We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Back on Track

Dear Eugenia,

I'm born Mar 3, 1962, at 6:30 am. My wife: Apr 20, 1964. My son: Jul 9, 1984, at 4:15 PM. My daughter: Oct 23, 1992, at 4:40 PM.

I only received elementary school education and moved to the city to work in a factory. I studied by myself, passed exams and graduated from high school. The medicine company I used to work for 10 yr. was bankrupted and I had to sell my house and everything in order to pay the loans because my colleagues ran away to foreign countries. I still haven't paid all the debts. It's been 5 yrs and I have been violently abused by creditors. As a result, I am addicted to alcohol that harms my health and I even have to see a psychiatrist. My family had to move to a small house and my wife is working from 9:00 am till 11:00pm. It is needless to say how much my family is suffering. I lost confidence in myself. I avoid meeting people. I cannot sleep because of the fear about my future. I can only sleep 2 to 3 hours at night. Since 1997 May, I have been working in a real estate company. I'm writing to you because my life is dreadful. If the past was my fate, then I'd like to know about my future. Of course, I know I have to make my efforts but at the moment, I'm lost. Eugenia... I don't know this topic is ok to be consulted, but I wish I would get some hopes from you. I'm not sure whether you can read my letter since you are too far away, but just giving me a reply will help me a lot. I believe you'll reply to my letter even though you are busy.

KJK

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Dear KJK

Your family's charts indicate that their lives and home environment will improve next summer however in your chart it appears to be before that time. You have been going through very difficult transits that were unfortunate due to the deceptive individuals you were working with. Your chart does indicate that regardless of what actually did occur you would be penalized for the bad debt. You could have been institutionalized had you not been honest. Although you are still going through many changes I believe that over the course of the next two to three years your life will improve dramatically. You should be able to get yourself back on track. You do have to be careful who you deal with however because you were born with an aspect in your chart that will almost always lead to deceptive partnerships, friendships etc. You are best to do your own thing and to work by yourself. Your addiction problem is the first thing that you have to deal with. One of the reasons you aren't sleeping has to do with the alcohol content in your body. It has become a viscous circle. You drink to relax, forget and sleep and those are the very things that the alcohol will disrupt. In fact it is probably the main source of your agitation and inability to sleep. I suggest that the first thing you do is to seek help for your addiction. You have a strong will and a decent chart. You are bright, sensitive and you have a family that needs to know that you can pull yourself out of this mental depression and addiction. It may not be easy but if you act now and join a group that deals with addictions you will have your problem under control in no time and you will be able to take advantage of the good transits coming up in your chart next year. The fact that you reached out to me is the first step. Get yourself moving, motivated and in control. I know you can do it. I suggest that you try to start a small in house business on the side and build it up to a point that your wife will be able to stay at home and run that business for you in the future. If your real estate job is not bringing in enough money starting looking for a better position, but don't quit what you are doing unless you have another job to go to. Once you stop drinking you will be surprised how much you can accomplish and how much more money you will have. Stop thinking about what you must do, it's time to take action.

Eugenia

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Article: Troubles in Beijing

Dear Eugenia,

I was born in 1978/7/8 at 7:00am, and am now working in Beijing. I am not doing the profession that I studied. I have to start all over again. Last August, when I just came to Beijing, my friend who came here with me died. I feel very sad. I always have the feeling that I should take some responsibility for her death because I brought her to Beijing. If I did not recommend her to the job, she would not come to Beijing and would not die. I am living in the city alone. I have no good friend here, doing something that I am not familiar with, learning new things from the very beginning and earning a very low salary. I don't know whether coming to Beijing has been the right choice. I want to change my job but I am not sure whether the new job requires me to learn new things from the very beginning. I don't even know whether I should get a new job relating to my profession or should I stay in this trading company invested by foreign capital. I really don't know where to go. Hope you can give me some advice.

Lost

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Dear Lost

You must not blame yourself for your friend's untimely death. I believe that we all have a beginning and an end. That nothing can change those two parameters in life. There was nothing you did to cause your friends death nor could have done anything to prevent it. As for you, it's time to get on with your life and put the past behind you. You are in a high cycle regarding relationships, meeting people through the organizations or clubs you join, socializing and putting your creative abilities to work for you. This is a period that you should be expanding your circle of friends. Regarding your work you will not be able to rely on others. You will have to work hard in order to get ahead but if you do it will pay off. The confusion in your chart is evident, especially regarding your future career prospects but if you just continue to work hard eventually this will pass and accomplishment will be yours. Regarding where you live it would be better to consider a move during the second half of this year or the first half of next, as for right now you are better to stay where you are. Stop being so hard on yourself and living in the past. Life is for the living, not the dead. Get out, meet people and move on.

Eugenia

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Article: From Torn

Hi Eugenia

Pleeeaaassse help me!

I just moved into a new place with my boyfriend but I'm not sure he's the one. Some days I convince myself that everything is okay then other days I wonder if I can handle all the issues he has with his ex wife, children and him not wanting anymore kids. (his b-day is: Jan 11/62 at 3am and mine August 26, 1964, at 6 am). We have been arguing so much more ever since we moved in and I'm ready to walk. Should I stay and give it a chance or is it best to leave now?

Thanks,
Torn!

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Hi Torn!

You and your partner match up very well astrologically. It's times like these that you discover how strong your character is as well as his. His chart indicates that he has difficult transits regarding divorce settlement, legal matters, financial agreements and so forth but this will continue to haunt him for the next two years and like it or not he does have to be responsible to his first family regardless of how his ex is responding. All that being said he should probably try to put a stop to any harassment that he may be subject to by coming to a suitable arrangement that both he his ex and his children stick to. Once that is done things at least have a chance to settle down. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a period of uncertainty and you must try to curb any desire to overreact or to make changes suddenly that you might regret later on. Regarding having children of your own you will be feeling the urge especially over the course of the next year and I do believe that the chance of getting pregnant is likely however it may not be the best thing to do when your relationship is going through so much turmoil. I have seen many comparisons that are good where the end result was separation. Right now your timing is bad and it likely that you will get fed up. You are both going through a fair amount of stress over the course of the next 18 months. To add to that if you should get pregnant, fly off the handle or get upset about things that are out of your control will not help matters. This is a relationship worth nurturing but with the transits you both are experiencing I have my doubts that you will make it. Should you decide to walk, and you probably will, I believe that you will meet someone new before year-end. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Without having your partner's ex-wife's date of birth as well as his children's birth data I can't be sure what he will do should you walk but his chart indicates that he could very easily return to his family should that be the case.

Eugenia

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