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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have lived with a man for the last 6 years. The first couple of years were really hard and our exes and kids caused some problems. We became engaged last year, after much heated debate about where we were going in our relationship. He then told his oldest daughter, we were not getting married, (his children had a problem with his divorce, even though he had been separated for 15 years) and then told me he didn't want to get into it with her. Well, he has told me recently that he really didn't want to get married, but we have agreed I would take his last name, and he still wanted to buy me a ring. Just recently on a trip home with his daughter (23 years old) he told her that after our trip to Florida he was breaking up with me. The thing is when I confronted him about this he totally denied it and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. So, does he just say things to her so she wont freak out, or is he really lying to me. His birth date is Feb. 28/1955 and mine is September 14, 1971 at 5 AM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison with your Pisces man is good but it does show signs of emotional deception. He probably isn't being completely honest with either one of you. Before I go any further however I have to ask you why the whole marriage thing is so important to you. Why would you want to take on his name having your name differ from your children's not to mention the complications changing it back should your relationship not work. Keep in mind that legally you are considered married after cohabitating as long as you have. If I were you I would settle for being included in his will so that you are taken care of in the future. Especially if you have both contributed to your home, household, investments etc.
As mentioned your comparison is good but there is an element that indicates that it could end abruptly so you may want to consider the legal aspects that count regarding property etc instead of whether or not you have the same last name.
His chart shows evidence of sorrow when it comes to relationships and that he can swivel rapidly when it comes to his affections. To force this man to marry would probably be the beginning of the end so if I were you I wouldn't go there.
I don't believe his kids at this stage of the game have the right to dictate what he does with his life and that he is only using how they feel as tool to back out of the marriage.
If you truly love this man, and it appears you do, I would be more inclined to leave well enough alone and enjoy your time together. I believe if you push too hard he will have a change of heart. You know the old saying if something works why fix it.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia
My wife of 11 years passed away this past September 10th, 2002 born 7/4/1954 named Yolanda. A beautiful Cancerian that touched my life in ways that I still ache for. She was a liver transplant patient that did not take so we had her for an additional year since the operation. It was the most painful experience of my life to say the least. I have since regained my strength to move on and follow the path set for me by the stars. At times I find myself disoriented. I guess it's that I see all that is around me and everyone so differently now that it throws me off.
I try to see other women and find that I look for the qualities or even passion that Yolanda had with me. I look for it in their eyes and their way of being. We had so so much in common music you can name it. We met as performers and fell in love a love like no other for me. I find myself analyzing everything that I do with a different purpose, Job, Friends, Hobbies, etc. It is so hard to not have her in my life. It is the equivalent of living in the dark without the sun and we all need the sun. But my will gets me past to see the next day. Will I see or feel relief from what I am going through. I was born November 19, 1958, at 8:38 am.
Torn Soul
Dear Torn Soul
You had a wonderful comparison with Yolanda and a very special connection, and you should be thankful for that, but you should also realize that each connection that we make in life is unique and that you can and will meet someone who will touch your heart deeply but the time is not right just yet. You still need to grieve and for now friendships and social acquaintances is all that you should expect. This is a time that you must get busy doing things to benefit others. You should be joining an organization you believe in that may even have something to do with fundraising for the live transplant society. You have so much to deal with regarding your loss that you can't expect to not be looking for Yolanda in everyone you meet and that's not fair to the women you date. A good friendship will help you get through your troubled times and helping or donating your time to a worthy cause will lead you out of the dark. By this time next year you will be in a much better position to find love. Move slowly and give yourself some time to heal. Yolanda fell in an area of your chart that deals with dead-end projects and this usually stops a relationship one way or another, you will not get along which wasn't the case with you and Yolanda or the love of your life is taken from you early, which it was. In time you will be able to separate your deep love for Yolanda from the relationship that will be in your future but you cannot replace what you had. Once you realize that you will be able to move forward. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio and Pisces.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia...
I don't know whether you accept this kind of matter as well but it is quite important for me. These days I'm having weird dreams. Well, I should say scary dreams. I feel like I'm being cursed. I live in an apartment. In my dream, I was sitting in the living room. Suddenly, I looked at my terrace and I found out a cat was looking at me with a nasty face. As I was looking at the cat, she came over and bit my hand. I tried to scream but I couldn't make any sound. There were people in the living room but no one helped me. Another dream is... a cat was chasing me. I was riding a bike with my friend and she was following me. I was riding to where I used to live in my childhood. I ran and ran; after all I was the first one to win in the race. Yesterday, I had a dream about my teeth got stuck in the ice stone.Since I'm getting an interview in May, I care about these dreams because dreaming about teeth and cats are not good. Besides, cats are considered bad. Do you think these dreams are implying something? Can you tell by looking at my chart if there is a reason for me having these nightmares? I was born February 7, 1977, at 5:00 PM.
Upset
Dear Upset
Bad dreams are usually the result of going through stressful times. In your case your imagination is exaggerated. This can result in the nightmares that you are experiencing. You have a good chart and there is no reason why you should be worried or alarmed. Try to relax a little. You will do just fine as long as you focus on your goals and give yourself a chance to excel. Where your career is concerned things look pretty good. Educational pursuits you also show promise. Partnerships and relationships are in a high cycle as well. I think that you are being hard on yourself and that one of the things you should be doing is putting your creative imagination to work for you in a positive manner. Try writing lyrics, poetry or books and see if you can put your talents to work for you. Dreaming about cats and teeth can be forewarning you that obstacles will stand in your way. Prepare yourself well for your interview and you should not have to worry about its outcome. I believe that the stress that you are experiencing is due to uncertainty in your life. Once you have a better idea of your future direction you will probably not have the dreams any more. Just remember, preparation, good organization and planning your future will help you take advantage of all the favorable transits that you will be going through this year. Positive thoughts will lead to positive actions.
Eugenia
December 22nd 2025
Happy Birthday: Incorporate the changes that excite you into your daily routine. Step outside your comfort zone and be the one to make things happen. Embrace life, love, and turn negatives into positives. Be the driving force behind your happiness, and you'll have no regrets. Opportunity is within reach; it's up to you to do your part. Stop holding yourself back when you have so much to gain by following your dreams. Your numbers are 5, 17, 22, 27, 32, 39, 45.