. I know these questions may be to long, but I would really appreciate your time and effort. Also, do you send your answers

Family Matters

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Dear Family Matters

Regarding your career, I do believe that you have talent. This however, does not always equate to being successful. The problem appears to be more to do with self-deception and disillusionment. This often is the case when you are born with your natal Neptune adversely aspected to your natal Mercury as you were. I believe that you are quite attractive and this has always attributed to your success in the past. Most professional gains stem from frustration, hard work and more importantly dedication and good timing. You should be striving to go on as many auditions as possible if that's the career path you want to pursue. I do feel that much of your talent lies in an area that deals with fashion and design. You may not have given this career enough time. Success does not happen over night. The relationship with your husband was actually quite good. I feel certain that you can provide greater opportunity for one another. Your husbands chart indicates that he is moving into a high cycle where his career is concerned and that is where he should be putting his greatest effort this year. He is going through many changes regarding his attitude and his likes and dislikes. His chart does not indicate major health problems. At least nothing that can't be controlled. The past few years due to transiting planets illness may have occurred. If this is the case I feel that he should continue to follow a healthy lifestyle as reoccurring transits could cause future problems. On the whole his chart indicates that he usually lands on his feet.

You did not submit your son's birth data and that is unfortunate considering how much a child's chart can reveal about his parents.

Eugenia

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