We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I had written to you a while back and I totally understand that you are overloaded with emails daily. I will try to keep this brief.
I'm completely tired and fed up with the dating game. Dating has become so difficult even with all the Internet sites to help us out. I find that so many people portray themselves a certain way that's practically "wonderful" for the most part and yet, within days or maybe even a short couple of weeks they show their "true selves". The guy that doesn't call back or doesn't make plans any more. I find it difficult to get past a 1st or 2nd date with many of these guys. I certainly don't think I'm an unattractive woman by any means, but I'm also a big-hearted person with a lot of genuine love. I just don't understand why it's so hard to find someone that I am not only physically attracted to, but emotionally as well. The men that I am attracted to for various reasons (humorous, cute, nice) turn out to be jerks! They show interest initially and then disappear! I'm pretty clear on the type of person that I am and that I am looking for, so I can't imagine these guys thinking I'm "that type of girl".
Eugenia, please shed some light here and tell me. Do you see love in my life SOON?
Last year I wrote to you and you said that I would meet someone in the latter part of 2006. Unfortunately, that didn't happen.
Is there any hope for me yet? When do you think I will meet the right man? I've been alone and have enjoyed it, but it's time to move forward in my life. I do hope to be married one day and have a family. (Whether biological children or adopted).
My DOB is 19/01/70 at 1 am.
Signed,
Tired yet still hopeful
Dear tired yet still hopeful
Yes indeed you did go through a very fast but short-lived love cycle late last year and you probably met a few people but nothing stuck. It wasn't the strongest transit but none the less one that had potential to lead to romance. It falls in an area of your chart that deals with meeting people through friends, neighbors, and relatives as well as by getting involved in activities with groups or pursuing interests you enjoy. Like taking a course or going on a singles cruise. Although the Internet can be included as a way to meet partners it certainly shouldn't be your first choice. Internet dating can work for some but so many people abuse this service by using it as a dating game instead of being serious. Lots of unhappy married people sit for countless hours connecting with people on internet dating sites because they are lonely in the relationship they are in. Not having to be face to face with someone they can lie, cheat and live in whatever dream world they want to create. This is hurtful to the honest individual who is truly looking for a long-term connection. It is far better to get involved in activities you enjoy so that you meet someone who has similar interests. This way you get to build the friendship first and let love take its course naturally instead of the fast paced internet dating scene that has taken the planet by storm. I tend to think a lot of people consider Internet dating as virtual dating - not real - just play.
Back to your chart - there is no reason why you can't find love. Your natal Venus is nicely positioned in your chart however I do believe that with your natal Saturn being in an area of your chart that deals with relationships that you are prone to marrying later in life rather than earlier and that you are also conservative and quite picky when it comes to a partner and there is nothing wrong with that. Probably even more so why you don't belong in the Internet dating game but will do much better using old fashioned methods to find love.
Although this year isn't bad for love you also have to be careful which partner you pick and that whoever you choose doesn't cost you financially
Dear Eugenia,
I have written to you many times in hopes of a response from you. I desperately need your advise on a situation that seems irresolvable to me. Firstly, I would like to say that you are a wonderfully gifted person and I enjoy your website very much, and I wish you continued success with your new T.V. show.
I am a Capricorn female (please do not include any birth information date, place or time of any of the people mentioned in this email, thank you). Born XXX. XX, XXXX, XX X:XX pm. I am involved with two people, a Leo male we will call Leo born XXX. XX, XXXX. I am very close to this person and I am very happy with him. I am also involved with a Cancer male, we will call Gerald. The Cancer's birthday is XXXX X, XXXX. What do you see in my relationships with these two men. My heart belongs to Leo, but I feel responsible toward Gerald. How do you see them with regards to how they feel about me. Also my Leo is involved with a crazy woman, born XXXX XX, XXXX. She is an extremely jealous and insecure person. What do you see in Leo and Crazy woman's relationship? Please Eugenia, I am desperate for your help in this and I look forward to any advise you can give me. I sometimes feel very trapped in my own fears and desperate for some solution to this confusion. Please help me.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I do not usually omit birth data because I believe that it is of interest especially for students of astrology. One of the best ways to learn the subject is to take the data, cast the chart and see if you come up with a similar answer to the one I have given. In your case however I am going to make an exception.
I can see your dilemma. You do match up to your Leo however when it comes right down to it your comparison with Gerald is actually a little bit better. Your relationship with Gerald may be tired and in need of some added spice of life but that is attainable as long as you rid yourself of the Leo in your life. Your Leo on the other hand, like it or not, matches up just as well if not better to his crazy woman whom I might add may not be so crazy if he were more trust worthy in his relationships. This Leo gets plenty of opportunities to flirt and so forth and he can be quite a woman's man. You are drawn to him for various reasons but I must admit there is some deception showing in your connection with him and I venture to say that is will lead to absolutely no good if you continue down this pathway. Your attraction to one another is physical and this is just not good enough. You will end up hurting two people that you are both well suited to if you continue to play this game. The crazy woman has just gone through two and a half years of suffering, limitations and depression and it is probably due to your playful way of dealing with her mate. Back off before you find yourself at a point of no return. I believe the end result will be a loss for you on all counts. Unfortunately according to what I see in the crazy woman's chart her Leo love is probably going to leave her or make a personal change in his life putting you in a position to turn your back on Gerald to be with your Leo love. Your Cancer, Gerald I believe has been in the dark and has trusted a little too much. His limitations ring out loud and clear especially after the end of May of this year. Times are changing for all of you and I fear that the end result may be you with your Leo leaving two shattered hearts by the wayside. The ironic picture is that I believe in time you and your Leo will discover that the grass really isn't greener on the other side of the moutain.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have a 4-year-old daughter born on 6th May 1996 at 4.45pm. She has started to have bouts of severe blinking. I am very concerned about her health and doctors cannot seem to give me much in the way of answers and it seems to be worse at the moment. I would love any advice as I am at my wits end with worry.
Mother In Despair
Dear Mother In Despair
Your daughter was born with her natal Saturn at an adverse angle to her natal Moon and natal Venus and this can cause problems with her vision. In turn this can result in the severe blinking. However, if you have already checked this out I believe that the other problem that could be causing her blinking is stress. Where lower education is concerned she can have difficult experiences with her peers as well as with her teachers. You will have to keep a close eye on what is actually happening to her in her school environment. Her home situation does not appear to be that happy for her right now. I believe that there is some uncertainty, deception or escapism that is affecting her. Possibly someone in the family is abusive in some way. Either abuses alcohol or is verbally harsh and she is not reacting well to this. Your daughter is highly intuitive and imaginative and although you may not be picking up on someone's actions as being caustic I believe that she is. In many ways I feel that your daughter has intuitive abilities that are highly confusing for her right now. She is picking up all sorts of information that is not necessarily spoken out loud. This can be very upsetting for someone her age. The best way to help her is to open up communication and encourage her to talk to you about the way she feels and the thoughts and dreams that she is having. I know that this may sound far-fetched to you but it is what shows up in her chart. I hope that this will help you to help her. As she grows older and has a better understanding of how intuitive and creative she is she will be able to put her talents to good use and the severe blinking should diminish.
Eugenia
