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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have always read that a Taurus and a Leo is not a good match. I was born on May 11, around 2:00am 1976. My boyfriend of four years was born on 3 August 1976, I am not sure of the time. We are talking about getting married, but worry that the two of us are rather proud, stubborn people and will not be able to compromise.
Thank you for your help!
Taurus
Dear Taurus
You are both very proud and stubborn and I'm sure that you do butt heads every once in a while but the comparison itself denotes that you have enough that is favorable between your charts to make it work. No relationship is easy - they all take work, compromise and understanding regardless of the signs involved. Although Leo and Taurus is not the best Sun sign match you have enough Gemini, Libra and Sagittarius in your chart and he has enough Taurus, Virgo and Scorpio in his chart to make this relationship work. Your most difficult transits will be occurring over the next three years so if you can make it through this next period you should be able to make it through anything. Getting married and having a family etc. can be very stressful and with the type of transits you have headed your way I would say that this would be your adjustment period into matrimony. All you can do is try your best to form a future together based on what both of you have to offer, to be patient with one another especially over the next few years and to know that coming up will be the most difficult period of your relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Where to start. First of all I guess that I should tell you that I met my husband and I have been with my husband for 20 years. Married for 17. Beautiful children. I have been very unhappy for a longtime. My husband is verbally, mentally, and worst of all physically abusive. I live everyday in fear, and am always trying to make everything happy and peaceful. I am always living planning the next step of the day out to make sure that it is going to make him happy. I am the bread winner in the family, I have to take care of all of the other responsibilities to, cooking, cleaning, bills, children, laundry, and even making his phone calls for his job etc for him. I should mention that he does work as well, but that is his only responsibility. I feel like an awful person for what I am about to tell you, but I have gotten to the point of being desperate for an answer. About 9 years ago, I met our now best friend. He has always been so nice to me. He is a very patient kind person. He is also in a relationship (not married, but do live together) and has wonderful children. His partner is a very angry person and yells constantly at her children it is so sad. I am very close with his children and love them very much. I have always had feelings for him, however never had said anything. We have always sat up and talked for hours on end when he has come over. About 2 1/2 years ago we were sitting and talking and it came out that we both had feelings for each other. I have never been so shocked, I never would have guessed. He told me at the time that he didn't know what to do, as he couldn't imagine waking up and not being in the same house as his children, that they were his life, and I think that is wonderful. We seem to go in spurts of calling each other, and then periods of not calling each other. However, neither one of us seem to be able to talk about our feelings. We have kissed, and it has been truly wonderful. But I do feel very guilty. I cannot stop thinking about him, I think of him when I wake up, through the day, when I go to bed. It's driving me crazy. I wonder if you can tell me what he is thinking. What he feels for me? My birthday is October 9, 1971, his is April 18, 1977, and my husband's is September 7, 1970. If you could please offer me any insight I would be truly grateful.
Libra
Dear Libra
First of all I want to deal with your relationship with your husband. You don't have one, nor do you need him in your life. You are only teaching your children that it is okay for a man to be abusive to a woman and that in it self is wrong and should have been enough for you to move on with your kids long ago.
It appears to me the only reason you are considering doing so now is because you have someone else in your life but that is not the way to start off a good relationship. I understand why you are attracted to your friend but the comparison although superior to the one with your husband it still isn't great. It is apparent that the connection with your friend is Karmic and I believe his debt is to help you remove yourself and your children from the miserable situation you have put up with for too long however after that it will be time for you to move on and start over.
You do not need your husband so cut your losses and get on with your life. You've already wasted too much time and the damage that the kids have endured watching you being abused are probably insurmountable at this point.
Your chart indicates that you probably should have made your move last year but it's still not too late if you take action immediately. As for your love life - it will pick up during the second half of this year once you have rid yourself of the dead weight you've been living with for so many years. What were you thinking when you married this man - it is seldom I see two people stay together as long as the two of you have when you
Dear Eugenia,
For the past two months, I am upset because my boyfriend wants to walk away from me. He loved me so much in the past. I always thought that he would never leave me. But now, he is determined to go. I've tried everything to keep him, and even thought of committing suicide. I don't understand why he completely changed his attitude, but I will not give up. I wish that we would continue to be lovers. At present, I feel very deep sorrow in my heart and I don't know what to do. I love him very much. Is there any hope that we can get back together again? I was born February 4, 1976 at 12:01 PM. He was born November 3, 1978.
Lonely Aquarius
Dear Lonely Aquarius
The comparison with your Scorpio boyfriend was really quite good, however you can't force him to be with you if he doesn't want to be. He is going through a very confusing period right now and there is nothing that you can do to change that. The best thing for you to do is to back off and give him space. You will be in a high cycle next summer regarding love and having someone (possibly him) come back into your life. It is unfortunate when you match up so well that this has happened but it may turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Being apart may make him realize how much you mean to him. Keep in mind that human nature is to want what you can't have and if he feels that you aren't so readily available he may think twice about letting you go. If too much negativity has occurred between you however due to you trying to hang on to him he may not feel that he can ever reverse his decision. For now it's a waiting game. Keep in mind that you will have plenty of opportunities for love next summer and that you not only match up to the sign Scorpio but Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces as well.
Eugenia
