We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I was born July 24, 1961 at 12:15 PM and I have been having an affair with a married man for 2 years. He's born November 24, 1959 I don't know what time. I'm also unsure of his wife's birth date. I am absolutely madly in love with this man. He has had numerous affairs and was in fact seeing another lady when he and I first started seeing each other. He stopped seeing her and was only seeing me. He tells me he loves me. I know he's gone to his mother and told her he loves me as well as I have spoken to her several times. A few weeks ago someone, unknown to us, called his place of employment, my place of employment AND his wife and told this little bit of gossip. Our jobs are not in jeopardy but the gossip is of course crazy. I told him he would have to choose between his family and me. It's not possible that we could keep seeing each other with someone knowing who we are and where we work and so on. We live in a very small community! So...this person called his wife two times. She did not tell him at all. She only told him when he went home and told her someone was calling his work place starting gossip. She has not confronted him about this; she has actually just pretended it never happened. They are as normal, which of course is not the best. He says he can't leave her because of his children ages 17, 16, and 13. So as it stands now he and I are finished. My heart is broken. I know this man is not the best man in the world but I love him anyway. I want him so bad it hurts. Will he ever leave her for me? Do I have a hope at all? I know his sign is a good sign for a Leo...please help!!
Leo
Dear Leo
What are you thinking?????? I can't believe you think so little of yourself that you would get involved with a man (mommy's boy) who is obviously a two-timing cheater with little respect for woman.
You are right however about one thing and that is that you do match up to this man but you have to realize that he will never be true to anyone, not you, obviously not his wife, or any other partner he gets involved with. If you can live with him cheating on you go ahead and fight for this unworthy man.
He is a Sagittarius and they are born bachelors. He will never fully commit to anyone. To introduce you to his mother is about as low as he can get. Going behind his wife's back and bringing you into his inner circle is not acceptable. Put yourself in his wife's shoes for just a moment and regardless of whether he matches up to you or her better he should have the courage and decency to end one relationship before getting involved in another.
He is coming into a two to three year Saturn transit that is going to force him to make some changes and one of those changes could very easily be his wife being fed up and moving on (cannot be sure without her birth data). Hopefully this will be the case and you will be able to experience first hand what it is like to be in a committed relationship with a man who has other women in his life. It may just cure you of your need to sleep with other women's husbands.
Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding having the man of your dreams coming back into your life or finding a new lover (which should be your preference) this year. I suspect however that you will wait for him and probably continue to see him when the gossip dies down.
If you really want this man he is easy to get - just pretend you don't want him - it's the chase that turns him on. I expect if you do pursue him that I will be hearing from you again in about a year and a half to two years.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have been in a state of depression that I can't seem to get out of since my Gemini friend (16/6/78) died in a car accident on April 23rd 1999. My depression had lead me into a few problems at work and as a result I have lost my job. I am almost at the point where I could easily give it all up. However there is a nagging feeling in my mind that I know that if I apply myself just that little bit better I can get another job. Studying is another area that is looming in the near future of my life. I hate transitions like this. The future at this stage is so uncertain, when will I receive the stability and the security I know that I deserve? I was born March 15, 1974, at 4:10 PM.
Uncertain
Dear Uncertain
It's always hard to let go of someone we match up to so well but the fact of the matter is that you have way too much going for you to sit back a let life pass you by. Your chart indicates that it's time to get moving once again. You are coming into a high cycle regarding work over the course of the next couple of years. Your first career opportunity will be present mid May however it is a very short window. Beginning in August you will have better professional opportunities that will remain with you throughout next year. You may find that learning on the job will be just as favorable for you and if you can land an apprenticeship that would be even better. Love and romance will also be better for you this year and next. Life is beginning to pick up for you and it will be important that you strive to reach your highest potential. Your friend would want nothing less than the best for you however man's own will determines his destiny so it's up to you to make the changes and the moves that are necessary to bring you happiness and satisfaction.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
First of all let me say that I think you are wonderful to provide the services that you do. I love being able to check on things for myself every day. I know there are many people out there that need your advice so if my letter doesn't get chosen I thank you anyway. I could really use your help though. I am a 43yr old Pisces born 2/23/57 @10:33pm in St. Petersburg FL and I have fallen head over heels for a fellow Pisces born 3/15/50 in Fayetteville NC. We get along great most of the time, but occasionally we really rub each other the wrong way. My man makes it clear that he doesn't want a serious relationship. He has been through some really horrible past as have I which tends to make both of us rather skittish of emotions. We have been involved for the last 7 months(although if you ask him he'd tell you he's not involved with anyone). He has always been a real Romeo, but hasn't been with anyone but me since this all started. Sorry to ramble so, I just want you to understand it all.
He and I had a falling out last week and I haven't heard from him since then. I have seen him a couple of times because he showed up at the same places where I was out with friends. I just need to know will we get past this rough spot? I really feel that I have finally found my soul mate, but he has such deep seated issues from his past relationships I don't know how to get through to him sometimes. I really care for this man and only want what's best for him. Of course I have to admit I think that's me. How do I get through to him? Will we get past this recent falling out? Should I make overtures to make things better or am I just fooling myself? Everything I have checked out on your site says we are compatible, but I am really at a loss as to how to proceed. I could really use your advice. I'm not asking if you think we should continue. I know we should. It's just how to get there and overcome these obstacles that I need help on. Thanks for reading all of this. I truly appreciate it.
Yours truly,
Pisces in a Pickle
Dear Pisces in a Pickle
I hate to backtrack but the comparison between you and your Pisces friend is only adequate. Now this does not mean that it can't work but it will take plenty of effort on both your part and his. You are both sensitive and tend to back away from issues that you don't feel comfortable discussing. I suggest that you rectify your problems quickly by talking it through before it gets blown out of proportion. It's obvious that he still cares or he wouldn't show up in places that you are likely to be. Your chart indicates that you are going through a make it or break it period in your relationship. It is important to decide if you want to be with him or not and make it so. Your chart also denotes that you will be in a high cycle for love and relationships next year so don't feel that this is your last chance for love. You have plenty to offer and will match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn as well as another Pisces. I must caution however that with the planets Jupiter and Saturn slowly moving into the sign Gemini over the next year you may find it difficult for you and your Pisces friend to agree.
Eugenia
