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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have lived with a man for the last 6 years. The first couple of years were really hard and our exes and kids caused some problems. We became engaged last year, after much heated debate about where we were going in our relationship. He then told his oldest daughter, we were not getting married, (his children had a problem with his divorce, even though he had been separated for 15 years) and then told me he didn't want to get into it with her. Well, he has told me recently that he really didn't want to get married, but we have agreed I would take his last name, and he still wanted to buy me a ring. Just recently on a trip home with his daughter (23 years old) he told her that after our trip to Florida he was breaking up with me. The thing is when I confronted him about this he totally denied it and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. So, does he just say things to her so she wont freak out, or is he really lying to me. His birth date is Feb. 28/1955 and mine is September 14, 1971 at 5 AM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison with your Pisces man is good but it does show signs of emotional deception. He probably isn't being completely honest with either one of you. Before I go any further however I have to ask you why the whole marriage thing is so important to you. Why would you want to take on his name having your name differ from your children's not to mention the complications changing it back should your relationship not work. Keep in mind that legally you are considered married after cohabitating as long as you have. If I were you I would settle for being included in his will so that you are taken care of in the future. Especially if you have both contributed to your home, household, investments etc.
As mentioned your comparison is good but there is an element that indicates that it could end abruptly so you may want to consider the legal aspects that count regarding property etc instead of whether or not you have the same last name.
His chart shows evidence of sorrow when it comes to relationships and that he can swivel rapidly when it comes to his affections. To force this man to marry would probably be the beginning of the end so if I were you I wouldn't go there.
I don't believe his kids at this stage of the game have the right to dictate what he does with his life and that he is only using how they feel as tool to back out of the marriage.
If you truly love this man, and it appears you do, I would be more inclined to leave well enough alone and enjoy your time together. I believe if you push too hard he will have a change of heart. You know the old saying if something works why fix it.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have this huge problem regarding my sexuality. I think I'm a gay as I like watching handsome guys. This has happened for years and I'm really ashamed. I have no one to talk to. I am really worried about my future and my marriage later. Am I truly a gay? Or is it just a phase. I have tried to build relationships with girls but I keep failing. Please tell me what to do. I'm really confused and tired of struggling all the time. Is this some kind of punishment because I hate my father? For your information, I have never been close to my father since my childhood. I have read magazines that this could make someone a gay. Please help me because I think you're the only person who can help me. I was born August 19, 1981, at 2:00 AM. Thank you very much.
Swimming both ways
Dear Swimming both ways
Your chart does indicate that many of your problems stem from your relationship with your father as well as other factors that were present in your upbringing. You do have your natal Venus, Saturn and Jupiter opposite your natal Moon and this can be extremely confusing regarding your emotions as well as your sexuality. I feel at this point that you are just a late bloomer and that you will change your mind regarding your sexuality many times over the course of the next few years. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and therefore the opportunity to experiment a little should help you move in the direction that is best suited to you. I do feel however that the right partner will help you determine that you are straight not gay.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I love your site; I like the astroguidance and tarotguidance. But I am confused about the chart about my love life. I am sure that will get your interest. Please help.
For over two years, the personalized horoscope, in love life department, it keeps saying: "you must give your partner a chance, this is a period that can make or break your relationship. Learn to compromise will be okay, but push your opinions to your partner and you will be expect to stand alone. You will attract to individuals that are older or younger than you". from that chart, my love life is TERRIBLE since then, I have been chasing the wrong girls and I ended up with my heart shattered. Now recently, I looked up the Astroguidance, by June 7th, it says: "Use flexibility to make things harmonious. Be charming and you will attract people similar to you". So what will the change in my love life? Please help. I was born in 7/19/1982, 1.17 pm.
Astrological Enigma
Dear Astrological Enigma
The reason your chart changed in June was due to a Jupiter transit that creates a high cycle regarding romantic opportunities. This transit is with you until the end of July and you must get out and take advantage of it. Meet, greet and have fun. The reason you have been going through a make it or break it time for so long was due to transiting Saturn moving through your seventh house of relationships. This is usually a difficult time to meet people or if you are with someone it can cause you to face frustration, obstacles or in some cases marriage or marriage breakups etc. Although the Saturn is still gliding through the tail end of your seventh house the worst is over and with the benefit of transiting Jupiter sitting on your natal Venus things should be looking up in the romance department.
Eugenia
