We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Leo

Dear Eugenia

I am writing to you right now because I am so sad and I do not know what to do. I am going to be 40 this year and never experienced unrequited love in my life until this past 2003. Like in Bridget Jones' Diary he came out of nowhere and allowed me to experience love in its purest form, he loved me for me. There was nothing sexual about our relationship, just 2 souls who seemed to be blessed by Heaven. He was my reflection as I was his.

He went away to med school and since November he seemed to have silenced all communication with me. After I played an April fool joke on him saying that I would be visiting, he sent me back a reply saying that he finds our relationship not rewarding anymore and does not ever expect to hear from me ever again. I have tried to email him to explain why because there is no closure and since this is the 3rd time someone has just walked out of my life with no reason, I am beginning to develop a complex that I am not worthy of love.

I had my palms read and the old man said that I would not experience any love, or if I did in my 30s, it would not work out.

Eugenia, what can you tell me about me, as I don't know anymore.
Thank you so much. - Afraid - as in afraid to be vulnerable ever again.
Could you please blank out this person's bdate if the question in answered? Tks. I was born August 3, 1965 at 7:01 am.

Leo

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Dear Leo

The comparison isn't bad but it did show some sorrow coupled with the fact that your Capricorn friend has his Neptune conjunct his Venus and Mercury in the sign Sagittarius making him the one with a problem not you. You just happened to pick someone who isn't likely to commit to anyone - at least not until he is much older.

As for you another high cycle regarding love will be heading your way by the end of this year and throughout the first half of next year. You do best with people born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn. Yes, I know your friend is a Capricorn but in his case he isn't much of a Goat and is really strongly influenced by the signs Sagittarius, Gemini and Libra none of which do well when it comes to settling down.

Eugenia

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Article: Too Much Too Young

Dear Eugenia,

I have a problem. I am sixteen years old, and I feel like I am forty. My mother is very sick, and I must take care of her, as well as attend school and achieve honor role. I work part time, but the income just isn't always enough to make ends meet. Lately my marks at school have been slipping... the stress is really getting to me, but I need good marks in order to get a scholarship, so I can get a decent education.

My problem is that my mother is mentally ill. She has the mental capacity of a three year old. I do have older brothers and sisters, but the responsibility of taking care of my mum has been put on my shoulders.

I really need some advice on my situation. A reply would be much appreciated. I was born August 18, 1982 at 7:27 PM.

Thank you,
Moly

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Hi Moly

Your situation is not great and you have all the right in the world to feel sorry for yourself. You must put added pressure on your siblings in order to make them help out. It is their duty to do so. I suggest that you do consider talking to your mother's doctor regarding your options of a nursing home. I fear that if you don't get some support from family members that you may find yourself working full time and putting your education on hold and that would be a shame. Please write back and tell me more about your situation. Where is your father and do any of your siblings still live at home. What are their situations regarding age, marriage, position to help.

Eugenia

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Dear Eugenia,

Thank you for answering my letter. You asked for more information about my family: my father passed away, when I was a little girl... too little to remember him, and after him, my mother never married again. I have eight older brothers and sisters, and though none of them live at home, they all live in the same city. They have their own problems - I am not blaming them for not helping me out... I just wish that they were a little more compassionate about my situation.

As for school, I haven't told any of my teachers about my present situation... although I am thinking that it might help quite a bit. Maybe there are some programs or something outside of school, so I can get a full time job, to support my family.

Well, I really don't know what to say... I am really starting to feel the stress, and none of my brothers or sisters are willing to help me out. I have tried to reason with them... but they have their own lives, and their own problems. I think part of it has to do with the fact, that none of them get along with my mother, they just don't have the patience. Only two of my siblings are married, the rest are either full time workers, or full time students.

Regarding the nursing home issue, I just don't feel right about it, no matter which way I look at it. I love my mum way too much to let anything happen to her. I suppose it would probably be better in the long run, but I am really hesitant about that. I am making it sound as though I have no support. In truth, a very special friend at school has been helping me out. We are in a Social Justice group together (that's how we met), and he's the only other person that knows about my situation. He sometimes comes over to take care of my mum when I am working, and he always has a shoulder to cry on. I just feel kind of bad, because he is such a good friend to me, and I have nothing to offer him except problems.

Thank you once again,
Moly

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Hi Moly

You are offering your friend lots just by being a friend. You should talk to your teachers they may be able to help you out or at least have suggestions as to how you can continue to study and deal with your home situation. You can't give up your education to take care of your mom. She wouldn't want you to. There would still be the issue of how you would take c

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Article: From Unsure

Hi Eugenia

I have written about five times now, I realize that you are very busy & I'm hoping this is my lucky day.I was born on the 19th of May 1943, at 1 am & do not know for sure what sign I am under. Also I have been separated from my Husband for about 7 years. He has another partner & is doing very well financially & with his new love (his birth date is June 3, 1943). I would really like to know what is in store for me love, financial & job. Please Please answer this one as I am very depressed & no longer feel there is any hope for me.

Thanks
Unsure

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Hi Unsure

You were born under the sign Taurus - there is no question about that but you also have a strong Gemini influence having your natal Mercury, Saturn and Uranus in that sign. The sign Cancer is also strongly placed in your chart with both your natal Venus and Jupiter situated in that sign, all that being said it probably leaves you a little bit confused. A chart is made up of many different facets your sun sign being a small but important part of the big picture. In your case the sign Taurus affects areas of your chart that deal with communication as well as your home environment. You are slowly but surely moving into a much better position where work and money are concerned but at the age you are at right now you will have to be very smart about the way you go at it. For the rest of this year and most of next you are in a high cycle regarding apprenticeships and learning new skills. It's hard to get into a position like that because of age discrimination these days so it will be important that you consider areas of work and learning that won't discriminate. Consider real estate or a product or service for the home, something that you can virtually be your own boss. If you pick up the skills or information you require now you will find yourself in a much better position this time next year. You don't have a bad chart you've just gone through some rough transits. Regarding your ex-husband, you do have a good comparison however even the best don't always last especially where Gemini males are concerned, in his case he as four planets in that sign. The past couple of years have probably not been the best for him either although he probably wouldn't share this with anyone. I feel his problems have probably been of an emotional as well as physical nature. I don't know how much contact you have with him but I believe that you should probably get in touch with him now. I think that you still have some unresolved issues and that he may be willing to help you out. Although your chart stills shows some depression and limitations financially that transit is lifting over the course of the next two months and I feel that you will be singing a different tune by the fall. Where love is concerned there is far more activity showing in your chart as early as mid summer but it's up to you to get out and be a participant. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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