We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My birth is 07/12/1968 I was in a relationship for about 2yrs we got engage and broke it off because we couldn't touch ground with each other so we decided to brake it off in 2006. His birthday is 01/2/1968 and we work at the same job we don't talk to each other any more and it hurts me because I still have feeling for him but I don't no if he still cares for me. I won't go to him and talk to him because I'm scared that he will reject me. Sometimes I think he is my soul mate or I don't no what to think anymore we had such a mad brake up with no closure and I need that in order to move on. Can you tell me was he the man for me or will somebody else will enter my life and if so please tell me when. ...HELP
Cancer
Dear Cancer
Although your comparison with your Capricorn friend wasn't bad, emotional deception is present and this is what caused the breakdown. I believe this relationship is karmic and feel that you may both be learning a lesson. That lesson could very well be an inability to communicate about the way you feel. If you cannot come to terms with this it will probably be difficult in the future for either one of you to express your true feelings in subsequent relationships.
Even though you may face rejection it is vital that you approach your Capricorn friend and clear the air regarding how you feel if you ever want to form a lasting and loving relationship with anyone in the future.
You are in a high cycle this year regarding love and you must take care of your past relationship once and for all in order to take advantage of moving forward with someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am at a very strange point in my life, which feels very chaotic--sometimes as though it is moving in a positive direction, and sometimes as though it is very stagnant.
I am entering my third year of university, studying art, art history, and German. I'm at a point at which I really need to figure out what it is I want to do long-term. I feel pressure from my family to make this decision (mainly on my mother's side, though my mother and I are almost entirely out-of-touch, as she is with her sister and parents). I also feel internal pressure, as though I may feel more confident and clear-headed if I can make a commitment and develop some sort of plan to pursue my education and career beyond this point. Basically, I am feeling directionless, confused, and as though I have no solid ground to fall back on. I worry a lot about my mother, but cannot stay in contact with her, as she is experiencing a time of sever financial difficulties and, as a result, has no phone line, disallowing contact by phone or email. (She was born August 11, 1950.) All I can say about my desires for the future is that I want to be involved in art --the only thing that is truly fulfilling for me. I would love to be a professional artist, but that is risky and I do not want to put myself into a situation of financial despair. I have seen both of my parents struggle throughout my entire life thus far.
In addition to these feelings, I am having a difficult time romantically. I have been seeing a man (born February 6th, 1977) for about 6 months. Though we connect very well intellectually, we are both very busy. I have a hectic work, school and homework schedule, while he is very social and constantly has plans to go out with friends, which he views as obligations. He therefore has little time to spend with me during the time I actually have free and is frustrated that I never want to go out and party with him and his friends. I think that, due to our different lifestyles, we may not be able to reconcile this, though I care for him very much and when we are together, he seems to feel the same way. My luck with men isn't too good and upon our initially getting together, I was excited to finally meet someone I could connect with, who was intelligent, observant, and who seemed to share so many interests.
Do you see any end to the constant stress, chaos and frustration resulting from my present life and relationships, as well as my attempting to sort out my future endeavors?
Please help! I am so confused and freaked-out by every aspect of my life right now!! I was born Oct. 22, 1981 at 1:45 PM.
Thank you so much,
M
Dear M
You are a strong Libra. All your natal planets in that sign are in an area of your chart that deals with higher education, travel, philosophy, immigration and different cultures. That being said it isn't surprising that you are waffling about your future and your educational pursuits. I believe however that you must get on with it and finish whatever you have already begun. Your chart indicates that you should be in school or at least in a learning environment for the next two years although I do believe that you will be able to pick up work in the field of your choice beginning next year. This could lead to an apprenticeship, learning on the job or working and continuing your education. I believe that it is important to follow your dream however it is also necessary to support your addiction to your art/dream/etc. You are still young and have time. Your chart indicates that if you finish school this next year that the following year will still be a learning experience for you - possibly a chance to move to Germany where you can put your second language to use while you pursue a position in at a gallery or in some other area that relates to the arts. Teaching is also something that shows prominently in your char
Dear Miss Last,
This is my first time writing to an advice column and I feel funny. But I'd really appreciate some advice. There's someone I met about a yearback. She's funny, sweet, and seems genuinely nice. I was falling for her in a big way then she told me that she was actually attached with a married guy. Needless to say, I backed off real fast and tried to cool off everything. Eventually she broke off with this other guy. Well, I really like her as a friend but she came on too strong. We parted for a while, but at a chance meeting, we felt the sparks between us and got back together. Our relationship went on for a while. Sexually, we're very compatible, she's fantastic. I guess we connect really well. She's very nice, always doing things for me, but she's erratic, compulsive, obsessiveand has this irritating habit of interrupting. And I find myself keep looking out for other women because I don't find stability with her. Late last year, she told me she's pregnant. After questioning her, it turned out that she's lying. I felt cheated. This sweet naive girl who never told lies, told me a big one so convincingly. I didn't intend to see her again. Then as it turned out, she got pregnant for real. Because of her lies, we didn't take precaution. I felt trapped and cheated. What's worse, she promised to keep it mum between us but ended up telling most of our friends. Well, we went together for the abortion. After that, I felt so stressed by all the questioning from our friends, I took some time out. Instead of understanding, she became so demanding and unreasonable, she'd call me every 10mins or so. When I ignored her, she attempted to commit suicide. This freaked me out. Anyway, during this time, I got to know another gal better, and she has been very supportive over the whole incident. And she made me happy. Though my ex and I are no longer together, I feeling uncomfortable when I see her scantily dressed flirting with other guys at the pub. She lost quite a bit of weight and has taken to wearing sexy clothing. I thought that she was leading a new life and is happy. But recently, she buys me an expensive wallet and through our friends, I found out that she is still in love with me. I don't think we can be together again because she has hurt me badly twice, and I will not let her hurt me a third time. But she has started calling me on and off again, even getting her friends to call me as well. It's affecting my work and my life. I'm so afraid of her that I've even avoided our usual haunts and pubs. Help! How do I resolve this situation? She's born on December 19, 1974, somewhere around midnight. I was born August 9, 1971, at 9:53 AM.
Cornered Leo
Dear Cornered Leo
The comparison was adequate with your Sagittarius girlfriend but you did have plenty of obstacles to overcome. Problems with emotional mind games and dishonesty were prevalent as were issues that dealt with every day life. I fear that you aren't over her yet or you probably would have mentioned your latest girlfriends birth date. My first suggestion would be to run like the wind, don't look back and avoid at all costs this so called innocent, na?ve, sweet girl. I found your description somewhat strange. Her chart indicates that she is the type of person who will take drastic measures in order to get what she wants. That she will overreact and that she isn't likely to settle down or commit completely to anyone. She doesn't have a bad chart however it is one that could be described as the chart of a playgirl. I fear she has been toying with you and it's time for you to completely put a stop to it. Get on with your life. You are moving into a high cycle where love and romance are concerned and although someone from your past could try to come back into your life you are best to look for new partners instead. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra and Aquarius.
E
