We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
On 19th April 2000 my husband committed suicide. He was undergoing severe depression because of his unemployment and his lack of means of supporting me and our 5 year old boy. We used to live with my family. My family wanted me to divorce him but I had decided to live separate with him so I could give my marriage a chance. The apartment was almost ready, and we were supposed to shift shortly. I had even spoken to my brother and had a job arranged for him. Yet two days before shifting, when I had gone to the apartment to set up things, I found my husband dead in the same apartment. What I need to know now is, why did he have to do such a thing when he knew that I am coming to live with him. His job was also fixed...This one question is really eating me up. I need to know the answer if I have to get on with my life. I was born September 5, 1968 at 9 AM and he was born March 20, 1962, at 9 AM.
Heartbroken
Dear Heartbroken
Your husband?s chart indicated that he had been under great duress for the past several years. He was disappointed in himself and what he had become. This coupled with his uncertainty regarding his relationship with you due to his own paranoia pushed him over the line. I don?t believe that there was anything that you could have done to prevent his action. He felt that you and your son would be better off without him. In his mind he was trying to make your life easier for you. Your husband was going through extreme mood swings that were impossible for him to control. He was a deeply sensitive man that had trouble accepting what he considered to be failure. The last thing he would have wanted to do was hurt or you down. He was not thinkingclearly and with having a tendency to take drastic measures when he didn?t know how to handle a situation unfortunately the end result was fatal. You on the other hand have a strong chart. This is something that probably attracted him to you in the first place. You are coming into a much higher cycle and it is time to put the past behind you. You owe it to yourself and to your son to move forward in a positive manner. Your chart indicates that you will meet interesting people that will influence you in many ways over the course of this year. You need to get out and do things that are worthwhile. By doing so you will find it much easier to move on. New relationships are likely to develop this year however I suggest that you take your time and build a solid friendship first. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio and Capricorn. You did not submit your son?s birth data, however I can tell from your chart that he is confused and suffering right now and that he needs you to spend additional time with him. Try to join groups or clubs that include him as well. If you stick together you will both overcome the nightmare that you have been forced to endure.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Hope from one girl. Eugenia, please take a look at my letter. Many people have told me that I'm too fat. I was fat even when I was very young. I tried every method to keep fit but I failed all the time. Now, I'm too tired to keep dieting. I want to do one career that requires me to lose weight. Dieting is compulsory. I don't want to tell anyone about my dream because I am too fat. Even my parents don't know. They are now planning to send me off to study abroad. If I don't do the job I like, then my life will be meaningless. What should I do now? Do I have the power to achieve my dream? Is it impossible to get slim? I have started to hate myself. Will my dream come true? Do you have any advice to me?? I was born October 26, 1984, at 4 PM.
Dream Girl
Dear Dream Girl
Your chart does indicate that you are a bit of a dreamer but that doesn't mean that you can't achieve your goals. I feel that you have been going about it the wrong way. All these diets are only good if you are in a serious and regimented exercise routine. You will have the discipline over the course of the next two to three years to lose weight if you are smart and combine proper eating habits with regular exercise. I suggest that if you are really serious about this you start by joining a fitness club when you go away to school. Ask your parents to hire a personal trainer for you. Regarding your future profession. I do believe that you will do well with your professional goals and although they may not be exactly what you are dreaming about doing right now you will enjoy the position you end up in. You are still very young and if you start to think about nutrition and eating smartly now you will probably be well on your way to getting trim and fit in no time.
EugeniaHi,?
I'm not sure where to start.? I was born January 29, 1967 at 3:20 am and my ex husband (Dec 10, 1967, sorry do not know the time) and I have been divorced for 5 years.? For the past year we have been battling back and forth over child support, which a court has ruled, but my ex won't follow it.? The court has made an order for him to pay a set amount, but he only has paid 1/2 that said amount.? He constantly tries to manipulate me into doing what he wants by using fear. And he's good at it.? I've given in to him many times because of the fear.? I see that now, and am trying to change that and not let him push me around anymore. I have a great lawyer who was at the right place at the right time so I've retained her; she also represented me in my divorce.? Anyway, I am now starting to not give in to his scare tactics and standing firm in what I feel is right and going forward with court.? But, my ex just won't give up. Every time he sees me, or calls me, he's got to get in a sharp word to upset me. It's almost as if he's trying everything in the book to get me to back down and let the child support arrears go before our next court hearing in July.? I am getting emotionally worn out but I find the more I keep moving forward, the stronger I get.? Will he EVER leave me alone and let me move on with my life?? He's getting married in July, so I don't understand why the constant harassment.? I do have a great support system in my boss, friends, and my lawyer (who are all Taurus's) and they keep me focused.? I'm just wondering if my ex will ever leave me alone and accept that the law is the law or will we be fighting over "money" for ever?? My other question is I have a friend, (May 16, 1949...sorry, no time of birth) who is very interested in me, and I in him.? We both are taking this "friendship/relationship" slow but want it to develop into a committed relationship.? Will it?? He's wonderful to me, very caring, and giving and loving.? He's very supportive and even protective when it comes to my ex. He does have his "quirks", but we all do and I find that communication works really well when something isn't "right".?? I just wanted to know if this would be a good relationship or a waste of time. I wonder when it will be my turn to be in a loving relationship, and hope this one will develop and work out.? There haven't been many "admirers" knocking on my door since my divorce and it's getting depressing.? Thank you for reading my letter and I hope you have time to respond to it.
Kali
Hi Kali
You can?t back down and you will win. Even though your ex will always try to get away with not paying you must stand firm. If he is abusive and using fear tactics you will have to have your lawyer intervene with a court order forbidding him to talk to you directly. That way the law will deal with him not you. You did not have a good comparison with him but it was a karmic connection that you had to endure. The worst is over and I believe that you can and will get on with your life. You will be coming into a much higher cycle regarding love beginning in the fall of 2005 but that doesn?t mean that the man you are currently seeing won?t be the one. He does match up to you well however as you said he does have his quirks. The comparison did show some signs of him being over protective at times and this can be a problem if you don?t control it from day one. Other than that you have a terrific comparison. My only concern is that you are settling for someone because you are insecure and afraid you won?t get another chance to find love. Please move slowly, in the fall of 2005 you will know whether he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with or someone else will steel your heart at that time. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Libra, Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces.
Eugenia
