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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From tired yet still hopeful

Dear Eugenia

I had written to you a while back and I totally understand that you are overloaded with emails daily. I will try to keep this brief.

I'm completely tired and fed up with the dating game. Dating has become so difficult even with all the Internet sites to help us out. I find that so many people portray themselves a certain way that's practically "wonderful" for the most part and yet, within days or maybe even a short couple of weeks they show their "true selves". The guy that doesn't call back or doesn't make plans any more. I find it difficult to get past a 1st or 2nd date with many of these guys. I certainly don't think I'm an unattractive woman by any means, but I'm also a big-hearted person with a lot of genuine love. I just don't understand why it's so hard to find someone that I am not only physically attracted to, but emotionally as well. The men that I am attracted to for various reasons (humorous, cute, nice) turn out to be jerks! They show interest initially and then disappear! I'm pretty clear on the type of person that I am and that I am looking for, so I can't imagine these guys thinking I'm "that type of girl".

Eugenia, please shed some light here and tell me. Do you see love in my life SOON?

Last year I wrote to you and you said that I would meet someone in the latter part of 2006. Unfortunately, that didn't happen.

Is there any hope for me yet? When do you think I will meet the right man? I've been alone and have enjoyed it, but it's time to move forward in my life. I do hope to be married one day and have a family. (Whether biological children or adopted).

My DOB is 19/01/70 at 1 am.

Signed,
Tired yet still hopeful

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Dear tired yet still hopeful

Yes indeed you did go through a very fast but short-lived love cycle late last year and you probably met a few people but nothing stuck. It wasn't the strongest transit but none the less one that had potential to lead to romance. It falls in an area of your chart that deals with meeting people through friends, neighbors, and relatives as well as by getting involved in activities with groups or pursuing interests you enjoy. Like taking a course or going on a singles cruise. Although the Internet can be included as a way to meet partners it certainly shouldn't be your first choice. Internet dating can work for some but so many people abuse this service by using it as a dating game instead of being serious. Lots of unhappy married people sit for countless hours connecting with people on internet dating sites because they are lonely in the relationship they are in. Not having to be face to face with someone they can lie, cheat and live in whatever dream world they want to create. This is hurtful to the honest individual who is truly looking for a long-term connection. It is far better to get involved in activities you enjoy so that you meet someone who has similar interests. This way you get to build the friendship first and let love take its course naturally instead of the fast paced internet dating scene that has taken the planet by storm. I tend to think a lot of people consider Internet dating as virtual dating - not real - just play.

Back to your chart - there is no reason why you can't find love. Your natal Venus is nicely positioned in your chart however I do believe that with your natal Saturn being in an area of your chart that deals with relationships that you are prone to marrying later in life rather than earlier and that you are also conservative and quite picky when it comes to a partner and there is nothing wrong with that. Probably even more so why you don't belong in the Internet dating game but will do much better using old fashioned methods to find love.

Although this year isn't bad for love you also have to be careful which partner you pick and that whoever you choose doesn't cost you financially

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Article: Trying to Forget

Dear Eugenia,

I have been under depression and frustration over this girl whom I met on chat. We started talking on chat, later on exchanged photos and phone numbers. We also talked many times over the phone and chatted regularly on the net. The problem is, at present she lives in another country. I am originally from the same country as she is. I met her personally last year around December and this was not the first time I proposed to her. Couple times before I proposed to her but she always kept saying its not practical for us to be together due to distance problem.

I love this girl very much and I believe that nothing is impossible in this world if we put total dedication and hard work into it. I haven't felt this strong for any girl before, I am truly in love with her. I know she also loves me but she is scared cause of distance problem things might not work out. It was my last and final try when I proposed to her last year. I made a decision that I will try to forget her since she's not ready and I do not want to be pushy in this matter.

But whenever we talk we still show some kind of affection and care towards each other. But this thing is troubling me very much that just cause of distance problems things are not working out. At present moving back to my native land is impossible for me, it might be possible after I graduate and look for jobs near her town. With her, I don't know if she could move here cause she's just avoiding this whole issue, may be cause she's very sensitive and gets hurt easily, plus scared to make a decision.

Her dob is 6th July 1982, time 4:07pm and mine is September 15, 1977, at 6:06 AM. Can you please tell me if there's a future for us together, are we destined to be a couple by any chance? PLEASE HELP.

Brokenheart

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Dear Brokenheart

The comparison was quite good however there is a sign of sorrow due to the distance between you. Communication and honesty can be your greatest asset when dealing with a situation like yours. I believe that you should consider approaching your dilemma from the angle that you will move to where she is in order to be with her once you finish your studies. I believe that she is very attached to her home and family and that is why she is finding it impractical to even consider moving forward with your relationship. Once you make it clear that you will do whatever is necessary in order to be with her it should help. She is moving into a period that could make or break your relationship with her. Unfortunately this may also be due to a commitment made by her parents to another man. You must speak openly about your intent and when you would be able to make it. It is important to talk to her parents and yours as well to see if everyone is in agreement. Your cultural background from what I understand would warrant you doing so. Please don't feel discouraged. Go through the proper channels and it will be much easier to proceed. Regarding being destined, I believe that any relationship can work if both people put in the time and effort. As for the two of you, your comparison is good and I believe with a little help you may just be destined to be together.

Eugenia

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Article: Brains and Brawn

Dear Eugenia,

I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?

Perplexed

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Dear Perplexed

You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.

Eugenia

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