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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I had written to you a while back and I totally understand that you are overloaded with emails daily. I will try to keep this brief.
I'm completely tired and fed up with the dating game. Dating has become so difficult even with all the Internet sites to help us out. I find that so many people portray themselves a certain way that's practically "wonderful" for the most part and yet, within days or maybe even a short couple of weeks they show their "true selves". The guy that doesn't call back or doesn't make plans any more. I find it difficult to get past a 1st or 2nd date with many of these guys. I certainly don't think I'm an unattractive woman by any means, but I'm also a big-hearted person with a lot of genuine love. I just don't understand why it's so hard to find someone that I am not only physically attracted to, but emotionally as well. The men that I am attracted to for various reasons (humorous, cute, nice) turn out to be jerks! They show interest initially and then disappear! I'm pretty clear on the type of person that I am and that I am looking for, so I can't imagine these guys thinking I'm "that type of girl".
Eugenia, please shed some light here and tell me. Do you see love in my life SOON?
Last year I wrote to you and you said that I would meet someone in the latter part of 2006. Unfortunately, that didn't happen.
Is there any hope for me yet? When do you think I will meet the right man? I've been alone and have enjoyed it, but it's time to move forward in my life. I do hope to be married one day and have a family. (Whether biological children or adopted).
My DOB is 19/01/70 at 1 am.
Signed,
Tired yet still hopeful
Dear tired yet still hopeful
Yes indeed you did go through a very fast but short-lived love cycle late last year and you probably met a few people but nothing stuck. It wasn't the strongest transit but none the less one that had potential to lead to romance. It falls in an area of your chart that deals with meeting people through friends, neighbors, and relatives as well as by getting involved in activities with groups or pursuing interests you enjoy. Like taking a course or going on a singles cruise. Although the Internet can be included as a way to meet partners it certainly shouldn't be your first choice. Internet dating can work for some but so many people abuse this service by using it as a dating game instead of being serious. Lots of unhappy married people sit for countless hours connecting with people on internet dating sites because they are lonely in the relationship they are in. Not having to be face to face with someone they can lie, cheat and live in whatever dream world they want to create. This is hurtful to the honest individual who is truly looking for a long-term connection. It is far better to get involved in activities you enjoy so that you meet someone who has similar interests. This way you get to build the friendship first and let love take its course naturally instead of the fast paced internet dating scene that has taken the planet by storm. I tend to think a lot of people consider Internet dating as virtual dating - not real - just play.
Back to your chart - there is no reason why you can't find love. Your natal Venus is nicely positioned in your chart however I do believe that with your natal Saturn being in an area of your chart that deals with relationships that you are prone to marrying later in life rather than earlier and that you are also conservative and quite picky when it comes to a partner and there is nothing wrong with that. Probably even more so why you don't belong in the Internet dating game but will do much better using old fashioned methods to find love.
Although this year isn't bad for love you also have to be careful which partner you pick and that whoever you choose doesn't cost you financially
Dear Ms. Last:
I don't know how many letters you have received regarding gay relationships, but I'm sure this won't be your first. I've been with my boyfriend for three months now, he is an Aquarius born on February 12, 1979. I am a Cancer born on July 8, 1978, at 2:11 in the afternoon.
We've been experiencing some difficulties within the integrity of the relationship. As a Cancer, I tend to be very smothering, and sometimes I can inundate an individual too much. My boyfriend recently told me that he wants to take a break because he is confused. He became very cold and insipid in the last week, and seemed to be very standoffish. As a typical Cancer, my emotions have been running the gamut lately, and I am just wondering if this break will be permanent or temporary. I am willing to give him the space he needs, after all, I need my own identity as well. I am willing to compromise and make this work. When I've asked him SEVERAL times if he would rather be with someone else, he has replied that he can't think of touching anyone else but me. I really believe David to be a person of pure heart and good intentions, and my trust, which wanes at times, is restored in him. I just hope that fate has something planned for us. I would also like to know, that despite the low reading on the compatibility between David and I, the connection feels much stronger. Thank you for your insight...Your site and work is wonderful!
Hoping this is true love,
Cancer
Dear Cancer
The area in your chart that deals with relationships is going through a make it or break it period. The summer is a perfect time for you to take a break from your confused Aquarius partner. You need time as well. You are correct to say that your comparison wasn?t great, workable yes, but not easy. I can tell that you will be coming into a high cycle next summer that should bring someone into your life who is probably better for you. If you let this Aquarius fill the void in your life he will only be standing in the way when someone terrific wants to be with you. This could cause you to miss out on a relationship that could be the love of your life. Your Aquarius is going through a period that is extremely confusing. He is uncertain about himself and his future. He doesn?t really know what he wants and although he is capable of remaining loyal it is not one of his priorities. You are sensitive and willing to be blind to the problems that the two of you are facing. You will not win in this situation if you do try to make it work. Your Aquarius will not compromise or give as much to this relationship as you will and in turn you will eventually feel used. Please consider moving on. Focus on work, making money, investments, your home and so on until next summer when you will be in a much better position to fall in love. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I think my man is cheating on me. He was born 2/1/58 in Peoria, IL. We have been together for 2 years, and one thing that's always bothered me is his ability to "compartmentalize." He has several exes that I have never been introduced to, yet I have known all along that he sees them in social situations. This does not bug me, as it seems to indicate that he is truly a caring person and does not throw away relationships with ease.
However, I have sensed a shift recently, and don't know whether to chalk it up to my oversensitive Cancer nature, or to trust my female intuition. The details are unimportant. There is a voice in my head, screaming loudly, that I am being lied to and cheated on.
I am hoping you will help me by providing reassurance that this man does love me truly, like he says he does, or that my unfortunate suspicions are true and I should move on. I think this man may be the love of my life, so I am willing to hang in here, providing I am not being made a fool of. I was born 7/17/66 at 8:52 PM.
Thanks in advance,
Hurting Heart
Dear Hurting Heart
The comparison with your Aquarius lover was not very good. As a matter of fact it screams deception when it comes to communicating about matters that pertain to his friendships with other people or even communicating at any level for that matter. He was also born with his natal Venus adversely positioned to his natal Neptune and this is the major sign of sorrow when it comes to love and romance. The reason he still sees his ex girlfriends is to lead them on. He has to know that at any time he can pull strings and get them to dance with him yet again. Your Aquarius friend is not the sweet and caring man you think he is. He is cool and calculating. As for you - well you are way to sensitive to be involved with the likes of him. You have too much to offer emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally and there is no doubt in my mind that you should be moving on quickly. I know that moving on and letting go are both very difficult for a Cancer to do and in your case you are such a strong Cancer with such a big heart that I can see why you sit there even though you are smart enough to see what's going on right under your nose. You are in a high cycle regarding love and romance until late October and I suggest that you don't waste this precious time on him. Get out of this relationship and move quickly to find a new love. I believe if you do so you will be much happier this time next year. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
