We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have lived with a man for the last 6 years. The first couple of years were really hard and our exes and kids caused some problems. We became engaged last year, after much heated debate about where we were going in our relationship. He then told his oldest daughter, we were not getting married, (his children had a problem with his divorce, even though he had been separated for 15 years) and then told me he didn't want to get into it with her. Well, he has told me recently that he really didn't want to get married, but we have agreed I would take his last name, and he still wanted to buy me a ring. Just recently on a trip home with his daughter (23 years old) he told her that after our trip to Florida he was breaking up with me. The thing is when I confronted him about this he totally denied it and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. So, does he just say things to her so she wont freak out, or is he really lying to me. His birth date is Feb. 28/1955 and mine is September 14, 1971 at 5 AM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison with your Pisces man is good but it does show signs of emotional deception. He probably isn't being completely honest with either one of you. Before I go any further however I have to ask you why the whole marriage thing is so important to you. Why would you want to take on his name having your name differ from your children's not to mention the complications changing it back should your relationship not work. Keep in mind that legally you are considered married after cohabitating as long as you have. If I were you I would settle for being included in his will so that you are taken care of in the future. Especially if you have both contributed to your home, household, investments etc.
As mentioned your comparison is good but there is an element that indicates that it could end abruptly so you may want to consider the legal aspects that count regarding property etc instead of whether or not you have the same last name.
His chart shows evidence of sorrow when it comes to relationships and that he can swivel rapidly when it comes to his affections. To force this man to marry would probably be the beginning of the end so if I were you I wouldn't go there.
I don't believe his kids at this stage of the game have the right to dictate what he does with his life and that he is only using how they feel as tool to back out of the marriage.
If you truly love this man, and it appears you do, I would be more inclined to leave well enough alone and enjoy your time together. I believe if you push too hard he will have a change of heart. You know the old saying if something works why fix it.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
It's taking me forever to type this because I got into a bad motorcycle accident last week. I expect to be in bed for months. Do you see why I have such bad (or good?) luck? What's my outlook for the rest of the year I was born June 5, 1979, at 1:12 am.
Gemini
Dear Gemini
Sorry to hear about your misfortune. Your chart has been extra accident-prone for a while now so it's really no surprise that you are in recovery mode. Your chart isn't that bad just a little careless. Out of all negatives you can find a positive and in your case the positive is that you should be learning over the course of this year and next. Although you may not want to do so it is obvious that you are being pushed in that direction. Being confined to bed can be a good thing if you are surrounded by books, correspondence courses and so forth. You can turn this period into gaining new knowledge and skills that will prepare you for a better future. You are young, the health areas of your chart are relatively clear - you should heal quickly but you must keep in mind that you were born with an aspect in your chart that does make you prone to injury so in the future don't take chances, be more defensive and slow down. There is an element in your chart that denotes that someone in your home is unusual or possibly takes too much medication, alcohol or drugs. If this is affecting you consider what you can do about it. If you have become addictive yourself get help.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Where do I begin, I'm 28 yrs old and have been looking for love. I've been out of a relationship for almost 2 yrs in which I was engaged to be married. This almost tore me apart but somehow I SURVIVED. I still have good and bad days but I think everything happens for a reason which takes me to my next point. I met a gentleman (born: February 21,1971) almost a year ago in which I was very attracted to and we became friends although I long for so much more however I know that his career is his first priority and anything else is on the back burner. I think that coming out of a very long and serious relationship I lack the confidence that I need in order to speak up and express what I feel as I fear rejection and this is what I tend to do with him.
I know that I want more than to be friends, is this something that you see in my future? b/c I don't have the nerve to ask him straight out and I want to know what direction my love life is going if anywhere. I was born July 4, 1975 at 6:45 pm.
Please help!!!
Cancer
Hi Cancer
The comparison with your Pisces friend is okay but he does think like an Aquarius which means that he can be a little detached when it comes to emotional matters. He also has a strong Sagittarius influence and they are usually not all that interested in being tied down. You are very sensitive and the past couple of years you have gone through a difficult period regarding relationships and being able to trust. You are also going through your first Saturn return and this is making you reevaluate your life and what you have done with it up until now. Over the course of the next year you should be making changes that will better suit the direction you see yourself moving in. You did meet your Pisces friend at a good time so I?m not ruling him out but I do feel that you are probably a little more serious regarding your relationship and that you are also ready to start thinking about settling down where he may not have given it a thought as of yet. If you are going to approach him to see how he feels you may want to do so in July of this year. You will be in a high cycle again this fall where finding love is concerned so you have time to see where your current relationship is headed before you start looking for love elsewhere. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
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