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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
HI there
I have been friends with a lady for 5 years and we have been dating for 2 years of that time. I am Aries born 31/3/1978 not sure the time and my girlfriend was born 23/9/1971 not sure on time.
About 2 weeks ago she split with me one day and went straight over to another guy the next day. Even though she said she was going to think about us. I found out now that they have been fully seeing each other and she already says she loves him. Why I am writing to you is I was wondering what would have been the better match for her.
He was born on the 24/9/1973 not sure the time. What I have read on the net is a lot and I figured out that I think that she and I would have been a better match for each other than her and this other guy. Could you please tell me up front if a Libra and an Aries are better for each other than a Libra and Libra? Also I have read that Libras are big on flirting and so on and that Libra males are always on the look out for something better if it comes long is this true???
Thank you
Tom
Hi Tom
Sun Sign Astrology is a fun approach to the subject but not that realistic. When you run a comparison you really have to look at all the planets involved etc in order to see how well two people match. In the case of your ex-girlfriend (I might add that she is really a much stronger Virgo) she does happen to match up better to her Libra friend. You my friend are best to put her behind you and start looking forward to the transits you have coming up later this year for love and romance. Even if she leaves her Libra friends and tries to get back together with you it really isn't worth your while. You match up well to the sign Libra however just not to this one. You also do well with Aries, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. As for your friend - she is going through a make it or break it period where love is concerned. With regard to her new boyfriend - he is a strong Libra and yes they are flirts and usually looking for someone who is flawless so they do tend to jump to whoever appears to be perfect but in this particular Libras case he has his natal Venus in the sign Scorpio well aspected to his natal Saturn in Cancer and that is usually an indication that he will be devoted to his lover and even possibly jealous and controlling - now that could push her away eventually. As for you - get on with your life and don't look back. She isn't your soul mate.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for the wonderful site. I truly appreciate what is offered here and your photos...this may sound strange, but knowing one's face is so important for me to have trust.
I have decide to write to you because you are the only one I can trust among many astrologers who offer similar services on line.
I am 27 year old and have never been in a serious relationship...this is very difficult for me to tell anyone about, since I am afraid of being considered as "not normal".
You must have heard so many times "guys who are interested in me aren't interesting to me" and vice versa. It has been the same story with me for too long and my inexperience makes me feel so incomplete. I don't think I am too selective, but such a long period of loneliness makes me wonder if I shouldn't choose at all. I really am not sure if waiting is such a good idea when lack of experience seriously hurts my self-esteem. I know it's up to me to decide, but if you could tell me what my chart says about love/romance, it'd be a great help.Any insight you could give me would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much in advance. I was born April 21, 1973, at 12:52 PM.
Lonely
Dear Lonely
There is nothing wrong with taking your time. I honestly believe that to become too serious about love before you reach your Saturn return at around the age of 29 is too soon. You are just heading into your Saturn return next year and you should be starting to reevaluate your life up to this point and deciding to make whatever changes are necessary in order to move forward in a positive manner. Regarding relationships you have been careful and that has been exactly what you needed to do. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle for meeting potential partners this year and next but you must get out and join organizations that you believe in and do things that will help you expand your circle of friends. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
First off I want to state that I really enjoy this web site. It's full of information, and best of all it's FREE!!! So, Thanks.Secondly, In the past year I (July 21, 1979, at 4:5; 7 PM) have had a few boyfriends (I use this word lightly) all of whom I have pushed away due to an ever persistent, lingering, thought of my ex (April 5, 1979). We have been apart over a year and even though he has moved on I can't seem to, my heart won't let me. So I continually push away every other guy that comes my way, because really, how fair is it to be with them in mind but not in heart. Things are not made any easier by this recurring dream I have that he is coming back. Though I do realize that I am not the same person I was when I knew him and in turn I am sure he is not the same person that I knew either, I can't seem to forget him. I've tried, but everything seems to remind me of him and "our time". I even went to a professional Tarot card reader and before I could even get comfortable she was telling me what he looked like (even his height), how he acted, and about our relationship together.I went to see her right after our breakup to get a grasp on what was ahead of me, but all she could talk about was how he would be coming back and that things would be better this time. Well, It's been over a year since that reading and he is nowhere in sight, but what I want to know is how do I move on? Sometimes I think I'm ready, then I'll run into him somewhere and pretend not to see him, because the thought of us having idle, meaningless conversation just kills me. Plus, at the sight of him my heart skips a beat, I can feel my face get flushed and my stomach flies away, not to mention my tongue ties in knots. After a year of being apart he still makes me feel like I did the first time I kissed him.Basically, I just want to know what to do. I can't keep pushing away every guy that comes my direction (soon I'll run out of guys). I would appreciate any thoughts or guidance you can offer.
Thinking of Him
Dear Thinking of Him
The comparison with your Aries lover was really quite good. I believe that there is a future with him if you can only get past being afraid to talk to him. Although the timing isn't quite right I do believe that toward the last half of 2001 and the first half of 2002 you may find yourself in a relationship with him once again. For now you should try to form a friendship. Talk to him, enjoy his company when you do see him and see where it leads. You should also continue to try to meet other partners because your Aries friend isn't the only one who will match up well to you. Your chart indicates that you will be in a high cycle for love over the next few years and it is important to get out enjoy yourself. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. By the way your Aries only had the Sun in Aries. His natal chart consists primarily of water signs, Pisces being the most influential with a touch of Cancer and Scorpio.
Eugenia
